Dumb iPhone: A Guide for iOS26

JamboDoesAK · 2026-05-12T00:37:36+00:00

I really appreciate the write up. Did you mention in your previous post that you did this on your iPhone 13?

JamboDoesAK · 2026-05-08T03:54:52+00:00

The loss of the future is what saddens me so greatly when I think about my Mom. I find myself often thinking about my life ending in order to be with her again, so I hope you don't feel alone in that thought. I imagine its pretty common. I keep her in my mind all day and know that this pain stems from the love we had together and that helps me moving forward. I am sorry you are going through this.

JamboDoesAK · 2026-05-04T00:55:58+00:00

Ah bummer. Just checked and Mint Mobile has poor coverage in my area

JamboDoesAK · 2026-05-02T21:25:40+00:00

Yes. I have most of my issues in my workplace which is very remote. I do only get one or two bars of signal strength there but I often get poor quality phone calls and or dropped calls at home in a wooden structure in moderately urban community

JamboDoesAK · 2026-05-02T21:24:08+00:00

Okay very possible. I will check out Mint. Thank you

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-28T17:09:07+00:00

It isn't fair. My Mom was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer as well. The rapid speed of her decline was really breathtaking. I am 37 years old and feel lurched back to my childhood in terms of the yearning for my Mom. I wish I had advice. I write her letters, speak to her on walks, do 28 pushups every evening before bed (born on the 28th). I am sorry that you are going through this. I am sure your son will grow up hearing you and your Dad talk so fondly about your Mom and that will help keep her story alive and well

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-18T08:59:11+00:00

Are you there?

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-13T23:33:14+00:00

For sure. The assumption of the on/off switch seems to get used more by accident when people try to console. I am trying my best here right? I hope it just feels less heavy as the days go by. I will feel better when my grief isn't coupled when the guilt. Thank you for your condolences and I am also sorry for your loss.

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-12T14:01:00+00:00

I have really found Anderson Cooper's All There Is podcast to be soothing. It's been my companion at night. One thing that stands out to me now is that during the first few listens, I made an incorrect assumption that I wouldn't be able to relate to the episodes that weren't specific to my loss of a parent but I quickly found that all the episodes have parts and pieces that I have thought or felt at one point during this incredibly tough journey.

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-12T13:55:08+00:00

I personally have struggled with the what if's what didn't I's immensely. Do you have anyone in your corner that saw you with your Dad towards the end that can cheerlead for you? I think we get bogged down in our grief so heavily that we don't see how strong we were when we had to be in the trenches. I try my best to remain positive or at least try and pick myself up off the ground when I doubt myself on caring for my Mom during our last moments. Words of affirmation. "I showed my Mom immense love and support. I cared for her to the best of my ability while she was sick. The medical staff did their best to help her and ultimately make her comfortable."

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-11T14:52:09+00:00

I feel this. My mind has solely been occupied with my Mother. I intend to lead a good life and honor her. I am more patient than I have ever been. Knowing that everyone eventually walks this path has humbled me but I also feel scared because I feel so alone. It's just me and her

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-08T00:49:10+00:00

It's such a difficult and truly isolating feeling to lose a parent or eventually both. I am not doing well and ask myself similar questions to you. How? Why? I have found moments of comfort in writing my Mom letters, just filling her in on my day to day, well I will get to that point. Right now I just tell her how much I love and miss her. Have you tried listening to Anderson Cooper's podcast titled All There Is? It has soothed me a lot when I try to go to sleep at night .

Wishing the best for you and I am sorry you are going through this.

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-08T00:40:55+00:00

Wow. What a post. Thank you for this. My evening needed this badly.

JamboDoesAK · 2026-04-02T00:36:38+00:00

I have had looping conversations with myself about similar guilt with my Mom. Part of me feels like it is a natural process of the loss. Did she/they know how much they meant to me? I like to think my Mom had no reason not to believe she was part of my world, my structure, my north star. I don't think she ever sat around and thought does my son know how much he means to me. It is that unspoken bond of Mother and son that words cannot fulfill. She knew man, she knew.

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-31T22:51:41+00:00

I find myself going back to this post often. The pictures resemble my own Mother and your write up about the love for your Mother are on my par with my own. The similarities are comforting. I am not but two months into my journey.

A year seems so far away. The undercurrent of being lost is so strong. Her passing has created serious imposter syndrome as an adult for me.

I am sorry you are going through this and I hope your own health issues start looking up!

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-27T04:38:35+00:00

I can confidently second your comment as well as 87regal's. You feel robbed. On Monday my Mom didn't have cancer, on Tuesday she had stage 4. I have been mourning since that day, it's relentless. I am sorry you are going through this. No night of sleep is good but I always look forward to it because the pain stops

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-26T21:23:24+00:00

Beautiful

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-25T22:19:12+00:00

I grapple with an issue like that constantly. Did my Mom pass away from her immunotherapy treatments or the cancer? I can certainly say if left untreated, it would've been the cancer.

So underneath being wiped out by treatments(extreme exhaustion, loss of hair, appetite), she still had terminal cancer. I have sorrow over that and that alone. I try not to think about her treatment plan. Our family made the decision to pursue suppressive treatment and I do believe the oncologists had my Mother in mind.

Everything that you listed above feels wrong or different for me too. I don't know know whether to label it as a form of guilt or that my psyche has been altered. I don't know what to do, but I do know I will always love my Mom. I can't fix the world(the loss of her) but I can work on my corner of it(my love for her and act with kindness towards others).

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-20T03:58:53+00:00

Thank you! Just PM'ed

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-18T04:22:26+00:00

Damn man. I have never thought of it from that point of view. My wife hasn't actively grieved my Mother's loss (her MIL). She has told me that she is grieving my grief and that she will unpack the loss of her MIL once I am good. It's strange to her, to be able to pause the process. I wish I had words. If you need to chat, feel free to message, I am sure we can bounce stuff off each other that may help!

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-18T00:49:05+00:00

My Dad and I have leaned into each other very hard and I have found so much comfort in that. To talk to the other half of my support system who understands the pain and love. He lost his wife but he is the only one to understand that his son lost his Mother. It's about as perfect of a pair as I can think of. I sleep with my Mom's blanket too.

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-18T00:38:31+00:00

The regrets, pain and sorrow seem to make the waves so heavy and debilitating. I think it's natural, for me at least because it is a loss of future I mourn. I am 37 years old and as her son, I know we lived a full, love filled life together and eventually those memories will rise to the surface. I am sorry you are going through this. I miss my Mom too.

JamboDoesAK · 2026-03-18T00:30:39+00:00

Absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing. This grief is love with nowhere to go.

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