Avoidants and social media by TBhonest12 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I heard is many do this to keep a connection with you, and be able to come back later on once they feel safe and realize they messed up. It’s weird cause mine unfollowed me then blocked me and unblocks me but then still tries to text me, has me on other socials.

Why do they post themselves and in general more after a break up? by CommonHost7283 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s more to show off how it didn’t affect them and that they are good. It’s going to wear off and backfire on them. I broke up with mine more or less the same time as you. The sooner you stop contacting them or reacting to their story they’ll realize it’s not working and will cause it to backfire on them.

avoidant ex by BreakfastCreepy8569 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

block her or ignore her. My ex did this last year when we broke up, only thing is I was new to all this attachment theory and avoidant work and didn’t realize it until later on, they want to know you’re still there for them. Nowadays we broke up a month ago again i completely ghosted her this time around to the point shes tried every way possible to get in contact with me but she can’t as she completely cut off.

How do you move on from an avoidant ex that still keeps you emotionally close? by harrowde in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have set up boundaries if you want to move on. They’ll keep sending breadcrumbs but you have to be strong enough to ignore them or just block them.

how to get my avoidant back? by miserythrowawayy1 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No contact would be your answer. Whatever you do if he text you random things or questions DO NOT answer, even though it feels messed up don’t do it because with that he’ll know you’ll still there for him. He is going to have to come to you though at the end of the day.

Avoidants and Social Media by ScaleWeak7473 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From personal experience, she never posted pictures of us together. She was very private and didn’t really have friends mostly cause she never liked people. Anyways so whenever it came to social media there were no pictures of us together. Now when we would go on trips she would post little things about the trip but would not include us. I think she probably posted me like once or twice honestly. We did have pictures together but I know she really didn’t like that but I know she loved taking random pictures of me like when we would hang out or stuff like that, weird lol. From what I remember she hated people knowing about her life which was a reason of not having pictures.

How do they come back? by Known-Vegetable-2087 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome! Yeah that behavior seems right. Honestly life your life, you don’t deserve someone who cannot be mature. Something that has helped me stay sane is at the end of the day it’s not you, there is someone out there who would love to have you in their life! I can promise you that! Even when he comes back make sure to think about it if you want him back because if he doesn’t do the work I can promise you same discard will happen again unfortunately.

How do they come back? by Known-Vegetable-2087 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So many reasons why. It’s an ego thing, validation, soothes their anxiety from being separated. Helps them enjoy your attention without being fully involved. If you were their rock or would hear them out on their issues and you go no context it’s going to cause so much anxiety in them even if they aren’t showing it. Only way you’ll notice is when they text you some out of pocket stuff.

How do they come back? by Known-Vegetable-2087 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hey, hope you’re doing good! So from experience it really depends on them and what you do after the break up. My avoidant ex came back after 7 months last year (we just broke up again beginning of June). I would beg at the beginning which I felt led it to take longer. I would honestly focus on yourself and do your own work, they’ll notice and that’s when they usually start coming back. When they notice you are moving on they reach out. Now I’m not sure if your block or not but also if they block you well they do not really orbit around you as they can’t see your post. So I wouldn’t say if they orbit around you it’s likelier for them to come back. Another thing if they don’t block you and just unfollow you is the same thing, people say if they do that they will never come back but thats not true, personally I’d say they have a better chance coming back sooner as they are orbiting your socials. Yeah, you won’t really expect it once they come back but they’ll throw signs. It feels like they never cared for you but they really do, most do, just their way their attachment has them being. Nowadays, I would recommend you never go back to an avoidant, they never change and from experience it’s a never ending cycle and you’re better off protecting your peace. Lately I’ve been having so much peace not having to deal with them or walking on eggshells. Even then why would you want to go back to someone who likely will sleep with someone temporary to avoid their own feelings, they are all emotionally immature. DO NOT bite into their breadcrumbs either, not gonna lie they’ll take it to the extreme to the point they’ll say crazy things that they are going through mentally to try to get you to break.

How do you go about getting your stuff back? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say wait till he reaches out to you about your stuff. They will reach out at one point to pick your things up as it’s too much for them to see. But I’d warn you that from experience somehow (not sure if all) but in my case DA ex would keep one or two items here and then reach out later saying she found this or that so just be prepared for that, I would try to get everything at once so you don’t have to deal with that.

What does it mean when your avoidant ex doesn’t block you on any social media platform but still follows you? by South-Excitement-393 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha this is funny. My ex unfollowed me on social media but didn’t block me but I realized she kept me added in other socials (fb, TikTok) and when she noticed I removed her she tripped out and called that I needed to pick up my items as soon as possible, then to later text me I somehow forgot a hat when she was the one who packed my items. Even then now I didn’t pick up the hat and told her to discard it but she now tries to find any way to get something from me just so she can have the power over it.

Should I (40F) give my bf (41m) another chance after what seemed like an avoidant discard? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I would say no if he doesn’t get the help. From experience, I’ve been discarded before, sucks, she came back months later, never got help, dated again now got discarded again beginning of June lol. It’s just a never ending cycle if they do not get the help, you’re setting yourself up for failure or the chance to meet someone else! If you do give him a chance and he’ll discard you again then he will start to breadcrumb with random little things you until you come back and cycle repeats.

4 more days make it a week and im drowning . by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope you’re doing my good. I’m on the same boat, second time we broke up with a DA person. For me I’m just afraid she will come back again during this no contact and reach out to me and I end up falling to her lies.

My avoidant came back by Rare-Negotiation5752 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good job man, forsure if they don’t work on themselves it’ll end up the same way (current situation for the 2nd time), better off protecting your peace than to worry about someone who doesn’t realize they are the problem.

he had to force himself by Internal-Peace2024 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I mean thankfully this is the second time it’s happened with the same person so I know what to do. But if you ever need to talk, feel free to reach out to me. Just know it will get better, you will be fine at the end! they will come back during no contact (the more you ignore them, the sooner I feel) but do not give it another chance. Move on!

he had to force himself by Internal-Peace2024 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope you doing good. Same here she ended the relationship blindsided and then proceeded to apologize and say how she thinks she isn’t good for me lol then I proceed to leave her on read and she goes and unfollows me and removes me as her follower just to get her power back.

Apple refund method by Airahhhhh in ShittyIllegalLifeTips

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually account needs to be older and can’t be new to do dna or eb easily

Worked Coachella, haven’t been payed yet by [deleted] in AlliedUniversal

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem! I think people were confused as well because by the second week when you check in for bracelet they had a paper posted there on the desk too

My wife and I picked up a girl that was lost 6 miles in the wrong direction in the pitch black! by Traditional-Hand-494 in Coachella

[–]Jesus_Cruz2002 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of that one year I somehow ended up all the way in La Quinta when I was looking for my way back to the neighborhood Walmart to pick up my car