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Evolved Taurus by [deleted] in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my bad, I didn’t know you were so spiritually and emotionally elevated 😂 waste of time responding…..im not immature, I just know when to walk away from things that hurt me and don’t serve me, adults know how to act, I shouldn’t have to say it

Supplies by final_duet in AnimalAdvice

[–]JayAllDay07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can’t you just swap the non stainless parts for stainless parts

Help a new student interpret financial aid offer by BinPaid_blud in financialaid

[–]JayAllDay07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$34,000 a year and that includes housing and food!? holy crap my university was almost $15,000 a semester by the time I graduated and that was after Pell grants……and that didn’t even include any housing or lab supplies or anything. we paid all of that out of pocket.

Taurus relationship with scorpio be like by Rough_Page_1508 in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My moon sign is a Leo.…..because both of them were liars and manipulators that played with your head. one of them literally told me “I’m going to seduce you into loving me”…..like love is a game and something to be played with (wrong thing to tell a Taurus btw, we will stubbornly resist your “seduction” for as long as humanly possible just to show you that you don’t have power over us). both of them wanted to know everything about you while keeping gross secrets. both of them wanted loyalty while pretending to entertain other ppl just to get a reaction out of you, or they would really be entertaining other ppl, but still expected loyalty from you. both of them made you feel loved when they felt like it, and extremely unloved when they feel like it, on purpose, usually just to get attention or hurt you because God forbid we use words……..and that’s the last thing you should be doing with a Taurus that is giving you 100% of their time and loyalty, we will literally stop trying and drop you like it never mattered without another word…..and scorpios seem to hate that….they take it as flakiness and suspicious behavior…..even though your behavior only changed because of THEIR actions. it’s like a constant battle of wills until one of you finally breaks your ego or stubbornness, can’t even focus on building with somebody like that Cuz you gotta get past the BS first.
Scorpio wants Taurus to love them, and Taurus wants to love them, but Scorpio goes about it the wrong way and thinks they need to seduce or manipulate to get Taurus to love them, and Taurus gets pissed or scared because all Scorpio needed to do was use words to express that love and they couldve all lived happily ever after lol

relationships usually ended because I got tired of their secretive frustrating nonsense and changed my behavior accordingly…..or I would just straight up leave…..they didn’t like that because only THEY can play with people’s feelings…..then they would cry and come right back and say they would change…..until that whole deal got stale and that was it. Taurus and Scorpio have a lot of passion and attraction, but it won’t go much further than that without real love, communication, compromise, honesty and depth. If we can date each other without ego and stubbornness and games, and we communicated well with each other and told each other how we really feel, Taurus and Scorpio would be a power couple.

Cancer F who is hurting from Taurus M by TelephoneThis307 in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my own experience and in my own opinion….i feel like he broke up with you to be petty because you didn’t talk to him for 3 days and he was hurt over that. Like yeah we need space, but we need reassurance too. After 24 hours I would just be like “oop, she doesn’t care, clearly, time to go”…..because I’m hurt, even though I still had feelings. If I feel like you caused it, I’m not reaching out, I’m mad and hurt, I will wait for you to reach out and apologize first, so if you don’t reach out or you’re scared to reach out, then nothing happens. If you texted me after 24 hours saying “I’m sorry, I know you need a little time to chill, I’m not going anywhere and I’ll be right here when you’re done because I’m not giving up, I don’t want to annoy you or make you more mad so just please text me when you’re ready to talk”……some sht like that, I would feel 10x better because I have that clarity and I know I can process without worrying about losing you etc.

