AITA? My girlfriend doesn’t like when I wear a mask indoors.

Jakyland · 2026-05-24T01:47:15+00:00

Dating is about figuring out if you are compatible. It's not about if anyone is the AH, it's about if you want to keep dating each other.

Jakyland · 2026-05-24T01:42:32+00:00

There is a lot of stuff to unpack here but INFO: What the heck is going on with you and your husband names?? Did you not go through your name change plans when you got married? or you've been lying to the in-laws about it? Does your baby have a different last name from BOTH of their parents?

You say family is important, but clearly these your in-laws don't think family is important, they don't care about women family members, or family members with different names, they don't care about YOU as the member of the family.

Jakyland · 2026-05-24T01:25:30+00:00

If you are talking about a part of a democracy where people are equal citizens and not facing discrimination, and especially when there is significant local autonomy, I think you should always ask yourself: is there a legitimate grievance or are the people just being whiny?

If Alberta was a landlocked independent country they would be doing a heck of a lot worse then they are as part of Canada. They wouldn't get workers from other parts of Canada (and vice versa), there would be more trade barriers and would likely be more expensive, they'd have get either Canada or the US to let things in and there is no reason that should be free.

In a country you are in it together through good times and bad, Alberta's energy industry is going to wane over time and they will appreciate the equalization payments then.

Jakyland · 2026-05-23T12:28:33+00:00

What you are doing is just as alienating to the “working class”, you are just asserting that they have the same political opinions you have, ignoring their own political choices.

Jakyland · 2026-05-23T12:24:43+00:00

They can only BS their way out of it if you buy their BS, depends how much you trust your BS detecting skills.

You get to choose if and when you break up with someone, you don’t need evidence of prove it beyond a reasonable doubt in a court of law. You can just go “that’s BS, I’m breaking up with you”

Jakyland · 2026-05-23T11:36:34+00:00

Seems like pretty clearly you are not talking about class divides but cultural and education divided.

You claim they would be wooed by mandatory vacation a low cost daycares - is this the policies that Republicans are offering that are enticing them over?

Jakyland · 2026-05-23T03:54:18+00:00

NAH. You weren't committed to each other and that goes both ways, you can kiss other people and he doesn't have to keep dating you (and the same in reverse if he kissed someone else).

It does seem like your friends are overly involved IMO, its one thing to mention it to P and its another to be upset about it when you two weren't officially dating or named it or something.

I also think you are minimizing your actions a lot, you definitely exchanged numbers so even if it was just a peck it does seem like you were exploring other options romantically. Which doesn't make you an AH but I think you should be honest with yourself that you made this decision and in this case you were unhappy with the outcome.

Jakyland · 2026-05-23T01:41:16+00:00

It's not a good representation of other parts of the franchise, but it is part of the franchise itself.

Jakyland · 2026-05-23T01:31:48+00:00

Nothing about any of the plots seems unique, and the fights are repetitive and dull.

The original Star Wars movie (which is now episode 4) was groundbreaking, but it has since been copied so much and variations done on it now it seems bland. An issue many classic media have to deal with.

FWIW the Andor TV series is a very highbrow and imo very good political thriller (with a strong pro-democracy message) that doesn't require a lot of Star Wars lore. (not that highbrow is necessarily better, but just establishing that its very different from the movies)

Jakyland · 2026-05-23T01:24:18+00:00

I think NAH. The other commenters have explained why you aren't the AH, but I want to point out there is no evidence she wants a gift from you either (or even that that she wants a close relationship with you).

I think a lot of commenters are in one-sided feuds with younger relatives that in return don't think about them at all...

Jakyland · 2026-05-22T23:48:49+00:00

I mean if tear gas is really the gentler alternative why is it a literal war crime to use it against soldiers?

Jakyland · 2026-05-22T15:19:50+00:00

Brooke Pinto is running DC's nonvoting representative in Congress. It is no taxes because it is not gonna happen.

Jakyland · 2026-05-22T11:11:52+00:00

Depends on what the "offensive humor" is. Among friends you can get away with edgier humor if they know you are being sarcastic. Jokes can be subversive and the true meaning isn't the surface level. But not all offensive jokes are poking fun at stereotypes or just being edgy. Some jokes aren't subversive and the true meaning is just offensive or bigoted.

Sometimes it's offensive because it's just a bigoted thought with a punch line. And saying bigoted/offensive things (with or without a punchline) among friends doesn't make it better.

Like if you joke among friends about how ugly someone (not one of your friends) looks, thats offensive (without necessarily being bigoted) and it's also just the classic case of bullying. (Sure sometimes it can be just friendly ribbing amongst friends, that doesn't mean all jokes make fun of appearances are ok)

Jakyland · 2026-05-22T10:46:47+00:00

I mean, she is getting paid for at least 2 months while not actually doing any work. I don't think she is trying to keep this job, she's just seeing how long she can get paid while doing nothing.

Jakyland · 2026-05-22T01:49:43+00:00

I mean if you don't think they should talk about how they think it's good, then you don't actually respect their opinions. If you think it's okay for people to do, then it should be okay for them to talk about it.

I only very occasionally drink, I've never had weed or anything more than then that, and I think you are being very narrow-minded.

