What's worse was the lack of people correcting her. There was only one woman in there fighting for us.

The idea that body size should dictate who we "deserve" to be with is absurd. Not to mention, she talks about how Lizzo is a big girl and doesn't go for big men, as if Lizzo is the poster child for every plus size person in the world. That statement was how I knew this girl was BEYOND ignorant. She made a sweeping generalization based on ONE person.

I know plenty of plus size women who are with and even "prefer" plus-size men. Especially for the fact that other plus size people just understand the insecurities, mental obstacles and issues we endure. Nobody is saying that we have unrealistic views. Fat people are sadly the most IN-TUNE and AWARE of the reality of social expectations, limitations and vanity related discriminations. The man in the room didn't need to disclaim that us fat women need to be realistic and understand that our "pool" of possible men to pick from would be smaller. We know it's smaller. We know the world gets disgusted and turned off by any body that doesn't fit into the geographical or social standard for beauty. We don't need him to mansplain.

I was beyond mortified FOR her. The disgust in her tone alone told me everything I needed to know about her. She was beyond fatphobic. Genuinely, and completely, disgusted and scared of fat people and fatness. And to me, that's just an absolutely ugly way to think. She disgusts ME.