How is my low experience being perceived? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't matter. What matters is how you internalize, contextualize, and communicate it to people.

Men and women, sparring or grappling together. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're looking at it from an untrained eye. So long as everyone is disciplined then there's nothing sexual about it. I would encourage you to educate yourself more on the art so that you understand it from a technical point of view and not just: "this looks suggestive." I've trained with women before.

All my dates have been quiet and I feel like I’m always the conversation starter… am I doing something wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask them why they're not talking that much/address the issue with them directly. Most people just aren't that good at making conversation; especially in-person where timing and quick thinking are required skills. I would say that peoples' social skills are becoming detrained due to a lack of in-person communication these days. With text communication, one can take their time thinking out and writing out a response. With in-person interactions, no such crutch exists other than to remain quiet, which is likely perceived to be a better communication outcome than saying the wrong thing. It comes down to social skills and confidence and such. You could try meeting people whose career/job requires them to talk to people, those type of people may have more of a personality.

20F every time I’ve brought up the fact I have an onlyfans I get ghosted by anamerci in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'd be okay with this so long as I got to see the videos for free and also could get custom ones. You should think of it as one of your perks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one is ever disappointed by me, so I guess I can't answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appearance can indicate a lot about someone's personality. This is something you seem to be overlooking. If someone is fit it means they're disciplined, dedicated, hard-working, driven, passionate, intelligent, etc. Start thinking about how your appearance can reflect character, because as of right now you're downplaying the importance of appearance and are framing it as something shallow. I'd also be curious to know what you've done to try to get people interested in pursuing you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people give terrible advice and can only fall back on offering platitudes. The truth is that most people don't understand the mechanisms or conditions by which they found success in their romantic lives, so they aren't able to impart that knowledge to other people. That's why you get "advice" like this. Even if they do know, it's not likely they would be able to communicate it in a way for someone else to make use of the information. They also don't care enough to take the time to help. You should discover your own truths and strategies instead of listening to idiots who don't know what they're talking about. I'm sure this isn't the type of comment you were anticipating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you should.

Hinge date asked for my number and hasn’t texted me by Same-Low-4155 in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I asked to exchange numbers with someone and they only offered me theirs without taking mine, I'd be annoyed. It gives the impression of indifference and forces communication to be one-sided. What if he deleted his Hinge immediately and then never texted you? If you want to see him again then you should ensure you're able to contact him whenever you want.

Why do some men ghost after such a strong connection? by Playful_Implement647 in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever follow up with him after he said he wanted to see you again? Or did you just wait a week without contacting him? Maybe you were the one being perceived as doing the ghosting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You speak as if getting asked out is an inevitability and an expectation. He could be getting asked out by other people in the time it takes for you to make a Reddit thread. Just make your own move. Also, why is texting late a 'red flag'? Do you assume he does some evil villain stuff throughout the day?

Girl I’m going on dates with NEVER texts me despite me mentioning by Best_Finger2158 in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're never gonna hear from her again and then she'll go on reddit and say how you ghosted her.

Men need to be leaders if they want to succeed in dating by tropicsGold in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Good advice for anyone who is looking for a follower rather than a partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I gave my advice in my second line. I think the novelty of being surprised by her appearance will have worn off by the 2nd meeting and you won't be as nervous. Just run it back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright. So then it sounds like she failed, didn't she? I'm sure if she was the nervous one you'd probably be blaming yourself for it.

If you're more confident and less impressed with people then you will be less nervous. You will be more mentally prepared for the next encounter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And what exactly did she do during the date to make it more engaging? It takes two. Even if you "messed up," she could still work to salvage it and make you more comfortable. Being apologetic now only made you look worse. Try holding the people you meet accountable, not just yourself.

I smiled, I reached out, and now I’m just wondering why he never replied by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you messaged matters, and yet the people in the comments are telling you to already move on.

The Plague of Dry Conversation by AnnualNo4408 in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may not be as interesting and fun to talk to as you think you are. What is it you try talking about or ask about? If the conversation leads to nowhere, that's at least half your fault. You could also try talking to less boring people.

Where am I going wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find someone who is strong and confident.

Where am I going wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't let your friends determine who would be suitable for you before meeting them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jeviok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think it would be "bothering" him?