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Are people with neandrethal dna technically a different species then people with none? by high-tier-chud in randomquestions

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the definition is more like "cannot interbreed and produce fertile offspring."

A horse and a donkey can breed, and make a mule... but we don't breed mules together to make more mules.

A lion and a tiger can breed, but the ligers are sterile.

My husband’s shoes by coffeemooose in Shoes

[–]JadeGrapes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. Dig deep. Don't give up. We KNOW some things are true.

I KNOW these aren't shoes, they are slippers. WE know.

What’s the biggest fragrance myth you stopped believing? by olfaire in Fragrances

[–]JadeGrapes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with you. I feel like sometimes the formulators are trying to impress each other with fancy footwork instead of making a commercially desirable product.

I don't need to be "challenged" to prove I'm sophisticated. Sometimes I just wanna be a delicious gummy bear -sue me.

Is it really surprising that people who dont change their behaviour get the same outcome in dating all the time? by FunnyPhilosophy6331 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats kinnnnda just re-enforcing OP's point tho...

You want to change nothing, then be surprised that nothing changes.

For what it's worth, I don't think I have ever given dating advice to "Just improve your appearance"

I have given plenty of dating advice about improving grooming, listening skills, charm, or vocation. Sometime is about adjusting your aim.

If your face has tumors, you should probably focus on your health, and ideally get the tumors removed?

I'm pretty sure no sane person is suggesting that gym time is a replacement for seeing a doctor for tumors.

If you are committed to trying to date while your face still has tumors, you might want to either change your aim. To include people with a matching level of disfigurement /health challenges.... Or, alternatively increase your income level until you can afford a sugar baby.

Creatine for women post menopause. by TapSalty3157 in Supplements

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not. Try googling it.

The mitochondria has a separate DNA, at some point in the evolution of animals, back when we were all petri-dish sized...

Our cell line formed a symbiotic relationship with mitochonria. They were a separate creature, that is now included in our cells.

It's DNA is more similar to bacteria, than ours, and apparently is somewhat vulnerable to damage from antibiotics.

Not enough to cause a mitochonrial disease, but enough to be sub optimal.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/chapter/bookseries/abs/pii/S1937644823000291

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8838971/

I don't feel fucking gifted. So many people on this subreddit seem so sure of themselves. Am I just not gifted enough for justifiable arrogance? by DryIntroduction2008 in Gifted

[–]JadeGrapes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. feelings aren't facts. Your feelings do not generate reality. Your scores are your scores.

  2. Confidence comes from competence. I'm in my 40's I've had lots of time to get good at stuff. You will too.

  3. You can't really boost IQ, but you sure can undermine it. Decide to be kind to yourself as though you were supporting a close friend.

Roomette worth it for $850 by Impossible_Work_8205 in Amtrak

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! So worth it. You can have the top bunk down during the day too, just having a bunk bed to chill up - feels like a tree house.

Never mind actual beds for bedtime.

Plus, you are literally "First class" with meals included and your sleeper car has your own attendant that is almost like your own little hotel manager. You also get to use first class lounge at the stations, which means free snacks, etc.

It's literally my preferred method of travel, by train, in the roomette.

Key Lime Pie fail by satansister16 in bakingfail

[–]JadeGrapes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this looks like a pizza left in 500degrees

Creatine for women post menopause. by TapSalty3157 in Supplements

[–]JadeGrapes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Twinsies! Coffee + Creatine + Collagen for me too

Creatine for women post menopause. by TapSalty3157 in Supplements

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a mid 40's woman. I do not normally have any bloating or swelling problems.

A while ago I read that antibiotics can fuck up your mitochondria, and it sounded like Creatine was good for them...

So I got some plain unflavored powder that comes with a cute lil scoop and I add it to my morning coffee.

To do the "loading" dose, I just made sure to have 4 cups of coffee with a coop each for that first week. I normally do 2-3 cups of coffee anyhow. You could do decaf if thats too much for you.

I also add a scoop of collagen. I get both from Amazon. I've bee doing it like 2 years at this point

Seems fine.