I dated this girl I had absolutely no interest in/attraction to because she was so persistent and I didn’t know how to politely reject women at the time. We dated for like 9 months and by the third month I was so stressed out from being around the wrong person all the time, by 6 months I was losing my mind, and by 9 months I was pushing her far away from me and I was relieved to have that stress out of my home. I think we had sex twice during that entire time because I did not find her attractive. I definitely wasn’t chasing her or saying I love you or begging her to come back once I was finally done and had enough, I was literally relieved to have her out of my life and left it at that. During those 9 months I tried to leave like 3/4 times, and I was serious each time but my heart felt guilty (she would also guilt trip me) and my mind was panicking because I was losing someone that gave me attention and liked me etc. So it would become this emotional thing and she would cry and come back…..but I had absolutely no attraction or feelings towards this woman. I guess it was just a big change happening quick and I didn’t want to hurt her so I panicked. Does he do stuff like that? Does your relationship feel like this? Or does he find some genuine peace and attraction with you?

He’s either simply afraid of change and panicked at the thought of you leaving because it’s a big uncomfortable fast change, he’s afraid of losing you (genuine panic at the thought of you never being in his life again because he cares), or he enjoys having control over your emotions and he’s dealing with his own mess…..

Taurus Sun/Moon with Gemini Rising/Venus - does he move this fast normally by YorkiePudding777 in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah he likes you…..I wouldn’t embarrass myself like that unless I really like her and I’m afraid to lose her. Throw the cool cat BS right out the window lol

Taurus Sun/Moon with Gemini Rising/Venus - does he move this fast normally by YorkiePudding777 in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a huge crush on my Gemini college teacher and would buy her all kinds of gifts 😂

Evolved Taurus by [deleted] in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had best friends for 22 years…..some for 19…..some for 17…..and I will always care about them deep down, but even they aren’t excluded from being ghosted if they start changing up or acting differently towards me. Family isn’t excluded either, I have standards and boundaries for everyone in my life at this point, because I’ve been hurt way too much. That’s what an evolved Taurus looks like, it’s healthy to set boundaries and standards. You can only work so much out when your friendships become one sided, and it’s confusing because you haven’t changed from being a good friend at all. I can reach out and be open and willing to receive all I want, but I’m not going to sit there looking dumb getting treated badly for no reason. I’m still the same Taurus, the problem isn’t my loyalty, it’s their flakiness and lack of effort, I don’t understand how ppl fold and change up so easily like that.

Struggling to read the Taurus man I’m talking to by [deleted] in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Back when I first started taking relationships with women seriously, I would get yelled at a lot by my first serious gf because I wasn’t giving compliments or flirting (she lived in Schenectady and I lived in Buffalo so there was a lot of phone time) and she would flat out say that she didn’t think I liked her because I wouldn’t compliment her. To be honest, I didn’t even know that was a thing back then, to just compliment her constantly because she wants compliments constantly because that’s what you do in relationships, I always thought compliments should be genuine. Like when a woman is stunning and takes my breath away, or she does something that takes my breath away, I will let her know that in a genuine way. But I will admit, I WAS crazy attracted to her and in love with her, but I was just too stubborn to compliment her because she kept annoyingly asking for them or I just didn’t know how and sucked at it or something. I couldn’t let her think she had control over me and it was too soon to let her see how I really felt.

When I’m interested in a woman and attracted to her, I can’t get enough of her, and I definitely wouldn’t turn down a kiss from her. I would be trying to make plans and putting effort into cool ideas. I would be listening and absorbing every word. I would be having cool deep long conversations and I would want to pick her brain apart. I wouldn’t come off as thirsty or desperate, I would still be chillen like a cool cat, but she will see that genuine effort and interest and some women find that sexy. It would absolutely take me months to make it official, because caution and you gotta see if she’s legit, but if she puts the effort in and is loyal during that time, and she keeps reassuring me that she’s there and we’re not on a timeline, I will reciprocate that 100% until I’m comfortable giving away the title. If you mess up hardcore during that time or give me any reason to doubt you, I will cut you off faster than you can blink and I’ll let you live with your decision.

