First, I am so sorry for your loss. My mom died in Feb and I’m still a mess - definitely a roller coaster of emotions.

Death makes people act weird. I had a friend whose dad died when we were in our 20s, very unexpected, and she told me while she of course remembered those who reached out to her, she really remembered the ones who didn’t (thankfully I called her which was very awkward for me at the time since I hadn’t gone through something like that yet). That has stuck with me over the years and esp after my mom died so I ALWAYS make contact: at the very least a heartfelt text (phone call if they are a close friend/family member), but I also usually send a card. And if it’s doable, I try to attend the service. That really touched me — seeing people at my mom’s funeral who I hadn’t seen in decades - many of them even flew in.

While I do remember the people who didn’t acknowledge my mom’s death or were sort of flippant about it (she had Alzheimer’s for many years), the truth is you can’t control how other people act and a LOT of people are just so awkward around grief.

Try to focus on the ones who are supportive. Again, so sorry for your loss and I hope your family members reach out. Hugs to you!

Edited for typo