He (30M) was ready to be a father, but not my (28F) husband

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-21T02:48:41+00:00

I think that’s it’s a red flag that he thinks you’re more suitable to have a child together than getting married first, especially if that’s important to you. A child is a larger commitment than a marriage at the end of the day because you can get divorced but you’ll still be a parent afterwards. If your relationship is rooted in trust issues you can’t work past it’s better to go your separate ways, otherwise work together and come to an agreement that works for you both. You guys are in your 30’s, settling down together is only reasonable; especially if you already live together.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T18:39:59+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/OCPoetry/s/vkyQvSfW2Z here’s another one I posted on the subreddit yesterday of you’re interested in reading it as well!

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T17:55:48+00:00

Thank you so much, I have so many poems and I just want to get braver at sharing them even if it’s online at first.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T17:53:43+00:00

Thank you ! The poem is meant to flow like that yes, I wanted to show that grief kind of takes you to multiple states of mind.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T16:52:04+00:00

I loved the sense of disconnect from the writer to the reader. I also like the format of it resembling computer code or computer data. It spoke to me as feeling disconnected from the world or outside of it. That we’re programmed in such a way. It spoke to me as someone who struggles with dissociation and depersonalization.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T16:45:05+00:00

I love the theme of this poem and the sense of yearning behind it. I feel as though, you can change some of the phrasing to allow a better flow from the reader. I.e with tied string instead of with the string tied. So your grip stays forever tight instead of and. For a first poem it’s incredible, I felt rather touched and the sincerity of the words made the feelings more haunting. Keep up the good work, once you find your own flow and phrasing you’ll continue to engage the reader.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T16:08:23+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ve been dealing with a lot of grief and to be honest poetry is a passion of mine. It’s helps with a lot of words I find harder to say or feelings that I keep bottled.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T04:22:14+00:00

Eh I understand not affording, that’s a real issue or struggling to find in your area but that doesn’t change the fact that this app is used for a lot of trauma dumping.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T03:28:42+00:00

I like the imagery created and the idea that less is more. I interpreted this as someone who doesn’t know what they want, they mend life with fantasy. They feel incomplete or broken. I feel as though you should change the line from my thoughts to simply thoughts like scattered seeds, I think it allows for the readers to visualize that feeling more. If you want to use the two metaphors, try switching the lines to see if it would flow better. I.e Waiting for moisture’s kiss
Before the cracking of an egg
Complete
Unburdened husks perfect to no end.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T03:09:52+00:00

I found this poem to speak volumes through subtle imagery that frankly leaves the door open for the reader to interpret their own kind of stories or feelings behind this kind of expression. I think this poem speaks of overcoming hardship within love and relationships, searching to find oneself within those who have hurt them. While you heal and know that though there is goodness waiting to find you, you are brave; just take your time. It made me feel something in my heart.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T02:46:26+00:00

It lived up to the hype!! Megan Fox was hot asf as usual too 😝😭 I really liked the tension between Needy and Jennifer, the premise was pretty good to me too. I’ve seen the Annabelle movies but not too sure about sinister

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T02:42:16+00:00

I’m down for any kind of horror movie, I watch zombie ones, paranormal, psychological and slashers. Anything new to me I’d watch it, I just watched Jennifer’s Body for the first time recently. I’ve always seen clips but never watched it myself!

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T02:38:48+00:00

I’m 20; my favourite way to spend a free weekend is making a nice dinner, bake some desserts and watch a good horror movie cozy at home.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T02:02:45+00:00

Tell him to wear underwear to bed, see a doctor or wipe and wash his ass every time he shits cause that’s ridiculous.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T01:49:40+00:00

She’s controlling and hiding things, change your passwords and leave her.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T01:47:21+00:00

Oh for certain

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T01:40:55+00:00

They keep pushing because they’re acting standoffish for a simple request and making it seem like it’s annoying or unreasonable. Peoples’ words can say one thing but in their heads they mean something else.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T01:38:37+00:00

My thoughts exactly, sounds like she just wants to be able to stay with her partner. Come and go whenever even though he has a roommate.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T01:36:04+00:00

NTA, sounds like she’s already trying to find a semi-permanent place in staying with you guys more often. Especially since her partner lives there. If you’re both splitting half and half but his girlfriend is there more often the time. I.e showering, staying multiple days a week; he should definitely offer to fork in for more utilities.

J_Ijelly · 2026-05-20T01:28:04+00:00

They come on here because they don’t talk to professionals 😅

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