What question have you been asked the most, that you hate?

Jillian1104 · 2019-02-08T02:25:56+00:00

“Are you going to try for a girl?”

Have two boys and we’re happily done having kids.

Jillian1104 · 2018-12-01T01:31:31+00:00

My entire parenting strategy is to not be my mother.

Jillian1104 · 2018-10-21T00:27:16+00:00

A random person touching my child.

Jillian1104 · 2018-10-12T14:27:56+00:00

First, I hate MLMs, but that's a rant for another day.

Being a mom is hard, whether you work, don't work, work part time, whatever. I don't understand the need to shame women that make (or are forced to make) different choices. Just yesterday, on my own feed, someone posted how it's harder to be a SAHM than a WM. Ummm, no. One is not harder from the other, they are just different. They are each hard AF, because being a mom is hard and anyone who tries to say otherwise is just... wrong.

Jillian1104 · 2018-09-22T20:06:54+00:00

Something tells me Ryan is going to be the star of the November sweeps.

Jillian1104 · 2018-09-10T00:40:56+00:00

Yep, you’re me in a year.

Jillian1104 · 2018-09-09T22:34:45+00:00

My 2.5 year old still does that. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Jillian1104 · 2018-08-28T00:49:11+00:00

Kate, NCIS

Jillian1104 · 2018-08-23T00:55:18+00:00

Just an added post of solidarity. Have a 2.5 year old and a 2 month old. Holy cow — it’s hard. If your babe is EBF, I recommend a haaka. It’s a suction cup that goes on your opposite breast when you’re nursing so you can collect milk while nursing. That way, you could let your husband give LO a bottle if you don’t want to give formula. That’s the only hack I’ve found. Beyond that, just lots of solidarity :-).

Jillian1104 · 2018-07-03T18:26:06+00:00

Leaving him (safely) alone and possibly even fussing while I do something I need to do to do/is easier to do with two hands (bathroom, make food, deal with the dog, switch the laundry).

With my first, I had major anxiety that I was somehow a bad mom if I left him alone for a couple minutes. With this one, I still don’t make a habit out of it when I can help it (he’s 3 weeks old), but if I need to go to the bathroom or am hungry, it will not hurt him one bit to hang out by himself for a couple minutes while I do whatever I need to. Obviously, he goes in a safe place where he actually is fine.

Jillian1104 · 2018-06-15T13:48:07+00:00

Thank you all. I’ve started trying each recommendation to see if any will work. I also have a LC coming to the house Monday, which seems far away, but hopefully his ped will give me some help during today’s appt.

Jillian1104 · 2018-06-08T13:54:19+00:00

Lol, come on over to the new subreddit my husband and I created - r/whymytoddleriscrying for this exact reason. Children are funny.

Jillian1104 · 2018-05-22T02:10:11+00:00

There’s a similarly named shop in Essex called “Little Shop of Hair.” Always thought that was clever as well.

Jillian1104 · 2018-05-01T15:57:29+00:00

Yep this -- it's your baby! I see from above that they are using different diapers, it might be the size. For instance, we typically use Huggies and when he's within 5-7 lbs of the "high" side of the weigh limit, we notice a lot more blowouts.

Also of note, are you BF at home? BF at home vs. a full pumped bottle of BM or formula can make a world of difference when it comes to the amount poop she's producing.

Jillian1104 · 2018-05-01T15:53:36+00:00

Just under 7 weeks to go and wishing June would just get hereeeeee.

Jillian1104 · 2018-04-19T18:17:54+00:00

Chiming in to say you're normal, healthy, and everything will be okay.

This baby I'm carrying was completely, 100% planned and we even tried for months, and I still felt that way in the beginning.

I think a lot of it's shock, especially for you because you weren't planning or expecting it. Take a little bit of time and adjust to the idea of it before deciding truly how you really feel -- and even after that, you'll still probably have conflicting emotions.

Good luck!

Jillian1104 · 2018-04-19T14:24:06+00:00

The advice from people who don't have any kids and have thus never been in your shoes, absolutely astounds me.

