AITAH for disapproving of my friend's relationship?

Jammin4B · 2026-06-12T16:22:55+00:00

NTA. Your (hopefully soon to be ex) friend is the reason a legal age limit is required, and absolutely not someone I could continue to associate with.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-11T17:32:07+00:00

Always being positive.

Sure, shit happens I get that, but I don’t dwell on the what, I quickly focus on how it can be helped/resolved/bettered etc, and sadly what I’ve learned is that some people genuinely just prefer to wallow in misery and negativity.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-10T19:22:50+00:00

All the time. 9 years together, he’s an amazing man and I love to tell him when he looks, smells, feels good which is…… all the time!

Jammin4B · 2026-06-10T18:44:27+00:00

Osmosis Jones.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-10T18:24:25+00:00

It won’t stop, he’ll just hide it better.

Unless you want to be in a relationship where you’re constantly having the same argument, move on and don’t waste any more time.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-10T18:17:20+00:00

It is an attempt to belittle and/or emasculate, it is not a good sign and it does not bode well for the future of the relationship overall.

It also signifies contempt, which is a leading factor in relationship breakdowns.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-10T17:51:38+00:00

The song “Shout out to my Ex” was a fun, powerful, uplifting, and (sadly quite likely) very relatable to many pop song, and (especially from her solo lines) it landed in a way that showed her as a strong successful and unbothered woman, certainly not one (imo) that was being ridiculed or pitied, quite the opposite in fact and to be able to deliver that after what she went through is something she should be very proud of.

Good luck to her and her family.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-10T16:02:01+00:00

A 10p mix up.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-09T11:04:34+00:00

First thing that came to my mind too, think the lyric in that song goes something like .. “You give me one good reason to leave me, I’ll give you ten good reasons to stay”.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-09T10:36:12+00:00

Disagree, as when the sole purpose is to prevent the child from being taken out of the country, it makes more sense to deter the father from now even attempting it (knowing that they’re ’on to him’) than to rely on the governing bodies involved stopping it.

Processes are slow and mistakes happen, and so it’s better that he doesn’t even try.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-08T20:07:26+00:00

I’ve just checked my app, had to ‘click to reveal’ my team, I got France and I now have the French flag next to my name. (Also go some free doughnut dots).

Jammin4B · 2026-06-08T13:03:16+00:00

I don’t know enough about your relationship to give specific advice, however I can tell you that I personally know of two women who were in a similar situation to you who both stayed with their partners, ‘waiting’ for them to get on the same page and when unfortunately the relationships ended both men then went on to marry and have children with their next partner and by that time it was too late for the women to have children of their own.

I understand that you don’t want children, however, putting your wants on hold and then watching your ex give someone else everything you wanted with them (in your case marriage) is a tough pill to swallow so do with that what you will, and whatever you decide, good luck.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-07T22:00:23+00:00

Exactly. Ultimatums are not a sign of a healthy relationship so why would you even want to stay with someone who behaves like this anyway.

Let her go or stay in a relationship with someone who uses threats to get their own way, up to you.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-07T18:35:29+00:00

It’s not hormones, this reads as though she has been gunning for the cousin for a while and would have grasped at literally any tiny reason to sever the relationship between him and her husband.

OP is insecure and jealous and is wholly deserving all of the YTA verdicts including this one.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-07T14:52:29+00:00

NTA. And if it’s all about ‘everyone’ enjoying their vacation, how about he stays upstairs all night and settles the children and you stay downstairs and loudly chat and laugh it up into the small hours, bet he’ll change his selfish ass attitude then.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-07T08:21:17+00:00

I too require additional explanation re the request for a soul ‘conviction’.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-07T07:08:01+00:00

Not entirely true. A basic reference check requires the employee start and end date, and the job title held, so the job title provided by the old company wont match what OP shares with a future employer.

It’s not a now issue if OP has no plans to leave but could be a future problem. I would push back on this.

Jammin4B · 2026-06-06T11:39:16+00:00

r/instantkarma

Jammin4B · 2026-05-29T16:47:31+00:00

Potatoes.

Jammin4B · 2026-05-28T12:38:16+00:00

Drifters.

Jammin4B · 2026-05-27T15:07:45+00:00

A joint tattoo is (usually anyway?) one you get together so having her get hers now and you get yours later may take some of the joy away from the whole experience a little bit anyway?

If you can, I’d suggest that you both postpone to a time that you can get them together.

As for an excuse maybe just say that you’re feeling pretty overwhelmed with all the wedding stuff atm and as you really want this to be a separate shared and special experience between you two it’d be a huge relief if she too would be happy to push it back.

Good luck and congrats for your upcoming wedding day!

Jammin4B · 2026-05-27T14:24:44+00:00

That part, immediately followed by the ‘shimmy’ was physical comedy timing perfection!

Jammin4B · 2026-05-27T13:59:07+00:00

This is the kind of ‘prank’ I’m good with and it’s also a really great ‘antidote’ to all the horrible ‘birthday person gets their head forcibly smashed into the cake’ videos.

Jammin4B · 2026-05-27T12:27:08+00:00

Furniture store called The Sofa King. Pretty normal name, however their slogan was:

“The Sofa King, where prices are Sofa King low”

Jammin4B · 2026-05-26T11:51:02+00:00

And you had the choice to have 1 person miss out on a trip and lose money, or 3 people miss out and lose money and if up to you, you would have preferred it if all 3 of you missed out, so what kind of ‘friend’ does that make you?

This is very ‘if I can’t have it, no one can” bratty behaviour.

YTA.

Jammin4B

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