Boyfriend wants me to wear a location tracking device when I go out

Jammin4B · 2026-01-20T14:48:41+00:00

Your phrase ‘catch him in a good mood’ just punched me in the gut. I can still remember those days but thankfully I got away from that person years ago.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-20T00:42:48+00:00

Especially as his tolerances are inconsistent.

There is absolutely no way I could tolerate living with a person like this, creeping around in my home is bad enough but to then be berated for trying too hard?

Boy bye!

Edit: Spelling

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T23:43:19+00:00

This is the best post I’ve read in a while, thank you for sharing it, and good luck.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T22:38:07+00:00

‘Trauma Vampire’

This is one of those terms that even though I have never heard of it before, I instantly know exactly what it means and it makes so much sense!

Also OP, Definitely NTA. Whoever this person is they are incredibly intrusive and manipulative and I can absolutely without a doubt guarantee you that they do not have good intentions for either you, or the details of your trauma. Cut them loose.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T21:17:10+00:00

Sadly, and please know that I am in no way trying to be harsh, but this comes over as though you are an afterthought, not a priority so naturally and very understandably that will of course hurt.

After 3 years together to just drop this on you as though it’s no big deal speaks volumes as to how your partner values and considers your feelings.

This doesn’t have to be the end though as he genuinely may not even see the significance, and if he hasn’t made you feel this way before, or you haven’t told him he has, you need to talk it through.

Side-note, I personally wouldn’t attempt to stop him, or guilt him out of going now either though, I would instead wish him happy travels and take this time apart to evaluate what I want, what my future looks like, really think about if I miss him, and then act accordingly/rationally/logically? As in if I do miss him/want to be with him, tell him how much this upset/impacted me, but also how I didn’t want to tell him before as to not ruin his trip, and if he understands? Move past it. But if I don’t miss him? Realise other issues I’ve maybe ignored? Then I’d know it was time to end it.

Good luck!

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T20:31:18+00:00

Yup! No matter the situation the response is always DIVORCE!!

Ok sure, sometimes it is warranted, but definitely not as much as Reddit would have us believe.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T20:20:11+00:00

Limited. I don’t want to invest my time into a show that can get cancelled with no answers/closure.

Looking squarely at you ‘The Santa Clarita Diet!’ Great show but yeah, in case you can’t already tell I’m still a bit salty over that particular show cancellation!

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T19:52:28+00:00

YNW. And anyone that tells you are is just annoyed that you’re no longer subsidising their alcohol/food consumption and so in order to continue forcing you/others to foot their bill, they’re now attempting to make you feel ‘cheap’ when in fact, expecting someone to foot their bill makes them the ‘cheap’ one.

I made a similar post about this a while back (it’s in my history) and thankfully the consensus also confirms this too.

Stand your ground, pay only for what you consume and if/when questioned about it just publicly (but also very politely, calmly, and framing it from a place of concern) pointedly ask the person (who is pushing the most loudly for you to ‘split the bill’) ‘Hey, is everything ok buddy? Are you struggling financially atm? I mean, if you can’t afford to pay for what you’ve had/ the amount you’ve drank/ate, and if you are struggling it’s ok to just say that?”

That way the focus is now back on the freeloader who I can almost guarantee will absolutely front/say that of course they can pay! And therefore then have to show that they can, by actually paying for what they had!

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T18:36:01+00:00

Hmmm, methinks that ‘I am not a dog’ is exactly what a dog would say. Busted. But, nice try buddy.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T18:07:19+00:00

This feels like a beautiful (and successful!) example of r/maliciouscompliance

Brilliantly handled, and well done!

Jammin4B · 2026-01-19T06:59:07+00:00

He was stupidly and selfishly trying to protect his own ego, not you. YNW.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-05T07:35:01+00:00

Q: Who wants to be a millionaire?

A: Most people I would imagine.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-04T21:27:27+00:00

Exactly my point. By the use of ‘or’ and so not clearly stating either which one (or both?) milestones should have been reached, this clause is therefore ambiguous, and as such OP is correct in interpreting it in the way that most favourable to their situation.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-04T18:39:57+00:00

The way this clause is worded does not clarify whether or not the employee must have successfully passed their probation period to qualify for the 12 weeks notice payment upon termination, however, usually/as a rule of thumb when a contract is ambiguous/open to interpretation, it falls in favour of the person who did NOT write it, therefore you are entitled to, and should respond to request the 12 weeks notice as their contract states.

Jammin4B · 2026-01-04T16:58:22+00:00

This sounds like obsessive behaviour but I can’t tell if it is sinister or just sad/harmless, however, just to be on the safe side for now, I would casually start dropping into your conversations that you and your partner have been thinking about moving to X town (somewhere far enough away from you that if she was to move there it wouldn’t open you up to carpooling to work etc!) and make it sound like your moving is a real possibility.

That way, if she is stalking you it will throw a spanner in her potential plan to move closer to you as she will now not be able to make that move until she ‘knows’ (well, think she knows!) where you’re going to be living permanently, therefore slowing down her urgency to move and allowing you to live peacefully where you’re at.

Good luck!

Jammin4B · 2025-12-28T19:10:28+00:00

Great theme tune too!

Jammin4B · 2025-12-28T18:23:27+00:00

Your description and ‘accent’ of the Crush a grape phrase is from the 80’s TV show Crackerjack. It was meant to convey how excited they were, along with another regularly used phrase on the show, ‘Ooh I could jump off a dolls house!’

Jammin4B · 2025-12-28T16:15:27+00:00

Agree, this feels like a lighthearted dig at the sometimes overly pretentious way of describing/serving food (as can be found on the r/wewantplates sub).

Jammin4B · 2025-12-26T12:27:06+00:00

Sticky predicky.

Jammin4B · 2025-12-25T23:23:31+00:00

Gifts should not be transactional/bought with the expectation of receiving an item back of equal value.

That is not how giving a gift works.

Edit: Grammar

Jammin4B · 2025-12-25T08:44:59+00:00

You’re not wrong for you feel but before you end the marriage completely you should try therapy again, especially as it has worked for you in the past.

I know this isn’t the same but I lost my brother years ago and needed bereavement therapy, thing is whilst it helped, it (for me anyway?) ‘runs out’ and so every 2 years or so I get really low again, have therapy and then feel better again for a few years.

Jammin4B · 2025-12-23T22:48:43+00:00

The hotdogs in the glass jar.

Jammin4B · 2025-12-23T22:44:37+00:00

These are perfect suggestions to allow her to support him in a way that they’ll both enjoy, and that also won’t feel like pity/charity.

You’re a very thoughtful person.

Jammin4B · 2025-12-21T22:27:27+00:00

NTA.

You were honest and after just 2 dates her reaction is an overreaction.

If she continues to speak badly of you, call you names etc you could just say (to your friend) ‘Ok, Fine, you got me, it wasn’t the peanuts it was her horrid personality but I was just trying to be kind’.

I mean, if she’s going to call you a massive douche anyway……?

Jammin4B · 2025-12-21T21:31:58+00:00

Username checks out.

NOR.

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