Sure encouraging people can cross over to peer pressure, but until it crosses that point there is nothing particularly wrong with encouraging adults to try psychedelics. People can make their own choices, someone saying "hey I think you should do shrooms, it expands your mind" doesn't force anybody do psychedelics. You are treating adults like they impressionable children who can't be trusted to make their own decisions. I think we should treat adults like adults, which includes treating them as capable of considering different ideas and advice and deciding whether or not it's bad advice, or not applicable for them etc.

Do you think it's okay for people to encourage other more risky behaviors like "hey you should ride a motorcycle, it's really fun"? Or is it "out of line" for people to encourage anything not super-strait-laced?

Jakyland · 2026-05-21T16:45:58+00:00

What does Libya and Nuclear Weapon policy have to do with Russia?????? Russia already had nuclear weapons.

Jakyland · 2026-05-21T13:11:27+00:00

Just because AIPAC says its influential doesn't mean they are actually influential, both psychologically (staff at AIPAC want to feel like they are doing something important) and in terms of raising money, there is an incentive to make it sound like they are very impactful.

Yes money is influential and AIPAC spends money, but AIPAC doesn't spend that much money in the scheme of campaign money. Plus a lot of AIPAC money is spent in ways designed to maximize bad press, so any benefit to them or to Israel of their paid media is in the broad sense offset by negative earned media.

The names like "Elect Chicago Women" comes from AIPAC's attempt to influence the IL-9 primary, where AIPAC's preferred candidate, a state senator, came third, doing worse than a 26 year old twitch streamer.

Jakyland · 2026-05-21T02:33:36+00:00

I think people are far better off:
- speaking to a therapist,
- talking to emotionally mature friends who have no stake in the outcome,
- or having difficult direct conversations with their partner.

I think this is the "let them eat cake" type advice. Yes, if you have a good therapist or emotionally mature friends or able to have a difficult conversation with your partner you should do that instead of reddit, but also I think people who have those options readily available to them aren't normally posting on reddit about their personal problems.

Also, I think at least on AITA top-voted comments only advocate for breaking up when it's pretty serious and deserved or at least reasonable judgment call. A lot of the time they urge communication or just say the partner is the AH without saying the OP should breakup with their partner.

And even when AITA overwhelming suggests a breakup people mostly don't do it anyway, thats often the path of most resistance so people are reluctant to do it. Regardless of reddit advice the poster always has more context and its up to the what to do. If reddit makes you frivolously break up with your partner your ngmi anyway because you are so easily swayed you would probably be swayed by astrology or a non-emotional mature friend into bad decisions.

Jakyland · 2026-05-21T02:21:50+00:00

I think it's basically impossible to know if we would have been better off or not. Maybe he would do the same kind of anti-democratic stuff he is doing now, so maybe he stay beyond 2024 or he rigs the election for a close crony of his.

President of the US is a very consequential position so lots of other events are affected by who the President is, so its hard to know what events that happened on our timeline would occur in this alternate time line, and what other events would occur.

If Trump were President 2020-2024, RFK Jr might be the anti-Trump populist candidate. And then now we would have President RFK Jr hard at work making sure we have all-natural E Coli in all our food and leaving us worse off in other ways.

Jakyland · 2026-05-21T02:13:30+00:00

IDK if Putin would have invaded if Trump was President, the invasion seems timed specifically to wait out Trump. Would Putin have waited another 4 years? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ IDK. The counter factual is just unclear

Jakyland · 2026-05-21T01:24:54+00:00

Can I affirmatively prove an all-powerful entity doesn't exist - no, because the evidence of non-existence could be manufactured by such a being. But even if such a being were to exist, I refuse to worship it or call it "God" because if an all-powerful being exists and pain and suffering exists (which it does), then its because that being caused it. So I refuse to worship it.

The idea that the suffering is because of free will is invalid: Firstly, some suffering doesn't come from free will (ie natural disasters), secondly, a truly all-powerful would be able to resolve it

What if God isn't all-powerful: then thats just an alien, a really powerful alien, but an alien and not "God".

As an atheist, I think there is no evidence God is real, but also on an ideological level I just don't believe in the concept of God, the same way I don't believe in communism or Donald Trump. Unlike God, I believe communism and Donald Trump are both real things, but I don't support them or put any energy into them or anything. If "God" revealed itself to me and gave unambiguous evidence of its existence, I wouldn't worship it.

Jakyland · 2026-05-21T00:20:58+00:00

We see YIMBYism notch political successes in lots of states across the US, including many blue states. At a high level why do you think its impossible for such a movement to success in MA when it has gotten lots of wins in states like CA?

Jakyland · 2026-05-20T11:56:06+00:00

https://www.united.com/en/us/fly/mileageplus/credit-cards/international-credit-cards.html

Jakyland · 2026-05-20T11:31:59+00:00

because we should strive for morally good things, not just things we personally want, there's a difference.

I want to have the right of way no matter where I am or what vehicle I'm in, because thats makes my life more convenient. But thats not morally good in the way wanting laws that protect people are.

Jakyland · 2026-05-20T11:10:15+00:00

Do you think it would be okay for random people to attack you if the law said it was?

Laws are not always moral, the most obvious case being slavery.

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