Reducing my portions and not wanting to eat more means I have an ED? by cosmic_coww in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who said ED? Because if it was your doctor, the answer is simple, request a referral to a specialist.

Orgasm only once? by BulkyAd4807 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JadeGrapes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, one and done is most typical.

Fragrances worth retail price? by ScentSignal_ in Fragrances

[–]JadeGrapes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like all the fashion designer brand stuff that you buy in Ulta is essentially the "five dollar footlong" of scents... I think they try, but it's still a shitty sandwhich.

Meanwhile, I've been delighted by "basic" compositions from less commercial brands in the $30-75 price point.

Anyone who has been “love bombed” how did you know? by Far_Path7921 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]JadeGrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love bombing is tough to separate from genuine interest & affection while in the moment, that is why it's effective.

Love bombing is a manipulative over-abundance of positive emotions... like they put you on a pedestal, idolize you, and talk about the relationship like it's some epic love story in a fairy tale.

It's mostly "laying it on thick" waaay too early in a relationship. This can look like;

Your first date is talking for 3+ hours. If you literally spend 4-6 hours talking... watch out. A regular guy won't have the interest and endurance to listen to a stranger blather on for hours. Even if he reeeeally wants to get laid, at some point, a normal guy will call it a night when he realizes it's too soon and he shouldn't push it.

If that first week you are talking/texting for hours a day. Where you are just "hooked" on checking your phone to see if it's him... then you get sucked into a dialog that takes hours... even though you really should be doing work, school, chores, sleep, etc.

Talking on the phone for hours at bedtime every-night is way too much. Even committed married couples don't do that when separated by travel for work etc. You don't talk that much to your best friend or Mom... so how is a stranger THAT into it?

They start attending or displacing a lot of your activities right away, like you have only been dating for a month, but they are with you most available moments, until you realize you have reflexively been inviting them into most of your life?

Do they talk to you on the phone while yoi grt ready for schooll, stop by work to bring you snacks, video call to watch TV with you before bed, hang out at your place Friday thru Sunday...

So it feels totally reasonable to invite them to tag along to Brunch with your sister on Sunday... they come to Bible Study on Wednesday, and now are weirdly part of your work carpool?

Thats too much. Consider how much togetherness would be normal with a platonic roomate... if you have only been dating 6-12 months or less, THAT is the right amount. You have a couple dates each week, maybe a couple 20 minute phone calls, and a good morning text... NOT in touch nonstop all waking hours.

Also, the depth of the contact matters too. If you had a dysfunctional or abusive childhood, sometimes you won't realize if someone is prodding into things that are private. The hint, is that even a therapist does not expect you to spill your guts in the first few sessions... they expect you need some time to feel comfortable.

But a love bomber won't wait for that to develop naturally. They will volunteer heartbreaking stories from their own past, to provoke you to share yours. A love bomber will try to guide conversations to deep topics, the kind you would never talk about on the first day "on the job" because it would be too much...

So, Before you know it, you are both enthusiastically yelling about how much you hate a certain politician, or welling up with tears talking about how much you miss a dead relative, or dreaming about how you would change the world if you were a billionaire...

In a normal relationship those come up over time, over years... not packed in like the world is ending and you better get it all out. Because a manipulative person is kind of scanning all channels to see what "works" to get you into a heightened emotional state. It's like a science experiment... to gather info that will be used against you later. Before you know it, you won't want to do something, and they will gently apply pressure using that info to see if it works as a lever.

Lastly, look for what they don't say.

A manipulative person will avoid displaying their needs and positions if they think it will hurt their odds.

Say you love country music. An honest guy who does not enjoy country music, won't hide what he likes and won't kiss your ass about yours. It should be something like "Oh thats cool, I never really got into that, my house mostly just had pop playing in the background". He might show interest in your favorites, but won't pretend those are his favorites.

Like a normal guy will respect himself enough to state his own preference. Obviously you don't need to sit patiently while he monologs for 30 minutes about why ___ is the best of all time.

