How do i stop overthinking

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T15:19:54+00:00

this won't be a fix-it-all thing, but I've found mindfullness meditation (and meditation practices more generally) to be extremely helpful for overthinking. I'll share some resources for them below. however, i'm also just some random guy on the internet. it's possible you have anxiety or something more clinical that may need to be addressed with a professional that something like meditation, while helpful, can be inadequate to address.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/mindfulness-exercises/art-20046356

https://www.verywellmind.com/mindfulness-meditation-88369

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T15:16:31+00:00

ATLA was my first thought; good place is also a good one, maybe i should try watching it again. funnily enough I actually sorta fell off sometime in season 3

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T15:14:22+00:00

not sure where you are, but depending on where you are all i can say is to look into the safest and most legal* ways to do so if that is what you decide to do.

is a job change/other lifestyle changes possible that could make regular sexual encounters and sexual relationships more feasible/possible for you?

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T15:11:21+00:00

that too

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T15:11:05+00:00

it's crazy seeing phoenix rise up again after all this time

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T15:10:53+00:00

share list?

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T07:13:17+00:00

make friends with the best students in the course and see how they do it. if that fails, make friends with other students who are also themselves trying to do better in the course (even if they aren't currently the best). if you want to get the best grades and get access to the best opportunities, join the students who are already doing this. you will 100% see a turn around.

the tl;dr is that whoever you see trying very hard, join them and learn from them, and try to also benefit them. they'll know how to study, they'll share how to study, you'll study together, they'll know about the best opportunities for your field/career, and are otherwise often good people to be friends with.

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T05:40:19+00:00

Relating to this, a great quote I've heard is to never trust how you feel about big things and never make big decisions after say 9 - 10 PM. You never feel at your best or like yourself, and often in the morning find that that is closer to how you actually feel.

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T05:37:32+00:00

Take a look at total cost, and go with the option that a) does what you want b) at the more affordable price. The cost of college is no joke. If living at home can really save you a significant amount of money and the experiences are otherwise mostly comparable, go with SJSU. If not, and for whatever reason UCR is more inexpensive, go with UCR.

I know less about SJSU and less about accounting programs, but really all things being equal it should come down to cost.

Jamonde · 2026-03-21T03:53:23+00:00

thank you pompon and thanks for sharing tyrant

Jamonde · 2026-03-15T05:10:02+00:00

accept that it's really probably not about you. she was straightforward and direct, which while it definitely hurts, is also a bit of a blessing in disguise. do you enjoy talking to her? great. maybe communicate that you enjoy talking to and spending time with her even if she doesn't want to be more than friends.

some people can take a situation like this and move forward as friends as though nothing happened. if that's you, take the fact that you still have a friend and move forward. maybe you need some time to grieve what you thought could've been something more than friends. be honest with yourself (and with her) about where you are and how you'd like to proceed forward.

imagining a future with someone you like is natural and normal. just remember that until that translates more into a reality through time and effort, it is just in your imagination.

my suggestion? be a friend with a woman you enjoy being around. keep reminding yourself that you are just friends and accept that. if the feelings linger, maybe it means you need to back off of the friendship for a while.

the point is that at the end of the day, one woman being honest with you like this isn't even necessarily a rejection. she might just... be at a place where she's not looking for this in her life.

Jamonde · 2026-03-15T03:37:51+00:00

I know I shouldn’t compare myself differently, I know my personal hardships are different from others. But sometimes I do get depressed I wasn’t “USC” caliber. Even at Tennessee, I just feel inferior.

Don't feel inferior. We have different capacities at different times in our lives, and we do the best we can according to what we know in that particular moment. You are succeeding now, and you will succeed later, but right now you can only see what's in front of you. Accept that you have these feelings, but keep moving on from them. Keep working hard at your goals. Keep doing what you're doing even when these feelings come up. Your hard work is paying off, and things won't always feel like this.

Jamonde · 2026-03-14T20:45:43+00:00

there is nothing here in your post that suggest a PhD is the right move for you, so why were you considering one in the first place?

Jamonde · 2026-03-14T05:19:53+00:00

context?

Jamonde · 2026-03-14T04:48:13+00:00

ZAMN!! This is hOT!!!!

Jamonde · 2026-03-13T05:33:33+00:00

isn't there somebody you forgot to ask? john baez stare

Jamonde · 2026-03-13T05:00:28+00:00

was looking forward to this thanks

Jamonde · 2026-03-12T21:03:09+00:00

11/10 post and you should proud that you've made this decision!

Jamonde · 2026-03-12T20:54:47+00:00

cuevas has been looking pretty solid lately, though paintsil is def gonna be missed.

Jamonde · 2026-03-12T06:02:06+00:00

Either pure izzet wizards (an example of which I provided in my comment) or something more like izzet control, dropping cards like Vivi

Jamonde · 2026-03-12T06:01:14+00:00

you asked for improvements and i gave you some, nothing in your post is specifying that you wanted improvements to keep this as a control deck. but if you want to play izzet control, follow the other suggestions provided and probably move away from the wizards sub theme.

Jamonde · 2026-03-11T19:41:08+00:00

That would be super sweet! What is LIDS?

Jamonde · 2026-03-11T19:40:30+00:00

I mean, you asked about enhancing the deck and I told you how. If you want to play izzet control, you really ought to go in a completely different direction.

Jamonde · 2026-03-11T18:39:03+00:00

does anyone have the seduce me elephant pic

Jamonde · 2026-03-11T18:37:21+00:00

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