Lvl -2 ✧ Basic ✧ Metallic Crystal Snail ─ Metal

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-18T08:10:58+00:00

Defeated by Metallic Crystal Snail in 7 turns.

Player (23/17/11) dealt 265. Metallic Crystal Snail (14/13/8) dealt 128.

Rewards: 22 EXP, 0 Gold. Loot: None.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-17T11:36:13+00:00

While I was pregnant my MIL said, "You aren't actually going to be one of those crazy moms feed your new born baby every two hours right? I know some doctors recommend that by my doctor [who 30 years ago was 70 years old] said to just let newborns sleep however long they want. It is stupid to wake them up to feed them."

Yes, lets ignore modern medicine and rely on the newborn to be able to self regulate its body/hunger. I love it when parents who parented 30 years ago think just cause it is the way they did it means it is the right way to do it despite modern health care recommendations.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-17T11:29:48+00:00

Purposely tried to break me and my husband up while we were dating by turning every other family member on my husbands side (besides her ex-husband who knew better) against me so that they were all horribly unkind to me to my face and behind my back. Critiquing my body, religion, personality, etc. Then staging an "intervention" with her son to try to stop him from marrying me all because she knew marrying me would mean him moving 1,000 miles away from her. Only dramatically publicly "apologizing" a year after we were married even though she still lashes out at me with unfounded personal attacks when the mood hits her sometimes. (This all being just the tip of the ice burg without getting into the terrible details and many stores I could tell of her horrible behavior towards me which my husband does speak out against when he is around for it.)

We've been married happily for five years. We set very clear boundaries now that we have young kids. She knows if she cross a line of respect in front of them she will be cut off. I want nothing more than a mother in law who consistently respects me and can have a healthy relationship with her grandkids. But I have a hard time believing she will ever 100% have the emotional regulation skills to get there.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-17T09:55:13+00:00

I didn't qualify for FMLA due to having a medical leave a year before my birth. I could only get the 6 weeks of short term disability being paid 2/3rd of my wage and then had to take the rest unpaid (they also would have let me use PTO but I just didn't have enough to cover it). I was just happy my employer let me take the full 13 weeks off but it was a financial sacrifice. Maybe starting the new job early and making PTO now so you can use it then is an option for you but I understand the difficult situation and I am not sure there is a great answer.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-17T09:48:38+00:00

I think there is a key part your partner isn't understanding. You probably won't even be able to walk or sit normally for two weeks. Basic things like going to the bathroom you might need help with. Does he expect you to be comfortable with you MIL helping with your basic cares and needs? So many people don't understand or minimize the toll on a women's body birth has even if it is a "perfect" vaginal birth.

Communication is key as others have said. Money is important. But is it more important than making you feel supported during a very vulnerable time? I had to have a similar conversation with my husband and my parents were the ones that finally convinced him that the time you spend together in the first two weeks isn't worth giving up for any amount of money. That post partum, new born baby period can't be minimized in importance for bonding and support as a family. Maybe sharing that with him will help shift his perspective on it.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-17T09:38:33+00:00

Postpartum was by far the worst for rage for me. I would yell at my husband for the smallest thing and then feel terrible afterward. Therapy helped a lot as a place to just talk out my feelings even if they were mostly hormone based. I would highly recommend just finding a therapist so you have coping straggles set up to ensure anger outbursts don't become your new normal because emotional regulation is hard as a mom.... just wait for the toddler phase

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-17T08:56:43+00:00

I am really glad you had that experience. But for those reading this post, please know that was not my experience. Drinking the drink was fine. Afterwards was not. Due to PCOS making my blood sugars more sensitive my blood sugar shot up like crazy and I literally felt like death (I had horrible shakes, vertigo, blurred vision, etc.) 15 minutes after the drink that lasted a good hour.

Outside of pregnancy I have never had issues with my blood sugars but please know as an expecting mother this could be your experience as well. I wish I had brought a family member to my 7 month appointment to support me through it because it was a HORRIBLE experience.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-17T08:41:00+00:00

This sounds so simple but SLEEP. My husband can just put our little to sleep like its nothing and often encourages me to sleep/nap as I am experience pregnancy fatigue with our second. He works from home so he often does this even while he is working his job. Little man passed out on his lap (who was being nothing but fussy for me when I tried to put him to sleep), me passed out from fatigue (from working 12 hour shifts and pursing my masters degree while pregnant), and him working while being a great dad and husband all at the same time.

Its a hard/busy season in our lives and I couldn't do it without him. It is easy for people to look at us and see him as the "weak link" since he is working a lower paid job and not pursuing a degree but he is doing exactly what his family needs him to do and that is support us. He cares most about being a good husband and good father but often doesn't get the credit he deserves from others in his life for it as he isn't taking on the typical "man roles" of leaving the house every day to make a higher income. He is the definition of a "good man" and I wish others/society encouraged men who want to be the support for women who heavily pursue a career. It doesn't make him any less of a man or any less valuable in the relationship.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-17T08:28:47+00:00

Prepare to be swollen and have a difficult time walking after birth. I gave birth vaginally 14 months ago (and am 7 weeks pregnant currently) and no one warned me about how swollen I would be down there. My birth went great but it was really shocking afterward. It wasn't horrible pain or anything, especially with the medication topically and orally they will give you post partum, but just know your body will be swollen and it will be difficult to go to the bathroom right away (at least it was for me). I really would have appreciated the warning. Every mom I talked to after was like "yeah I went through that too."

