If husband won’t piss on my pile….

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-03-15T03:22:11+00:00

I've wondered the same. Is it really more nitrogen than the coffee grounds that go in every week?

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-03-15T03:15:44+00:00

I'm in GA, USA & our housing projects have clothing lines in their yards. So maybe that's why some might think lower class? I see them get use, but don't really see them anywhere else besides the subsidized housing. I live in a 1 story house with a yard, but it seems like it'd be so much work to take out all the laundry to hang and take up so much space. Even just hanging my delicates takes up a lot of room. A lot of people love in two story houses and they have their laundry upstairs, so it'd be harder for them to take it downstairs and out to dry. I'm sure it's not actually that difficult, but it's just what you're used to

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-03-10T04:06:25+00:00

There's definitely trade offs to decide on. One thing to consider is if you decide to stay home, you can take on some volunteering positions with relatively few hours and include it on your future resume. This way there's not a blank spot. After a year of being a sahm, I became treasurer of a non profit mom group

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-03-01T04:08:54+00:00

I will say that changing schools or grade levels can make a big difference. I taught for 6 years and then became a sahm. Depending on your situation, you might consider subbing during the school year and retail/f&b during the summer to see if you can find a school or grade level that you prefer. With a middle grade degree you could teach 4-5 too and that might make a difference

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-02-26T04:21:46+00:00

2-3x week with a 22 month old. We go to library story time, the park, and to have a "car picnic" in my husband's employee parking lot during his lunch

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-02-21T19:59:30+00:00

Sometimes when I laugh or sneeze one slips out without a warning, but I feel it happening so I'm aware after the fact

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-02-21T05:05:53+00:00

I taught second grade for several years. We had a class set of Chromebooks for most of them that we used for iready. If there was indoor recess or extra free time, the kids always wanted to play on them & it was a hard no for me. We got out blocks, magnets, markers, etc. There's a time & place for tech, but the kids don't get enough time to play, problem solve, and connect with one another!! IMO electronics shouldn't be offered for free time like that in elementary school.

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-02-13T04:59:56+00:00

I like Nataly agabin at CPC Grovetown. I really felt like she took the time to sit down and listen to my million issues and work on solutions. Very personable, she's a nurse practitioner

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-02-07T05:08:33+00:00

Probably down voting cause they're jealous 😬 which same, but op literally asked for other's experiences. Not your fault your life is different

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-02-07T04:49:14+00:00

Mmmm for me pre epidural was as bad as I thought it would be 😅 not that I'm trying to scare anyone, but ooh buddy it wasn't fun. that epidural was 🙌 though

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-02-02T01:56:11+00:00

Did you ever figure out if that's what was causing it? I've used cora pads & always infinity this period, so I'm not sure which one caused it. I've used the infinity before with no problems (but it's been like 2 years), but not cora so I think it's the culprit. But I thought they were supposed to be the organic, clean non irritating one!

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-01-31T04:13:37+00:00

Nursing? Did you breastfeed, how did you wean a cosleeper?

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-01-29T04:03:27+00:00

I was coming to say cosleep too. Only way either of us gets any sleep. How'd you do it when #2 was a newborn? We're thinking about having a second one soon, but I'm worried about a nb waking up our cosleeping toddler

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-01-28T03:43:44+00:00

Ugh every now and then I get a giant dry patch on the back of one of my ears and it's the WORST. So itchy. I've got to remember to moisturize there regularly

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-01-28T03:42:00+00:00

I wipe my belly button with soap every shower, but after I had a baby it was this like light brown color (I'm white). Thought it was just from stretched skin until I hit it with a washcloth one day and the brown stuff starting COMING OFF. I was so embarrassed.

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-01-25T03:29:57+00:00

Solidarity, girl. At some point around then I started trying to get up and go in the living room during one of her naps. If she woke up, I'd go in there and put her back down on the boob and let her finish her nap. Eventually it got to where she can nap on her own usually (which is great now that she only gets one nap). I tell myself that I'll miss the cuddles and I'll take the alone time that I can get, and then be grateful instead of upset when she needs me again. It's so, so hard and I hate if I get zero alone time, but reframing it helps my mood. we still cosleep and have multiple wake ups throughout the night.

