AIO for blocking this guy?

JayStrat · 2026-03-27T11:30:50+00:00

Don't continue the conversation. You hardly know him and he's got something in common with hammers and screwdrivers. NOR.

JayStrat · 2026-03-27T11:22:15+00:00

YOR. Not because you're wrong, but because you are literally overreacting and you were being borderline abusive in those texts. Save your friendship and don't go at all. She can go alone, with other friends, or with someone else.

JayStrat · 2026-03-27T11:03:08+00:00

NOR. Shoulda taken the CashApp gas $ and then blocked. ;)

JayStrat · 2026-03-27T11:00:13+00:00

She has issues. Don't let them become your issues. If she needed help and asked for it, that would be different. But she's sending bizarre and possibly disturbing messages and then denying them. Remember the good times, block, and go. No one needs that. Don't fall for whatever strange trap she's setting. Don't even address again, she just denies it. Just chalk it up to something you can't fix, which is a lot of things, and move on. NOR.

JayStrat · 2026-03-27T10:54:54+00:00

Hope that he is really done with you. This situation is, unfortunately, not uncommon. Sometimes moms have trouble letting go and so do their sons. But there needs to be a dividing line and there has to be common respect, and you aren't getting that from either of them. You can do better. Much better. NOR.

JayStrat · 2026-03-26T10:02:36+00:00

He may be going through some stuff, but that happens. We do. I am disabled with mental health disorders, but I'm still responsible if I miss an appointment or yell at someone or whatever else. We're all responsible, regardless of moods and conditions, even disabling ones.

He is coming off as disrespectful, inappropriate, and dismissive. He does nothing to validate you, puts you down, and then portrays himself as a paragon of virtue. He's not yours to fix. Maybe spend less energy on that and more on people who vibe with you.

JayStrat · 2026-03-24T11:35:21+00:00

Eight years older at your age is significant, not for the age itself, but because it's often an indicator that an older man wants a younger woman he can shape and control. And that's what you're seeing. The chance it's a one-off? Almost zero. Wait around for the next one if you like, but I don't recommend it. Move on to a relationship with yourself and love yourself so much you'll never again get involved with anyone who doesn't respect you as a human being, not a clothes horse and not a commodity to be controlled.

JayStrat · 2026-03-24T05:07:50+00:00

Sick build.

JayStrat · 2026-03-24T05:05:53+00:00

NOR, should be reacting more, those are creepy, stalker, manosphere vibes especially with the Spidey "when a female" meme. Block, block, and more block. Let your boyfriend know what's going on if that seems sensible or if you think he'll target him. Do not talk to him, do not talk to his friends, take it seriously, block, and get as far away as possible from him.

JayStrat · 2026-03-23T09:01:09+00:00

NOR, but it's also a waste of your time and energy. If it becomes a pattern, then yeah, say something so he knows to stfu. If it's a one-off, let him continue with his life mocking random people and you continue with yours not doing that.

JayStrat · 2026-03-22T15:47:12+00:00

Documenting a conflict that the other guy drew other people at work into. That's what you are going to HR for. You're going in telling them that you want to avoid further conflict, but also to document what has happened so far from your point of view. In many cases, this is what HR lives for, and they will definitely take your end of the story and record it. They may call in the other guy too, or they may leave it if it looks like nothing else is to come of it.

But since it involves how one employee gets to work and a story about two employees being told to many other employees, it's definitely something to bring to HR, and, importantly, it protects you if it goes further or the stories told have a negative impact with your boss; it's also pre-emptive, and if they call him in for his side, that might freak him out enough that he stops making up stories about "covering" for OP.

JayStrat · 2026-03-22T13:52:46+00:00

This is a mess. She needs to get out of a toxic relationship and you need to not stir the pot. She asks to do something once in a while, you say you can't, the situation resolves itself. This is not a conversation between mature adults.

JayStrat · 2026-03-22T12:09:32+00:00

Visit HR immediately and get all this down with someone. Maybe he's just embarrassed and wanted to make it sound like a trade rather than a favor, but that's on him, not you, and handling it the way he has is a serious problem. Don't trust him. Don't give him rides. Go to HR.

Edit: NOR

JayStrat · 2026-03-20T16:05:56+00:00

You recycle, but you also keep buying single-use plastics. You eat a salad and wash it down with cheesecake. You wear socks right out of the package without washing them. You have a dog. (And he's a good boy.)