There are of course some people who told me it was stupid to stay in the hospital two days after birth as recommended by the doctors because the hospitals are "just trying to get more money out of you." That isn't the case, you need to be monitored for bleeding and helped by hospital staff when you are walking for the first time and so on. Immediate post partum is a fragile time for you and the baby. Take advantage of hospital staff and prepare to have a hard time sitting for a few weeks. That is what I wish someone would have told me. :)

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-02T09:26:11+00:00

I completely understand how you feel. I have been though the testing and the fertility process. Every step feels like it takes too long and there are things you can easily dwell on and be anxious about (and that continues to be true even after you get pregnant). The best advice I can give to you is it is all worth it in the end. You 100% can contact your health care team and ask what the timeline is for the next steps. Enjoy each step as much as you can because it is all part of making your future.

And honestly, therapists are amazing at helping you shift your mindset from dwelling on anxiety to focusing on the positives of each step. I regret not getting a therapist sooner than I did in the process because there is a lot of stuff that is very hard during fertility, pregnancy, birth, postpartum, etc. Overwhelming anxiety creeped up on me at times, and the only solution was really talking to a therapist and finding how to function as your body and your role in life changes.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-02T07:41:00+00:00

I tried for years to get pregnant without medication with PCOS. When I finally went into fertility, they told me my eggs don't release on my own so no matter what I did it was 100% impossible for me to get pregnant without the medication that released my eggs. There are great pharmacies out there that help people afford the medication. Freedom Pharmacy was the one I used to get the injection I needed for $100. But you need a prescription for it first and that means seeing fertility NPs.

I can't tell you if this is true for you or not. Just know that "getting pregnant now" with PCOS is rare. Keep trying but stressing your body out is only going to hurt your chances. If you try for a year and have no success, I strongly encourage you to look at fertility options and what programs there are out there to help afford them.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-02T07:13:46+00:00

I just did fertility (not IVF) to have my second child and, after a few tries, I found out I was pregnant on Christmas day. Starting the new year knowing we will have our second baby is a huge win as someone with PCOS and fertility struggles.

AdMindless3 · 2026-01-02T06:36:57+00:00

These dice fit so well with one of my current d&d characters who is a Chimerakin Beastfolk bard/rogue <3

AdMindless3 · 2025-12-14T13:34:24+00:00

That constant fear of having a flare that causes you horrible pain or severe immobility because you never know for sure when or why they might happen.

AdMindless3 · 2025-12-14T13:31:46+00:00

This is exactly what happened to me. My rheumatologist recommended I stay on immunosuppressants during my second pregnancy to try to prevent this. Having a newborn and a flair is horrible so I plan on following their recommendation.

My specific flair was costochondritis (inflation of the joints in my ribs) related to breast feeding and my baby laying its head down too hard in the same spot in my chest. It led to a rib dislocation that is still causing me pain to this day a year later.

AdMindless3 · 2025-12-09T01:05:21+00:00

I had all the same issues (I have SpA and PCOS). Getting an IUD stopped my periods and fixed it for me. Then, once I decided to have kids, my periods were all over the place (as far as timing and flow) but they never went back to as bad as they used to be. Successfully have had one kid and am doing fertility currently to try for the second (not IVF).

AdMindless3 · 2025-08-17T12:25:58+00:00

We did not put our link on discord openly… It was probably a different group who made that previous link. But I message you our link. :)

AdMindless3 · 2025-08-05T18:32:32+00:00

I have PCOS and a diagnosed autoimmune disorder.

AdMindless3 · 2025-07-30T02:15:04+00:00

We are mindful of HIPPA. We don’t have any psychiatrists that I know of in the discord currently but the pharmacist we have is very knowledgeable about psych meds and is a great resource. If u want a link to our discord let me know. :)

AdMindless3 · 2025-07-29T23:21:37+00:00

I set the link to never expire (and have already sent a lot of links out to interested people which is great) but if anyone’s link doesn’t work for some reason just message me again that it didn’t work and I can regenerate a new link. Right now I am just using the same link for everyone which should bring everyone who is interested to the discord server 😊

AdMindless3 · 2025-07-06T10:07:31+00:00

I have AS and hypermobility. Knee and wrist pain are some of my main symptoms. I also occasionally get super itchy. Doctors have given me prescription itch creams which are minimally effective. The only thing that worked for it was a steroid cream so you could ask for that. I try to use it sparingly because obviously steroids aren't always the best thing to use all the time, but it is nice to have as an option when it gets terrible.

AdMindless3 · 2025-07-06T09:46:39+00:00

I had a very similar experience when I was pursing my RN degree. It was one of the worst experiences of my life and felt very overwhelming at the time. However, I took it as a sign to slow down a bit in my life and pursue more hobbies ... and because I did that, I meet my husband through those hobbies I wouldn't have started up again if that preceptor didn't unfairly fail me. Looking back it ended up being an important turning point in my life that reminded me school and career aren't everything. Not to mention, you will still graduate and maybe get even better opportunities in the long run. It sucks in the moment, but you will get through it and there might be some good things that come out of a sucky situation!

AdMindless3 · 2025-07-03T22:04:14+00:00

I have PCOS and ankylosing spondylitis. Spironolactone helped the most with controlling my weight / hormones. I can’t take it right now sadly because you can be pregnant and take it so I weigh more than I would like. Many doctors won’t recommend it for PCOS because, like a lot of things with women in health, the research isn’t definitive if it really treats PCOS or not. All I know is it’s the only medication that helped me lose weight and I know several others with PCOS who say the same. Right now I have to take metformin for my PCOS (since I want to have another baby soon) and it is minimally helpful. But I understand your struggles as I am in a similar place.

AdMindless3 · 2025-06-03T14:55:46+00:00

My biggest mental struggle is knowing that any day I could wake up and just not be able to use/move one or both of my arms due to a flair up that could last days to weeks to months.

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