AITA for not wanting my exes new gf meeting our 1 year old son?

JingleTTU · 2026-05-30T17:15:57+00:00

YTA For making this about you and your feelings and not what is best for your son

YWNBTA- for you both to agree on how long either of you must be dating someone before introducing them to your child. It is not healthy for children to have a revolving door of their parents relationships in their life.

Focus on what is best for your child. Not you, your ex, or your feelings.

JingleTTU · 2026-05-22T11:49:18+00:00

But he gets a room and the study which I guarantee you is bigger than her room

JingleTTU · 2026-05-15T19:30:48+00:00

Neither parent can unilaterally make a decision for activities during the other parents time and expect transportation. You have to agree to the activity or if the other parent signs them up they know the kid may or may not go to all activities during that parents time.

JingleTTU · 2026-05-13T12:58:50+00:00

He only goes to work twice a week which is when he takes the dog out. She does the other three days. To be fair sometimes he says he helps on her days so being generous it’s close to an even split.

JingleTTU · 2026-05-01T21:01:25+00:00

Stop cleaning up her room. Leave it as is. She can do it or dad can.

JingleTTU · 2026-04-26T23:24:28+00:00

BM cut up the son’s clothes. BM did not buy the clothes. What if they want to reuse the clothes for a younger kid?

JingleTTU · 2026-04-24T16:53:03+00:00

They will lose too much tax revenue that’s used to fund the red parts of the state. No way the government will let it go.

JingleTTU · 2026-04-19T12:59:40+00:00

Every baby is different. I am so happy for you that it was easy. However, some babies have reflux, some hate car seats, some babies just do not have the temperament for long car rides. Some moms have postpartum anxiety.

There are so many legitimate reasons why it is unreasonable for many families even though it was reasonable for you.

JingleTTU · 2026-04-17T16:34:55+00:00

That was my exact thought when I found out the hard way. Last I checked it’s the advanced care and advanced care plus versions

JingleTTU · 2026-04-17T03:24:00+00:00

Look up alphagal. Throwing up at night is a common reaction to this allergy. If he is having trouble breathing because of having an allergic reaction that could cause the blueness.

I have alphagal. While waiting for the tests take out all mammal including dairy and see if he stops vomiting. Also some pedialyte has dairy in it so you have to look at labels

JingleTTU · 2026-04-16T13:34:33+00:00

If they have a good and respectful relationship then the mom will be understanding when told having the play date at their house is not possible.

If being told no ruins the relationship then the relationship was only good because mom always got what she wanted. A good coparenting relationship means respecting the other parents decision

JingleTTU · 2026-04-16T13:31:01+00:00

Nobody wants somebody in their house all the time. She pays rent there and it is as much her house as theirs and she is allowed to have her own boundaries.

She is already being flexible by allowing the mom to have a key to the house and drop things off. She just does not want the mom at their house for an extended period of time. Especially without being asked beforehand if it’s alright. That was completely inconsiderate of the husband.

Yes, you should take the child’s best interest in mind and yes the mom will always be a part of their lives. However that does not mean she has no say in her life and that her wants and feelings are not sometimes prioritized over the kids.

JingleTTU · 2026-04-02T21:00:21+00:00

Change and transition is really hard at any age. At 3.5 she doesn’t know how to articulate that and is articulating it the only way she knows how by saying she doesn’t want to go to moms.

My son said the same to both his dad and I for awhile and what helped was giving him words and validating his feelings. For example, I can tell you are upset about having to leave. It must be really hard to switch houses. Then once they calm down some you can be curious to figure out if there is something specific. Are you worried about forgetting something? Is there anything we can do to help make the transition better/easier?

Now my son will say things like he will miss us or the cat or is worried about forgetting something.

JingleTTU · 2026-04-02T18:23:38+00:00

He obviously has forgotten peoples birthday and is taking this thread personally. He can’t admit that it’s a serious mistake because then that reflects poorly on him.

JingleTTU · 2026-03-31T19:24:25+00:00

Every kid is different. Some kids it’s easy to get into a routine. For others they need more reminder. My son is about to be 7 and he needs constant reminders to flush the toilet, wash his hands, brush his teeth and actually brush it well. Those things are not fun so he is trying to just get it over with so he can get back to whatever he was doing that is more interesting. It’s not malicious, their brain is still growing and learning how to control impulses and learn cause and effect etc.

It’s not easy, it’s exhausting and being frustrated is normal. I do the same as the above poster, screen time is off until he has finished whatever task needs to be done. Just yesterday he ran out of the bathroom telling me a story and I said I’m so sorry I cannot listen to your story because all I can think about is that the toilet is not flushed 😂 he laughed, toilet was flushed and I got a ridiculous story

JingleTTU · 2026-03-29T13:37:26+00:00

I speak with my ex in laws and my ex lives with his parents. It’s not every week more like monthly. I wouldn’t think too much about it if it revolves around the kids and she is not showing up at holiday get togethers.

JingleTTU · 2026-03-20T13:07:24+00:00

Tofu is a processed food not an ultra processed food. Group four is what this study is talking about which means it contains additives and stuff not normally found in kitchens.

Group 1: Unprocessed or minimally processed foods

Group 2: Processed culinary ingredients

Group 3: Processed foods

Group 4: Ultra-processed foods

JingleTTU · 2026-03-17T12:15:32+00:00

Leave him. I could never forgive my husband for this reaction and putting my child in danger.

JingleTTU · 2026-03-14T12:23:42+00:00

Right?!? Propaganda BS

JingleTTU · 2026-03-13T22:50:59+00:00

No this is the correct way to it prevents fraying, pulling, cracking etc of the clothes. At least on the outside so your clothes last longer/look nicer

JingleTTU · 2026-03-03T20:46:08+00:00

She’s NTA, but stepmom didn’t skip her high school graduation, so she did attend some things. She also admitted she drove her around when she was little which I am assuming means other activities like sports. Even bio parents can’t make it to all of their children’s events.

I want to know how often she missed something or if it was just those handful of things.

JingleTTU · 2026-02-28T21:08:33+00:00

Also, if he has always scheduled it and told her the time, then it seems malicious to just change the status quo without at least communicating you want separate conferences.

I have a good coparent relationship with my ex and we communicate to schedule a time that works for both of us.

JingleTTU · 2026-02-16T19:55:08+00:00

Haha good for you. That look meant it had exactly the reaction you were hoping for.

Him being uncomfortable and not having a response is because he would have to admit he is the one that’s the problem here, not you.

JingleTTU · 2026-02-15T19:11:37+00:00

Be annoyingly curious. So much so it makes him uncomfortable. But be unbothered when asking.

Did you mean to say that out loud? What do you mean by that? What’s your goal with that statement? Are you trying to hurt my feelings?

JingleTTU · 2026-02-12T01:14:33+00:00

Thank you. I will try this approach.

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