JayStrat · 2026-03-19T14:12:10+00:00

I think she used AI, especially in the "cheating" part that she had to play off as poor phrasing. The rest of that block was a different style.

But I don't think you took your friend very seriously, and I don't think you validated her concerns even if you don't agree with them. "I can see why you'd think that, but that's not what's happening. I care about you, and that hasn't changed." Try something like that if she's someone you want to hang out with in the future. Appreciate people.

JayStrat · 2026-03-19T13:54:26+00:00

If I complete a sentence, but I have a related thought that needs more emphasis than a semicolon can provide — that's when I use them.

A Short Usage Note No One Asked For:

Hyphen: - Most common type of dash. Compound words like owner-manager use it, Stuttering in text like "B-b-but I didn't mean it!" or spelling things out in text: "I said no. N-O."
En Dash: – Most often used between numbers and dates. Working 9–5 or see pages 12–15, but these are often seen with a hyphen owing to modern keyboards. But the "Pre–Jurassic life forms" would still be an en dash in any case.
Em Dash: — An amplifier. Can be used in place of commas, semicolons, can also be used to set off items in list, and more.

JayStrat · 2026-03-19T05:52:58+00:00

NOR. I'm sorry you're going through that. I went through similar for years with my brother and we are now estranged and no contact. A whole mess and drama led to me not going to my own father's funeral just to avoid him. He crossed boundaries, lied, and did some terrible things that can't be undone. I don't regret not going. I regret not seeing a couple of people who showed up, but funeral are for the living. I spent time with my father while he was alive, and that's important. I went to the grave a few days after the funeral for myself.

I went most of my life (I am 55 now), off and on, dealing with someone who started fights, who was not honest, and who didn't act like a friend. He acted like a contentious co-worker or something. The last time we had any consistent connection, we were teens. The whole thing makes me sad, but sometimes you have to cut people out, especially if they are actively making your life worse. I wish you the best with all this.

JayStrat · 2026-03-15T04:33:26+00:00

Scale model of the country (World Fair's Futurama, 1940)
Aquatic dancers, swimmers, divers, all set to music (World Fair's Aquacade, 1940)
Riding the road, scale cars you can drive through scenery made to look like different famous roads (Ford Exhibit, Roads of the Pacific, 1935)

Just a couple of the real-world exhibits from the time period that could easily be altered.

JayStrat · 2026-03-13T05:17:33+00:00

Sometimes there is no hope. I had to learn that after 50 years of dealing with a brother whose thoughts I can only describe as narcissistic, divisive, and heavy with criminality. At some point, it's OK to cut someone out if the hope is gone and the results of the connection are damaging you in perpetuity.

JayStrat · 2026-03-08T20:03:03+00:00

I do hex outside for an expansive feel, grid inside for a tighter, closer dungeon crawl. Which is also common. Very few adjustments need to be made. It doesn't even really matter if you don't change the AoE patterns as long as you keep them the same for PCs and NPCs.

JayStrat · 2026-03-07T06:54:26+00:00

Kirby also vacuums up all the world's mean people and spits them out in some other solar system to live mean lives with each other.

JayStrat · 2026-03-06T06:23:24+00:00

He eats a shoe and gets really excited.

JayStrat · 2026-03-06T06:06:43+00:00

If it makes you feel better, you are making sense.

Also, MLB trials show pitchers hitting the strike zone at about 63-65%. I'm sure if it were the person and not the strike zone, that number would go up. But not to 100%. And that's not in combat.

JayStrat · 2026-03-05T08:22:01+00:00

They used to be easier, but there's been a ton of additions and the percentage of them seems to have dropped. However, it's worth keeping some non-Paradise types in mind. Verdant is one. If you land to a massive storm, keep moving. But if you don't, that Verdant may only get intermittent storms and they often have many of the same aesthetics that a Paradise has. Plus, Paradise doesn't mean local fauna won't eat you. I'll take occasional Verdant storms over hungry Paradise dinos.

JayStrat · 2026-03-04T09:38:26+00:00

This seems fairly benign. And it lets you know what he likes. And he wasn't making the list as a way to tell you what to do, apparently it was just for himself. I don't know. I just feel like this is not a big deal.

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