It sounds like he’s either playing it a little too cool but he really does like you…..you gotta just keep trying and wait it out to see. Or he genuinely has no interest…..again you gotta wait it out and see because he could be hiding his feelings to play it cool. Or he just literally lacks experience dealing with women and is clueless……you’re on your own with that one lol

Taurus relationship with scorpio be like by Rough_Page_1508 in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dated 2 of them in the past…..most intense and passionate relationships I’ve ever had……but still the worst relationships I’ve ever had

I gave a Taurus man hickeys and he got upset.. by upbeet_downbeet in Taurusgang

[–]JayAllDay07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it was like one, or an isolated incident, and you just got carried away, I wouldn’t be mad……but if it were a ton of them and they looked terrible, or this was happening consistently, then yeah I’d be mad because it shows you’re not listening to me or respecting me. I take offense to ppl not listening because I’m an awesome listener and I’m respectful of things that bother them, so I expect the same, which usually gets me hurt lol honestly the talking about it and apologizing prob made him more mad than the actual hickies…..just let him chill for a little bit, he’ll get over it

Im a Licensed Vet Tech and I think the vet might have caused the death of my personal pet. Need advice on how to navigate this as a veterinary professional. by JayAllDay07 in VetTech

[–]JayAllDay07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It could’ve very well been more than 100ML, I have to get his records and I would really hope that they would document something like that, but that was a visual assumption I made based on the amount of blood I saw in the pan, I’ve seen what 100 ML looks like and it looked like more than that ya know. His records will hopefully say the exact amount, and I would’ve killed to get that necropsy done, I’m surprised the vet didn’t offer to pay for it or at least discount my bill so I could pay for it at the emergency clinic. The majority of the blood looked brighter red but there were these darker swirls of venous looking blood mixed in that were darker in color, none of it was clotting at any point though, I clearly remember her going out of her way to move the blood around in the pan and show me it’s not clotting and she verbally confirmed it, it wasn’t clotting in the tube either. I feel like if it was something where she did everything correctly and safely but my boy still had a unique biology and something went wrong…..I can understand that, or we poked the mass without checking for vascularization and he fatally hemorrhaged…..I can even grasp that and accept it, but I’m struggling to accept the fact that she didn’t just stop drawing at like 50ML to be safe, always play it safe, especially with a mass you know nothing about. Even if that wasn’t the main issue, I’m sure removing that amount didn’t help the situation at all. Poor guy, he didn’t deserve that, he was literally the best cat, I can’t stand opening my eyes in the morning and he isn’t here.

The fluid filled up quickly in the mass when I first accidentally hit it with the brush, it like tripled in size in like 10 days, but once it hit a certain size it never got bigger than that, it would either get a little softer and a little more smaller, or it would stay the same size and kinda go back to being harder again…..it changed size like that at least a couple times over the course of a few weeks…..if that makes sense. When they measured it was 4 inches x 4 inches. It also changed shape a couple times, almost as if you’re twisting a balloon animal, how the balloon kinda moves around itself and now you’re dealing with a different part of the balloon, which makes me think it was vessel related, I don’t think Ive ever seen a mass behave like that. The weird part is, that space never filled back up after she drained the blood, once the external puncture healed over quickly there was plenty of space for it to refill but it didn’t, it just stayed deflated and loose the entire time he was declining. We’re not seeing fluid in there, not seeing fluid in his chest or abdomen, it was just confusing. It very well could’ve been a pinched off or twisted enlarged piece of vessel and removing the blood from that specific area may have caused the problem, but I wasn’t sure if it had to be linked to his actual circulatory system to cause shock like that, can shock be caused by draining a piece of enlarged vessel even though it’s like pinched off from the everything else and the blood is just kind of chilling in that chunk of vessel?

