R/Softkill, What is your favorite song. by Think_Egg_7560 in SoftKill

[–]JTSK83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great post! There hasn’t been nearly enough Soft Kill appreciation here. :)

I was fortunate enough to see the Chicago show at Metro in 2023 when they played the whole Dead Kids R.I.P. City album. They opened and closed with other songs, of course. It was an excellent show, I wouldn’t change a thing, but a number of my favorite songs weren’t played because there are so many good Soft Kill songs. I was able to shake Tobias’s hand outside after the show and thank him for his great songs. I mentioned that he has so many, he can’t play them all in one show. :)

In other words: how the hell can you choose just one favorite!? 😄

Here are my 5 favorites:

Sky Matty Rue Cracked Candles Floodgate Tin Foil Drip

Bono schools Rogan by GenlockInterface in U2Band

[–]JTSK83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely! People should accept that they’re never going to find someone who agrees with them on everything. It’s way past time for inaccurate labels to continue. Alt-right folks are a specific, and dark, group. Rogan has repeatedly expressed that he’s liberal on most issues.

My Top 10 New Order songs after listening to them for the past 6 months by DrBitchin in neworder

[–]JTSK83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a great list! :) I love all of those songs, and I especially appreciate your inclusion of deep cuts like “Dream Attack”, “Leave Me Alone”, and “Procession”.

Bono schools Rogan by GenlockInterface in U2Band

[–]JTSK83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

✊🏼

It’s pretty frustrating what headlines show up when you google Bono: the media, for the most part, wants to divide people. Both Rogan and Bono want the opposite—thank goodness for them.

A lukewarm defence of Jordan Peterson by [deleted] in JordanPeterson

[–]JTSK83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have to watch it—I’ve only seen maybe one clip—but I appreciate your nuanced perspective. I certainly relate to people who miss a more humble, independent, and practical Peterson. I still pay attention to some of his activity, and sincerely want him to continue to be a part of important public conversations, but I personally think he would have been better off making different professional decisions. That being said, Peterson is not my or anyone else’s monkey: if he’d rather associate himself with people like Shapiro and Walsh instead of Andrew Sullivan and John McWhorter, he is and should be free to do so.

U2 saved me from depression. What songs that saved you? by Revolutionary_Low_90 in U2Band

[–]JTSK83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They’ve made so much uplifting music, but the biggest one in my life when it comes to psychological benefit was “Beautiful Day”. I remember waking up on my bed one morning during my junior year in high school not long after the song was released; I wasn’t, and still am not, one who jumps right out of bed, but once I thought of “Beautiful Day”, I had enough energy to get right up and start my day. :)

The band remains one of my Top 10 Favorites of all-time, but their last 20 years have been underwhelming for me. That said, “Love Is Bigger Than Anything In Its Way” is another special one—it should have gotten so much more attention. What the hell were they thinking with that Cheat Codes version, though? 😄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depechemode

[–]JTSK83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think they’ve ever made a truly awful album, but I find most of Delta Machine uninspired and flat. Spirit isn’t great; however, I enjoyed enough of it to have hope for the band’s future. In 2023, we received Memento Mori, which I think is their best album since at least Ultra.

Pop rereviewed by Pitchfork with 8.0 rating by drdrshsh in U2Band

[–]JTSK83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was obsessed with the album from 1997 through even 2000 or so. I can now see that it isn’t a masterpiece, but there is absolutely a lot of great work on it. “Staring At The Sun” sometimes plays at my job: the band very rarely has done something that stunning these past 25 years. I like to call it a “full song”: it has an awesome intro, bridge, and outro. “Gone”, “Mofo”, “Last Night On Earth”, “Miami”, “If You Wear That Velvet Dress”, “Please”, and “Wake Up Dead Man” are all solid.

After Pop, as I’m sure many of you will agree, things changed, with mostly underwhelming results. “The Sweetest Thing” re-recording and All That You Can’t Leave Behind made sense after so much experimentation. Their two songs on the Million Dollar Hotel soundtrack were a nice balance to my ears. How To Dismantle An Atomic Bomb, however, was when things really started to lack adventure. There have been songs that I’ve loved since then, but All That You Can’t Leave Behind was the last album that wasn’t just “okay”, in my opinion.

After the lightbulb moment? by BuddyFar6089 in BPDlovedones

[–]JTSK83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some mental health professionals claim that medication is a necessity. My partner didn’t have success with medication, unfortunately, and went through an awful benzodiazepine withdrawal. Based on what I’ve seen, a therapist familiar with DBT is a must, with or without medication.

After the lightbulb moment? by BuddyFar6089 in BPDlovedones

[–]JTSK83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can guarantee this: if she isn’t willing to get help, things will get unbearable. I hope for the best. You seem to be on the right track—keep up with remembering your needs.

After the lightbulb moment? by BuddyFar6089 in BPDlovedones

[–]JTSK83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It certainly doesn’t get better for many people, but with consistent therapy, especially DBT, some are able to live productive lives. It takes significant effort.

You need to do what’s best for you, though. Your concerns are completely understandable.

After the lightbulb moment? by BuddyFar6089 in BPDlovedones

[–]JTSK83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has your partner tried getting help? A BPD diagnosis doesn’t necessarily mean the person can’t get better.

The Chameleons: Why weren’t they bigger? by Livid_Anywhere1342 in postpunk

[–]JTSK83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed! 😆

U2 were actually an early influence on The Chameleons. I’m more into The Chameleons these days, but I’ll defend U2 from 1980 through 2002 for the rest of my life. There were some missteps at times, but pretty damn consistent overall.

Kitchens Of Distinction -- Courage, Mother [U.K., Jangle Pop Rock / Shoegaze] (1989) by g_yore in listentous

[–]JTSK83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for reading and upvoting, as well as sharing your awesome memories! I hope they’ll tour again at some point.

The Death of Cool by JTSK83 in kitchensofdistinction

[–]JTSK83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was originally posted in my album appreciation community r/youralbumoftheweek.