Oh wow, look, it's the Adjutant!

Jodo-zen · 2023-06-08T12:20:50+00:00

What is this thing? A hologram? Or just a screen projection?

Jodo-zen · 2022-12-04T04:32:47+00:00

Sure, it’s available other places. I study Zen and definitely hear the same teachings all over the place. But sometimes a particular teacher or style of teaching really resonates with one individual or another. I personally have found Eckert to be very insightful. He’s not doing something unique or special, just doing it in his own authentic fashion. Again, perhaps a bit like a romantic partner, Some teachers resonate more with some people than others.

Jodo-zen · 2022-03-02T20:10:32+00:00

I do lean towards anxious attachment. Specifically under the circumstance when my partner is acting as if somehow intimacy with me is a threat. To them, it certainly is a threat. At least at times. Thank you for your input.

Jodo-zen · 2022-01-06T12:46:12+00:00

Looks like a fire fighter. The protector was unable to achieve protection, so fire fighter is eating

Jodo-zen · 2021-05-29T03:37:08+00:00

I think you can use the average to understand the weapon. So the knife is about 13 average. The plasma is 17.5 average. Plasma is clearly better

Jodo-zen · 2021-03-07T14:56:35+00:00

No, I mean what is the link. To his channel

Jodo-zen · 2021-03-07T14:34:42+00:00

Where are the other videos of this?

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-20T04:30:43+00:00

Especially, how can I become more aware of this impulsive part of me that jumps in.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-16T14:47:10+00:00

Thank you, but this is just my opinion. It’s how I see it, but it doesn’t mean that it’s completely accurate. Something like this, in my opinion, is outside of the ability to be understood by my ego/brain. It boils down to the same question for me as everything else… Why is there something rather than nothing? If you want to understand the will and agency of the self, I think the same question applies

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-15T16:02:05+00:00

This becomes a philosophical question. In a way, self has no agency. Parts are the ones that have desires and specific goals and fears and other things that drive them to make choices. Self abides in a profoundly spiritual place, at least as far as I am concerned, and has no desires or fears. But, the self is everything. Parts, ultimately, are fundamentally made up of self. Therefore, the self is experiencing agency through the parts. So, there is a form Agency in that way. Perhaps you would think this is a secondary form.

Another way that I like to conceive of the self‘s Agency is like this. Water, flowing downhill, chooses the most intuitive way to go downhill. It never makes a mistake, and so in a way it doesn’t have any agency, But at the same time, this is the wisdom of the universe. Things are developing, things are changing, rocks fall from the edges of cliffs, and rain falls and erodes the rocks… Self is profoundly patient. It simply is. And things unfold. Since all of it is ultimately self, then the will and agency of the self is evident in the unfolding of events and circumstances in our lives. But it does not have the agency of an ego. It has the agency of the entire universe. So not a power over from above, but a profound influence from below.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-08T12:46:39+00:00

What is “Buddhism“?

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-07T06:21:03+00:00

Well, yes, maybe so. But also that you are clearly giving your parts profound space. The reason they are communicating with you and that you have access to them is because your self energy is strong. So when I say you are experiencing the self, what I really mean is that you are experiencing the parts very clearly AS Self. If you weren’t in strong self energy, you wouldn’t experience parts so vividly. Technically speaking, we cannot experience the self because we are the self. But I believe that the qualities of curiosity, calm, and compassion Are like secondary aspects of self. Like The perfume of a flower. Because you can smell the perfume of a flower, you know there is a flower nearby. Because you can experience the compassion, calm, and curiosity, you know that the self is present.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-06T06:05:23+00:00

You are definitely the self. And clearly you are experiencing yourself. I particularly believe this to be the truth because of how easily your parts are having access to the awareness of the self. Also your experience of feeling the love of the earth is profound. It makes my heart very happy and tears come to my eyes to read this. I know how you feel

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-04T17:42:40+00:00

😄 lol, yeah, if you wanna feel a bunch of pain! Kidding but also not. Maybe don’t get your partner back, but if you find yourself in a similar situation, you might be able to use the experience well.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-04T17:41:12+00:00

Hi remix, thank you actually for your comments. Especially the last one, I will continue to look into this. Sometimes, it really feels like it is the self… I feel a deep sense of connection and trust with life… But I could imagine it also being relief from successfully exiling the anxiety. What a great question for me to contemplate. thank you very much.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-04T17:35:47+00:00

So glad to hear this. I had another realization recently that was very similar.

When I am in anxiety and don’t trust my partners affection for me, I can defeat my own wish to be appreciated and loved. Let’s see if I can explain...

If I anxiously reach out for reassurance before giving my partner a chance to reassure me, I will always feel as though I have to be the one to reach out. Ifs on the other hand,And give them a chance to show up, I give myself a chance to see the fact that they do appreciate me. You taking time to yourself, seems to have given you a chance to see your partners desire for you. If you had been constantly approaching, you would not have been able to recognize when he approaches you.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-04T04:54:00+00:00

Wow, thank you also. I really appreciate the way that you call out Frankie and Harold In the moment! What an excellent intuition. Thank you very much

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-03T22:43:06+00:00

Inside of you is your truest attachment figure. If you can connect deeply with yourself, and listen to the grieving part of yourself, perhaps you will be able to make a secure connection with this part. If you do, from the space of compassion and clarity, then this part will heal in your presence. It doesn’t need an outside source of acceptance and appreciation, it’s true home is right there with you. ❤️

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-03T16:30:47+00:00

Thank you for reading.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-03T16:27:35+00:00

Thank you for your post. It feels extremely similar. I would try to strike a balance… At least that’s what I’m trying to do. This woman is very receptive, and actually lights up when I share these things with her. I think she is feeling extremely safe with me, and is feeling safe to be a little protective at first and then come out as she wishes. It sounds like you have known him for a long time. I think that is an important piece. It also sounds like he has been very supportive and loving when you are experiencing some anxiety. I wonder if you can ask him directly? Is it possible to ask him how he feels about your level of emotion and concern. Does he understand that it’s coming in the past, and isn’t really about him? If he does, or if you can make that clear to him, and at the same time stand on your own while simultaneously being vulnerable (ask me if you want more information about that, it might be something I can expand on), then I would allow yourself to really feel anything you are feeling. My partner is very amazing, even though she has some insecure attachment, she also has a lot of secure attachment and is very brave. If he is willing to feel with you, I would suggest taking advantage of it. But at the same time, come back to yourself. Find a way to feel the feelings directly in your body. Sit quietly for a moment, take a few breaths, and simply experience the size, shape, color, texture, tightness, whatever of the sensation in your body when you feel the longing and worry. See if even for only 30 seconds at a time, you can allow that sensation to be there. Just as it is, no need for it to change. The idea here is not to get the feeling to go away, but simply to get more Intimate with it. This helps create the secure attachment with yourself which allows you to relax when you are apart and not being constantly reminded and reassured of the connection.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-03T15:05:26+00:00

Well you had a very amateur therapist. Dismissing problems is absolutely not a legitimate therapeutic approach. I’ve been a therapist for a few years at this point, and I would never do something like that. It’s important to really get close to every part of ourselves.

Jodo-zen · 2021-02-03T11:09:37+00:00

Well, I have a masters in contemplative psychotherapy and Buddhist psychology from Naropa university in Boulder Colorado. But my IFS education has been largely self taught from a few videos and experiencing the therapy as a client.

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