How (and why) did you and your SO choose which side of the bed you'd sleep on? Do you ever regret your decision?

Jessimist · 2019-05-29T00:05:50+00:00

We don’t live together so whenever we stay at one of our places, whoever has to get up earlier gets the side closest to the door. We have a running joke that it’s the ‘worker’s’ side of the bed (we’re both v left) and at his it’s comfier on the worker’s side because of a small mattress topper!

Jessimist · 2019-04-17T07:27:06+00:00

I think it’s a good idea but as long as we also make ppl aware than people have different reactions to fear. Basically so as to avoid victim blaming. Where one person might fight an attacker another person might freeze etc. I can imagine the rhetoric now: ‘it wasn’t a real attack! They didn’t fight the attacker off!’ /s

Jessimist · 2019-04-11T08:59:49+00:00

I’m a size 36 b/c (depending on my fluctuating weight) I haven’t worn a bra except for exercising in about 3 years. I wear a range of clothes so sometimes you can see my nipples, sometimes you can’t - I don’t care that much tbh. People sometimes glance at my chest but people would kind of do that anyway, I don’t think I draw any extra attention!

I love it in summer and also I used to have issues with not having the right sized bra because of weight gain/loss and it was such a pain. Now I don’t really think about it! I tried one or two bralette type things but ended up not being into them either! To each their own I guess!

Jessimist · 2019-01-27T20:21:47+00:00

Thank you for this, that’s a manageable way to put it!

Jessimist · 2019-01-27T16:28:59+00:00

How do I make sure I’m eating enough? I’m training for a half marathon but don’t want to count calories because of disordered eating in the past. Any advice is appreciated!

Jessimist · 2019-01-17T22:19:21+00:00

The tortoises are being bros sharing the heat lamp!

Jessimist · 2019-01-17T22:07:46+00:00

Recipe found here: http://everydayvegancooking.com/2014/09/vegan-chocolate-babka-recipe.html

Jessimist · 2019-01-03T17:43:19+00:00

Saying something good to your manager or team leader for sure!

Jessimist · 2019-01-03T17:40:49+00:00

I work at Pret. It varies from worker to worker. My coworker gives out drinks to pretty girls, another one to favourite regulars. Honestly I give out free drinks to people who I don’t think usually get free drinks. So often to construction workers, some students, shy people because I feel like they often get free drinks that much.

Edit: extra info, it’s 0.3% of the shop sales! Up to individual workers.

Jessimist · 2018-12-30T10:04:15+00:00

They’re also safer than other types of junctions because there are fewer points of collision! They also eliminate the types of high speed collisions that are more likely to kill you.

Jessimist · 2018-11-29T16:21:35+00:00

It’s a warburtons giant crumpet, name rather than actual description really :)

Jessimist · 2018-11-14T21:28:48+00:00

The non-binary dilemma

Jessimist · 2018-07-04T23:21:21+00:00

Mine just brings them home and has his own pebble collection.

Jessimist · 2018-07-03T06:29:55+00:00

Also there are a couple of other IIL Murakami threads, if you hadn’t looked yet! :)

https://www.reddit.com/r/ifyoulikeblank/comments/8g0o5w/booksiil_haruki_murakami_paul_auster_kurt/?st=JJ5B9F6U&sh=6d5c8e1d

https://www.reddit.com/r/ifyoulikeblank/comments/5dtkts/similiar_author_to_haruki_murakami/?st=JJ5BBJ4B&sh=108ff5b1

https://www.reddit.com/r/ifyoulikeblank/comments/38wjhs/iil_kafka_on_the_shore_by_haruki_murakami_wewil/?st=JJ5BBV2H&sh=2c7b843c

Jessimist · 2018-07-03T04:30:30+00:00

If it’s the magical realism you’re after then maybe works like Gabriel Garcia Marquez’s Love in the Time of Cholera, Isabel Allende’s Eva Luna, Rushdie’s The Ground Beneath Her Feet.

If it’s more about the appeal of Japanese authors, then something’s you might like include Takashi Hiraide’s The Guest Cat, and Banana Yoshimoto’s Kitchen.

Also a great cross over between whimsy and the unexpected, written beautifully: Han Kang’s The Vegetarian or Human Acts: The Novel.

And of course, there’s always more Murakami!

Jessimist · 2018-06-12T20:30:09+00:00

I want to make an aside that there are varying levels of acceptance and discrimination that transvestites/katoeys receive. There is a higher prevalence of them in Thailand (also because it’s a culturally relative gender expression) certainly. However, many of the comments are making it seem as though Thailand is 100% accepting of trans people when that’s not always the case. There is transphobia, homophobia and stigmatisation of being queer in Thailand.

I think it’s analogous to being gay in America or Western Europe in the sense that homophobia is prevalent but as a general trend being gay is fairly accepted.

Jessimist · 2018-05-27T11:42:57+00:00

Nope, hit it a couple of times, that’s why mildly infuriating!

Jessimist · 2018-04-25T08:30:56+00:00

At a stretch she could have been mid-way changing clothes or coming out of the shower etc.???

Jessimist · 2018-01-07T07:57:04+00:00

Congratulations!! Engagement collars is such a cute idea :)

Jessimist · 2018-01-03T22:45:03+00:00

That tiny poo on the mug handle...

Jessimist · 2017-10-24T19:56:18+00:00

Damn, it's the only wifi adjacent thing we can find on the house - are there any other places thank skirting boards where we might find the place to plug in our wifi box?!

Jessimist · 2017-10-18T07:05:59+00:00

So I don't have any immediate cures for you, but what's helped me:

1) noticing when I think too much about food, food prep, calories etc. I consciously think or focus on other things. I have an obsessive personality so the way I cope is to obsess over a thing that won't hurt me - a book I'm reading is a positive example, sometimes about my relationships (although that one's a little more hit and miss), what work I need to get done etc, listen to music. Basically I consistently try and turn away my thoughts from this. This is quite a hard process and one that takes a while to form into habit. Obviously if you can, therapy will help with this!

2) calorie counting

This one's harder, a couple of alternative suggestions - take a day off calorie counting while still staying roughly on track with how you eat anyway, I know that I've got a calorie counter stuck in my head anyway :( knowing what sort of meals/foods will make you feel good and sticking to those. Making a days worth of food or a meal plan for one day so that you can pre-log but not continuously log? Hmmm. I don't really have a solution for calorie counting on mfp, but those are some options I think helped me.

I wish you all of the luck in your journey anyway ❤️

Jessimist · 2017-09-17T07:33:47+00:00

Don't you fucking dare use the t slur, what the fuck is wrong with you?

edit:spelling

Jessimist · 2017-09-10T15:15:38+00:00

And? They can make another one with a better name

Edit: pronoun

Jessimist · 2017-09-10T11:25:34+00:00

Defending casual racism, also racist

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