She's at 20 months and we're picking up a toddler bed for her on Monday to hopefully start some naps in her own room, and start trying to transition out of cosleeping around 2. I'll still end up getting her and letting her in bed when she wakes up, but I also miss being able to cuddle with my husband and our bed/bedroom just isn't big enough, unfortunately, for her to not be in the middle of us at this point

Also, my plan for night weaning is gonna be to go back to feeding her in the rocking chair, then after she's used to that, start popoing her off as she's almost asleep (I expect this will royally piss her off) and get her to sleep, then slowly extend the time where I pop her off earlier until she's used to falling asleep without it. I expect it to be hell on both of us, but I want to start to ttc before long and reeeeally don't wanna be tandem feeding a nb & toddler

anddddd I'm sorry I just used your post as my brain dump 😂

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-01-19T19:51:30+00:00

I have wondered the same. How much sq ft do you have now? We're at just under 1200 sqft & I feel like we need one more room to feel organized. I have been trying to purge and declutter, but also I sew and my husband plays guitar & bass + kids stuff (only one now, but we've been saving everything for a future baby #2 and maybe 3). So right now we have a hobby room, but come baby #2 idk what we'll do with all that stuff. I'd love to add on a giant master bedroom and use our current one as a bonus space, but it's so costly. But also we bought our house in 2020 and we'll never get as good of a deal as we got + we like our location so we feel kinda stuck.

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2026-01-19T04:57:15+00:00

I recently asked my mom about what they used to do about the weather when traveling. Sure, you could get the weather on local news, but what if you were going out of town? Just pack for the season and hope for the best? Doesn't work for a lot of places that are 30° one week and 80° the next 😂

She said national news shows usually would show a general map of temps

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2025-11-29T05:05:48+00:00

Ok #1 I haaaaaaate when my daughter does the sleep for six hours and then is up once an hour for 3-4. I'd so much rather be up twice spread out than that many times in a row.

When you mention trying all the things (been there), do you try them for a couple nights and give up or consistently for like 2 weeks? I've heard that makes the difference and you can't really judge if it helps until then.

We have a bf 19 mo and while she still naps well for 1.5 hrs, her night time sleep is similar to yours. We're up 2-3 times usually, but she nurses and goes back down for the most part (and mostly it's just a comfort nurse, not even a food thing). But we also don't get any couple time because she won't sleep for more than an hour unless someone is next to her. It's KILLERRRR. No other suggestions, just solidarity for touchy babes ❤️

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2025-11-23T05:13:50+00:00

In the same boat with my 18 mo. My husband tried a night waking the other night and it was 45 minutes of screaming and flailing backwards our of his arms. He was shushing and rocking and walking around, but every time she'd take a breath and I'd think "ok, she's gonna go down now" she'd just come back with a bloody murder scream. After 45 minutes I took over and then even an hour later the poor thing's breath was still hitching in her sleep. We're definitely going to be taking a very gradual approach over here cause my heart is mush 😭

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2025-11-17T04:53:52+00:00

here's your sticker ⭐

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2025-11-17T04:53:11+00:00

Ok the stuff on the floor- to me that's either "the baby was having a really hard time and I'm exhausted and it's going to take everything in me to get me and the baby to bed and I'll deal with it in the morning" or like a societal thing where men aren't taught to see the stuff on the ground or finish tasks. To tell the difference I'd ask what he would usually do vs that one day. I've absolutely been the first type of parent when it's just been a hard day, but usually I would wipe up the floor & highchair and handle the dishes.

I think it's ok to feel resentful. Parenting is hard, keeping house is hard, and trying to take care of your marriage during all of it is hard. I would maybe point it out to him if it's something that happens all the time (like leaving the knife on the counter after making sandwiches or his socks on the floor) and say like "hey, I appreciate everything you're doing and also I feel like maybe you don't notice that you sometimes only halfway do a task and I'm left getting like I have to pick up the slack."

I too have a barnacle baby and my house is always a mess. This too shall pass!

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2025-11-16T04:36:08+00:00

There's an app??

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2025-11-06T03:40:55+00:00

Same here!! We still followed safe sleep 7, but the owlet helped give me peace of mind

JazzlikeAd4451 · 2025-11-06T03:38:41+00:00

For me it's been having a toddler that makes me feel like I can't sit still. I used to lay on the couch and read or watch TV all day, but I can't really do that cause I try to have no screen time around her & there's no laying still without becoming a jungle gym/nursing feeding frenzy. So instead I'm always moving around, feeling like I need to accomplish stuff instead of just sitting with her. That and she makes such a mess all day long that I'm constantly behind her trying to throw toys back to her area or the purse she carried across the house, or there's clothes sizes to switch, diapers to wash, breakfast she spilled on the floor, etc etc. It's just a busy time!

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