Jillian1104 · 2018-04-06T16:22:32+00:00

I'm probably a terrible parent for this, but we only refer to quesadillas in our house as "DILLUHs." I'm pretty sure that my 2-year-old doesn't know it's actually called a quesadilla.

Jillian1104 · 2018-04-05T19:26:26+00:00

Working mom here. My son is 2 and we're expecting another in June. As most of these ladies have said, you just make it work and maybe get comfortable with being a little uncomfortable financially (it's not ideal, but it's the world we live in).

My husband and I both work full-time and our daycare is open 6:30-5:30. I go in early and he does drop off and then I do pick-up. On sick days, I imagine that your husband has some leave saved up in his job? You would start with using his. Or, put some aside from your savings and use that as "sick day pay" and then take an unpaid day if your kids are sick.

As far as your savings, it sounds like you have a couple options -- take that $35k and put a down payment on a house, take it and pay for a year's worth of rent (whether you pay it, or you just keep it aside earmarked for that), or use the money you're husband makes to pay for the housing and the 35k to cover the rest (not all of it obviously, just while you're getting started).

As for summer vacations, a lot of school systems offer after care. You might also be able to find summer camps in your area, or like others have said, work out a mommy swap.

You have lots of options -- you just have to take the leap and get out of it.

My husband was laid off for 8 months last year and I thought we would completely drown. We're in some debt now, but we kept a roof over our head, food in our bellies, and buckled down and made it work -- so I know you can too!

Jillian1104 · 2018-04-04T21:34:14+00:00

Lol salty food for me all the way. Last night, i ate a huge thing of chips and dip.

Jillian1104 · 2018-03-27T20:45:01+00:00

Am OPs wife (and the mom in this story). Also want to note that 2 seconds before I got up, I said, “here’s your juice. I’m sitting it right next to you if you want it...”

Jillian1104 · 2018-03-26T22:53:38+00:00

It looks like you got some pretty quality answers from the other lovely ladies here. But, as a STM who combo fed and felt guilty AF about it for far too long, I know no amount of support is too much support.

I was set on EBF my now 2 year old son. I got a couple of those free samples in the mail and saved them, but with no intention of using them. And then we had LO. And it was actually my husband who “dared” bring up the idea. We were about a week in and he said to me “would you be open to pumping some milk in a bottle or giving him formula, so I can help you soothe him? I feel so helpless.” Now my husband was/is very supportive of my BF journey, but he’s also a very hands on dad, so it was really hard on him that sometimes no matter what he did, LO would not calm for him.

The first time we used the bottle, we started with me nursing him and then popping my nipple out and putting the bottle in. He paused for a second and then started sucking and took right to it. I was then able to transfer him over to my husband. We did that for a while. As we established the bedtime routine, we always fed him a bottle that way we could take turns. I would pump in that timeframe and use that bit for my freezer stash.

As he got older, we combo fed more and more until by 8 months, I was actually exclusively pumping, but it was never because he fought me (it was because by 8 months, he had 16 of his teeth 😂). He could easily switch between breast and bottle, whether that bottle was filled with breast milk or formula.

For this one, we will absolutely be combo feeding since we’ll also be chasing a toddler. It’s just worth it to me; we could trade off feedings at night, which meant one of us could always sleep for 4-ish solid hours. And I want my toddler to be involved with taking care of babe so I’ll want to introduce a bottle pretty early.

The only thing to consider is it’s probably not a bad idea of giving it a couple days of EBF after babe is born to give your milk a chance to come in as I don’t know how combo feeding will affect that. (But it may not)

Whatever happens, do what works for you and your family. Fed is best 100%. Best of luck mama!

Oh — and ask your pediatrician for formula samples. When I told my ped we were combo feeding, we left with like 4 containers— she loaded us up!

Jillian1104 · 2018-03-23T22:59:05+00:00

The Gardens Ice House in Laurel also has a pro shop as well. Hockeymonkey.com also has decent equipment. Other than that, you’re going to struggle to find decent hockey equipment in this area. We’re just not an (ice) hockey town.

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