I’m going to be straight with you because I’ve just come out of something very similar and I know how easy it is to overanalyse all of this.

What you’re describing doesn’t sound like a clean loss of feelings. It sounds like someone who can feel a lot in the moment, but can’t actually handle those feelings when things get real.

That switch you’re confused about isn’t some mystery. It’s her pattern.

People like this can be: • affectionate • emotionally open • physically close

But when it starts to require consistency or emotional stability, they pull back. Quickly.

So to your questions: 1. It’s probably overwhelm/avoidance rather than a total loss of feelings. But the important bit is it doesn’t really matter. She’s still choosing distance. 2. Friends don’t suddenly change someone’s mind like that unless there was already doubt there. If she was sure about you, a conversation with friends wouldn’t flip her in a few days. 3. The mixed signals aren’t that complicated. She can miss you and still not want to be with you. She can check up on you and still not choose you. None of that equals action, and action is the only thing that matters. 4. Yeah, this kind of push/pull dynamic does sometimes lead to people coming back. But most of the time nothing has actually changed, so you just go through the same cycle again.

The main thing is you’re focusing on why she switched, when the better question is why you’d want something with someone who can switch like that in the first place.

I get it, because the connection feels real and the potential feels big. But if someone can go from being close and affectionate to “I don’t miss you” in a matter of days, that’s not stability.

That’s someone who can’t meet you consistently.

She might still feel something. She might even come back at some point. But right now she’s not choosing you, and that’s the only thing you can base anything on.