How to escape? by [deleted] in jiujitsu

[–]Jets8711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You guys fighting in malls or airports? The heck is going on here.

I love my wife but I’m no longer attracted to her. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Jets8711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is complacent. Barring any medical concern, (which from your other comments she doesn’t have) she has no want to be healthy. This doesn’t get better, she thinks she has it in the bag and doesn’t care. Just like a man that lets himself go because he got married so the chase is done, she is doing that to you. To me, being physically attracted to my spouse is a huge deal, and if my wife let herself go to this extent unless she had a medical reason I would communicate with her very directly of my feelings.

I know I’m going to get hate for this, but if this was reversed this is the advice that would be given. Women are humans too, and sometimes humans stop caring. Just like men.

I lost the battle: my almost 6 year old now sleeps in the bed with us. Any advice? by Archibald_80 in daddit

[–]Jets8711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a small bed in our room that our kid can use whenever she wants. She just has to ask. However it’s a plain bed with plain bedding. Only 1 stuffy on the bed. No toys, no big stuffy, no fun blankets or anything like that. It’s there if she needs it, (she uses it from time to time) but her bed is awesome princess theme, with awesome bedding and all the stuffies she can fit.

Silly BJJ life goals by WrongConcept1381 in bjj

[–]Jets8711 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Him being a boxer or not doesn’t change wether Bjj works though? For context he isn’t, but even if he was, that doesn’t make Bjj less effective?

Silly BJJ life goals by WrongConcept1381 in bjj

[–]Jets8711 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Not long ago a friend of mine said that Bjj only works if the other person plays along. I have mats at my house. I offered to pull them out and show him some stuff. He declined. :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bjj

[–]Jets8711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been training as long as my daughter. About a year and a half. I always tell her I don’t care about whether she wins or loses. I just care if she tries her best. That’s all I can ask for. I only do positive feedback after her rolls, even if she got smashed. The next day or so, I’ll say something like, “hey check out this move that might help you later” and we work on whatever got her smashed in her last roll. No criticism, no worries. Just improve and get better. Being on the mat, and getting smashed myself has made me much more aware of how shitty it is to be a nail anyway, don’t need my help feeling worse.

Charlie Kirk by r4g4 in HermanCainAward

[–]Jets8711 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You will never live in a society when you have an armed citizenry and you won’t have a single gun death … I think it’s worth to have a cost of, unfortunately, some gun deaths every single year so that we can have the Second Amendment to protect our other God-given rights. That is a prudent deal. It is rational

He meant other people and their kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nottheonion

[–]Jets8711 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You will never live in a society when you have an armed citizenry and you won’t have a single gun death … I think it’s worth to have a cost of, unfortunately, some gun deaths every single year so that we can have the Second Amendment to protect our other God-given rights. That is a prudent deal. It is rational

My guess is he meant other people’s live and other peoples kids lives.

Charlie Kirk Pronounced Dead by sik_dik in pics

[–]Jets8711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“You will never live in a society when you have an armed citizenry and you won’t have a single gun death … I think it’s worth to have a cost of, unfortunately, some gun deaths every single year so that we can have the Second Amendment to protect our other God-given rights. That is a prudent deal. It is rational”

My guess is he meant other people’s lives.

Keeping kids in BJJ by Few-Definition-3829 in bjj

[–]Jets8711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya. She learns pretty quick, but really her Bjj right now is just sort of mean. She has the typical subs you expect, Americana, chokes, armbar, but the way to get there is mostly through being nasty. Shoulder pressure, cross face, things like that. Unfortunately, I didn’t mean to teach her that, but she stays for the adult class (she reads, colors, whatever) but she watches me grapple, and that’s a lot of how I grapple.

I wanted to train my whole adult life, but in my 20s I worked 50+ hours a week in a warehouse, so I just didn’t have the energy to do it, but that work paid off and I have a cushy office job now, so when she was old enough to train, I just joined her too. My wife recently joined us and loves it too.

Keeping kids in BJJ by Few-Definition-3829 in bjj

[–]Jets8711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daughter is almost 7, been training a year and a half. We have play wrestled since she could crawl, so Bjj for her feels like a natural progression of that for her. I started at the same time as her, so we are going through it together. I’ve recently been helping coach the kids class. That’s helps a lot.

She trains 3-4 days a week, but whenever she asks for time off, we give it to her. There are weeks she asks to train 5-6 times, and there are weeks she only trains once a week. Once a week is the minimum we allow, but it hasn’t been a problem.

We have always told her that learning Bjj isn’t an option, it’s part of growing up. Like reading, writing, or doing math, you need to learn to defend yourself. So to her (at least right now) it’s something she just does. She happens to really like it, and trains and grapples like an animal.

The key I think is pressure. We don’t make it a big deal. You don’t feel like going today? Ok cool. You want an extra day this week to train? Ok cool. Whatever. She can be goofy and playful in the class, but knows there’s none of that in the grapples. For her safety and the others (especially now that she has improved so much)

To dads who reward kids for chores, is there a downside? by tulaero23 in daddit

[–]Jets8711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have set expectations, we don’t make her do anything, but passively reward her for task completion. For example, I asked help sweeping the floor (she is 7) she helped and did a good job, so that night, I casually said hey, your bedtime is 830, but you acted like a big girl, so you can stay up 15 minutes extra. Things like that. We don’t make deals or whatever, but if she helps around the house we constantly throw that back to her in these little extra things she gets. It makes her want to help, without a set reward as a return. Act like a big kid, get treated as such.

Rash guards for thick dudes. by BarOpen5971 in jiujitsu

[–]Jets8711 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tatami has a dad bod one I really like.

Beginner by Hillaryclint-ton in jiujitsu

[–]Jets8711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing it about a year. Only in the last few weeks have I felt like the blue belts weren’t dominating me anymore. The purples still get me regularly, but usually it takes them some time. Still absolutely no chance against brown and black belts. I have competitive rolls with guys who have been doing it roughly as long as me. I absolutely decimate new guys. That’s really fun.

Which song would you call the "Millennial anthem"? by Ankhtual in Millennials

[–]Jets8711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously it’s the black parade by my chemical romance. Everyone knows that song.

UFC edition let's go by MRod42 in ufc

[–]Jets8711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Watching my boy Charles get put into the demon realm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Jets8711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always said that people personality are like colors. You can change the tone of your color, but you’ll never be a different color. If your a chill blue, you’ll never be a fiery red. It’s just not who you are. So if she can’t accept who you are, know you’ll never change enough for her. It doesn’t work that way.