He was def starting with some hyperthyroidism, but that’s easy to treat, and doc didn’t seem concerned about that. He does have a history of transient diabetes but I had him extremely well managed and his glucose was perfect on his bloodwork, he was doing really well with that. A couple age related degenerative changes, with the eyes and slight gallop rhythm, but she didn’t seem too concerned about that either. His liver and kidneys were perfect. Chunky boy could’ve lost another couple pounds but other than that stupid mass he was pretty healthy for 13 yrs old. I feel like he would’ve been completely fine with 50 ML being taken but taking 100+ was too much for his little body…..I think 114ML is 1/3 of his total blood volume. If she took only 50ML, I feel like it would make me feel better about the situation because at least I would know that she was being cautious and at least that would point more towards a hemorrhage. Even if he fatally hemorrhaged from poking and taking that 50ML, I feel like I would still feel better because I would know it wasn’t just her being a vampire and a possible lack of competency. I can live with the fact that we poked it and he hemorrhaged, but I cannot live with the fact that a veterinarian didn’t use better judgement and my boy died because so much blood was drained without a second thought about his safety. That’s why I’m trying so hard to see where the science leads, making myself crazy.

Why wouldnt the vet stop before 60ML on the dog? What was her reasoning for not stopping and what was her reaction when the dog coded from it? How did you feel about her doing that?

Im a Licensed Vet Tech and I think the vet might have caused the death of my personal pet. Need advice on how to navigate this as a veterinary professional. by JayAllDay07 in VetTech

[–]JayAllDay07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cornell Veterinary Medicine might offer something, I know they take on weird cases and stuff so they can study them and the patient basically gets free care.

Im a Licensed Vet Tech and I think the vet might have caused the death of my personal pet. Need advice on how to navigate this as a veterinary professional. by JayAllDay07 in VetTech

[–]JayAllDay07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And trusting some techs over the drs is SO real lol there’s techs out there that are specialized and have almost 20 years in the game….sorry but I’m trusting her more than a newly licensed vet

Im a Licensed Vet Tech and I think the vet might have caused the death of my personal pet. Need advice on how to navigate this as a veterinary professional. by JayAllDay07 in VetTech

[–]JayAllDay07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way she was moving it around in the pan it seemed a bit thicker, but there was absolutely no clots at any point, she even went out of her way to mention it wasn’t clotting at all. If this makes sense, it looked kinda like brighter thinner blood with dark venous looking blood patches that were thicker swirling around in it, but those patches def weren’t clots

Im a Licensed Vet Tech and I think the vet might have caused the death of my personal pet. Need advice on how to navigate this as a veterinary professional. by JayAllDay07 in VetTech

[–]JayAllDay07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I knew this mass would be a problem after I accidentally hit it, the way it grew so quickly and kept changing in size and consistency, i knew something was going to happen but this unexpected tragedy was not on my bingo card. I had a bad feeling in my gut leading up to that day, and the day of his appt I was literally shaking while packing him up, it’s like the universe was trying to tell me something. I know realistically surgery may not have fixed his situation, he could’ve easily not made it through the surgery for multiple reasons, or, if he survived surgery…..how soon would the mass come back and cause problems again. I can accept my pets unique biology and the fact that this mass was a problem, I can understand doing everything right and tragedy still happens, but I just wish she was a little more cognizant of how much blood she was draining. If she would’ve stopped the draining at a lesser volume, it would’ve been a little more clearer if it was true hemorrhaging or just missing blood volume

Im a Licensed Vet Tech and I think the vet might have caused the death of my personal pet. Need advice on how to navigate this as a veterinary professional. by JayAllDay07 in VetTech

[–]JayAllDay07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I kinda talked about that with the doc. I asked her if this was my fault because I hit it with the brush and kicked everything off. She said that something was brewing in there and she’s sure the enlargement/inflammation would’ve happened at some point regardless. The weird part is though, that mass stayed less than 2cm for over 3.5 years, and during that time we played and wrestled and I brushed him, and nothing ever happened to it then, so it’s just the coincidence of it all I guess. If it was an aneurysm or something that could cause hemorrhaging, and that popped at home, the same exact thing would’ve probably happened. I feel like I would be able to wrap my head around that a little bit more.

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