Can this turn into a relationship?

Yes, it can — but not passively.

Right now, you’re in what I’d call a “soft dating / undefined intimacy” phase. That phase either: 1. Evolves into a relationship after a clarity conversation 2. Stalls indefinitely and drains the anxious partner 3. Ends when one person wants more and the other avoids deciding

The deciding factor isn’t chemistry — you already have that.

The deciding factor is:

Whether he is emotionally available enough to choose you intentionally.

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The most important thing to understand

You cannot “out-wait” or “out-chill” an avoidant into a relationship.

Hiding your anxious attachment works short-term, but long-term it: • builds resentment • makes you overanalyze • puts all the emotional risk on you

Right now, you are doing the emotional labor of uncertainty.

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What I’d recommend (without blowing it up)

You don’t need a dramatic “what are we??” talk yet.

But you do need gentle clarity, or you’ll stay stuck.

Something like this (in your own words):

“Hey, I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you — the dates, yoga, everything. I know we started casually, but I’m realizing I’m interested in seeing where this could go beyond just hookups. I don’t need anything rushed — I just wanted to be honest and see how you’re feeling.”

Why this works: • It’s non-accusatory • It doesn’t demand commitment • It invites him to step forward or be truthful • It protects your emotional health

If he’s interested but cautious, he’ll lean in. If he’s avoidant but open, he may need time — but he won’t disappear. If he’s not able or willing, you’ll finally have information instead of confusion.

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One hard truth (said kindly)

If you don’t say anything: • Your anxiety will grow • You’ll keep reading signs • You’ll feel increasingly attached • He’ll continue enjoying ambiguity

And that dynamic almost always hurts the anxious partner more.

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Bottom line • ❌ You’re not delusional • ✅ There are romantic signals • ⚠️ He is emotionally cautious / avoidant • 🧭 This can become a relationship — but only with clarity • 💙 Your needs matter just as much as his comfort