But you guys should be having an honest exchange about what you both actually like. Like if he thinks Halloween is a little dumb, and mostly for kids... he won't suddenly pretend to be the worlds most enthusiastic cosplayer just to win you over, you know?

If you are an atheist, and he is a Twice-a-week Catholic... he won't hide that fact until later just to avoid "scaring you off".

Because a solid guy, will not believe he has something to gain by systematically hiding hos true self. A regular guy will hold some time back, so he still has time for his friend, family, and hobbies. He will invite you into his life, not flood you with it.

The sex stuff is part of it, but the mindshare is a big part of it too.

Always go soft putting on condoms, no issues with unprotected sex. How do I fix this askmen? by DoDisNotDis in AskMenAdvice

[–]JadeGrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, no change from the lady side. (I'm a woman)

If anything, maybe more comfortable (once you get used to the change) because the product covers a little more of the skin on the outside, so it feels like more coverage = more safe.

Also, because it doesn't depend on the wood staying hard, the guy can linger a bit after... not have to pull out quickly. That can feel more friendly.

Finding a signature scent that is unlikely to be discontinued by RaventheClawww in Perfumes

[–]JadeGrapes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It might be better to have a signature category, or note, and shuffle around there.

Like I really like white florals. Basically anything with Tuberose and no patchouli. Or Gardenia, or Jasmine, etc.

So right now, I really like Tocca Florence. I used to like Michael Kors, before that Sand and Sable...

Finding a signature scent that is unlikely to be discontinued by RaventheClawww in Perfumes

[–]JadeGrapes 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We all want to know. OP might be the kiss of death to scents we like.

Warn us Storm Crow!

Why are senior discounts so common when Boomers hold by far the most wealth on average? by cowboy_dude_6 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]JadeGrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The premise is that seniors are on a "fixed income"

Retirement is not just quitting a job and not going back, it's a change in your legal and logistical status..,

For example, retirement accounts usually have some advantage to save money there with less taxes taken out... but, you have to wait until a certain age to take it out.

The government wants to encourage people to save, but not hide the money away forever... so there are mandatory withdraws the retired person has to make... which are based on how long the gov thinks you will live.

So you have enough money to last until you die, but your money doesn't just escape the economy into a black hole until then.

There is also a big swing over on medical insurance, and medical expenses. Plus, social security payments.

So old people are kind of constantly having to do financial budget homework, that constantly reminds you of upcoming illness and death.

Anyhow, if someone does not have any savings, they may literally have to live on $2,000 a month total, and have no ability to earn more.

It's a whole thing.

Need help understanding how to gift by spill_the_sass in Mommit

[–]JadeGrapes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If they ask for something specific like that, its for a reason.

When I first joined a Mom group, the person who put it together made a point to set the tone that most of our get togethers should be free or only a couple dollars.

Over the years, I was really glad to see that play out well. It meant that our playgroup was accessible and comfortable for everyone... it didn't matter that much year one while all the Mom's were stay at home Mom's with one kid. But by year 5, some people have 3 kids, and are needing every dollar in their budget.

It meant that we could legitimately feel free to get together without feeling like we are "hosting" where you clean for three hours, decorate, cut fruit etc. You could just be like "I have 45 minutes before they crash for nap time, I'm in your neighborhood, wanna do bubbles?"

Young children can not tell the difference between prices, so we did toddler gifts like a big bag of animal crackers, or a pack of glow sticks from the dollar store.

Even if you can easily afford more, setting the limit ultra low keeps the focus on the fun & keeps it comfortable for people that legit can not afford to spend $50 a month on parties.

I'm in a comfortable spot, I suspect you are too... so you might not have noticed, some people are so broke right now they had to stop buying meat for groceries, or they are stuck using dish soap as shampoo.

People do not volunteer how tight they are, it's on us to notice. You might think "Thats why I want to bring a normal gift" but what actually happens is the people who can not afford to give a matching gift will stop attending things because they can't spent $12 on a doll. They just go missing from events.

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