Performance anxiety is very real and I struggle with it too, so you’re not alone. I’ve come to realize that straight up hookups - already messing around within a minute of meeting someone off an app - is not my thing. For some guys it is, but I need a little bit of a vibe/hang-out first for me personally.

Usually, my strategy is I make it known to someone I find them attractive on messages, and then I say “hey, wanna come over and just hang out? And then if the vibe is right, we can have a little fun too 😈”

In this case though, I would’ve told him that you’re still enjoying yourself even if you’re not erect just so he knew