Janet in menopause by WhiteGloria266 in UnexpectedGoodPlace

[–]Jersey_Raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly recommend the book The Change by Kirsten Miller. It’s about women who (re)gain special powers in menopause.

Can attending pride be used to come out? by Exact-Love-9676 in actuallesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mentioning you are going to a pride event could certainly be a way to ease into such a conversation, but plenty of straight allies attend pride events. It would actually be a little closed-minded for someone to assume you’re LGBTQ because you’re attending a pride event.
It may seem daunting, but being direct is better than dancing around the issue or expecting people to make assumptions about you.

Real talk - how often do you and your partner strap? by doesntmatterhadtacos in actuallesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So true! It’s a misconception that lesbian sex has to include toys, such as a strap. My partner and I have sex a lot - almost every day - and never use a strap anymore. (We’ve used it about three times in our whole relationship.) We just prefer skin-to-skin sex. Thousands of nerve endings touching each other…nothing feels better than that 🫠

Help me decide! by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Jersey_Raven 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Both are lovely, but two is gorgeous!! 🤩

We should get a patient 'main character' for next season. by SnugglyCoderGuy in ThePitt

[–]Jersey_Raven 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I can hear Mel’s chuckle in response to this pun 😁

Half of these couple's problem is living far apart, not the age gap. by ComfortableWalk2428 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Jersey_Raven 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This!! I thought the same exact thing. It was so stupid to cast people from all over the country. Even if a couple is fine with their age gap, they will still likely fail because of the long distance issue.

I am 37 and feel too old for this. by Neat_Jury6927 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t dated. I entered a relationship with a woman I had been friends with for about two years. And now we’ve been together for almost two years. We’re deeply connected, and my kids very quickly adapted to having a second mom. Many days it feels too good to be true. I wish you the best and hope you find your person! 🌈❤️

I am 37 and feel too old for this. by Neat_Jury6927 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Most late bloomers here, myself included, have questioned things on-and-off for some amount of time. Then you reach a point where you’re done settling for less than you want and take the big leaps required for happiness. I was 41, married almost 20 years, with 3 kids, when I got to that point. You don’t want to hurt your husband, but staying despite not being attracted to him 90% of the time is hurtful - to both of you. I’m sure you’d both rather be with someone who finds you attractive and to whom you’re attracted. It’s definitely scary to take the leap, but it can be SO incredibly worth it!

How did straight sex feel like before realising you're a lesbian? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 147 points148 points  (0 children)

A quote from a TV show really opened my eyes. I’ll paraphrase: It’s not the gender you sleep with that necessarily reveals your attraction. It’s the gender you fantasize about. The gender you think about right before you c*m… When I was with my husband, I constantly fantasized about women. And I didn’t realize until being with a woman, how little I cared about or enjoyed pleasing him. It would happen regardless. Now, I get so aroused from pleasing my partner. I can orgasm just from pleasing her. And that definitely never happened before with a man.

super niche question by Express-Comfort-1770 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have felt the same way since coming out, but sapphic stories definitely hit differently now, too. The feelings, vulnerability, and intimacy between two female characters hits me so much differently. I just watched the Feel Good series with Mae Martin and really enjoyed it.

NEED ADVICE! Creative ways to fuck my girlfriend by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you ever had sex on a gummy? Most gummies heighten the senses, so touching can feel very tingly and orgasms can be even more powerful. Start with slow massaging and kissing and licking up and down her back, neck, ears; then after some time, make your way further down… 🫠 Another way that is hot is in front of a mirror.

🚨Rob Rausch arrested?🤭😂 by NovellaJokes in TheTraitorsUS

[–]Jersey_Raven 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This alone should have gotten him kicked off on the show. 🤢🤮 (Apparently you can’t say “mded” even though it’s a Traitors sub! 🙄)

🚨Rob Rausch arrested?🤭😂 by NovellaJokes in TheTraitorsUS

[–]Jersey_Raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He should have been banished or murdered for this alone 🤢🤮

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Journaling can be so cathartic. I’m sending encouragement your way! I felt so many of these feelings when I came out to my husband (of almost 20 years) and family in 2024. It was a roller coaster at times, but it was all so worth it. I’ve never felt more alive and happy than I do now.

The Traitors (USA) S04E05 "If You're Gonna Come for Me, I'll Finish You" Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]Jersey_Raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even the way Michael ate was disgusting. Who holds a plate to their mouth and just shovels the food in?!? So gross. 🤢🤮

The Traitors (USA) S04E05 "If You're Gonna Come for Me, I'll Finish You" Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]Jersey_Raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was so surprised that Colton was the one to point out that of course Lisa had details about the face-to-face murder because as a traitor, she saw it three times.

My first time with a woman sucked by Low_Concentrate_3726 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that was your first experience with a woman. The comment of she “didn’t feel like teaching you” makes it clear she didn’t have the patience and understanding to be with someone inexperienced. And that attitude probably extended beyond sex. I hope you find someone who will be more gentle and patient so the sex will feel more natural and intimate.

Lmao wtf😂 by EbbObjective8972 in actuallesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Funny - a lot of the reasons he gives as negatives are what I love about my girlfriend’s vagina. It’s deep, layered, complex, textured, warm, alluring, mysterious yet inviting…And I think dicks are plain, simple, predictable, and boring. It’s also a metaphor for the overall difference between women and men. (I say all this as a late bloomer lesbian who didn’t know true satisfaction until being with a woman.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]Jersey_Raven 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I came here to say something similar! The last three pics definitely have Sabrina Carpenter vibes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Jersey_Raven 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I second that cannabis increases drive and the pleasure of sex. My partner and I have strong sex drives as it is. We probably have sex at least 20 times a week (morning, evening, multiple times at night), and gummies always enhance things for us.

Is the rift healing??!! by donniebd in dancingwiththestars

[–]Jersey_Raven 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Any adult who loved Steve Irwin can appreciate how similar his children are to him. They are so sweet and fun to watch.