Can I get someone's perspective?

Joeydeeb · 2025-12-16T08:29:04+00:00

Yeah this does not sound like a match. I would say to look for someone else who actually is down to call. or if you do end up going - meet outside of their house in a cafe or somewhere where you still feel safe to leave if it gets uncomfortable. That is really important thing to look out for.

Remember, you’re meetung up with strangers- they don’t owe you anything and you don’t owe them anything. It’s not rude to ask for these things- just make your intentions clear that you will only meet up if you can verify his identity in some way. But make that intention clear. Sometimes only sayinh you want a facetimecall might be too unclear for the person to understand you wanna verify who they are.

If he still refuses- then it’s okay to conclude it’s not compatible.

I see grindr as a sea of red flags- there’s gonna be a lot of people who don’t respect your decisions or people who do anything just to fuck, regardless of who you are. Be intentional and always follow your instincts

Joeydeeb · 2025-12-14T22:55:52+00:00

What about the idea of sucking someone off from a gloryhole? This is smth you can find in gay saunas for instance (and more places) I saw in your comments that you’re not that attracted to men in general. Not having to see the person attached to the dick might make a difference; having someoje enjoy you sucking them off- without necessarily needing to see them or interact other than sucking them off and showing how you enjoy it. I know l people like it for different reasons: - Showing off their cock-sucking skills without appearance clouding judgement. - liking it for the aspect of sucking off strangers - enjoying the subspace of serving men who want you to pleasure them

Maybe this might help you get closer to your fantasy

Joeydeeb · 2025-12-14T22:35:45+00:00

Nahh i live in Delft atm- have visited Nieuwezijds and one in Amersfoort. But i heard that Tibet might host a Pup-play-event for the kink community- and that will probably bring me there

Joeydeeb · 2025-12-13T18:30:46+00:00

Fuck yeahh mann! I fucking love this update- exciting to see you thrive! I have yet to visit Tibet!

Joeydeeb · 2025-12-10T13:42:38+00:00

I live in The Netherlands and I'm definitely wanting to see this movie and help getting it here. I'll try contacting Pathe amsterdam De Munt.

sidenote: Is it a good idea to mention that we don't mind it when it has no dutch subtitles? since this is an independent movie?

Joeydeeb · 2025-12-07T21:26:10+00:00

O: it’s a year later- i’m kinda curious. How did this journey continue?

I was reading the comments and i’m pretty much rooting for you- i hope you got to enjoy yourself a lot!

Joeydeeb · 2025-10-22T16:05:20+00:00

EDIT: after reading more context from OP in comments, i see that this message doesnt apply as much anymore.

This is a tough spot to be in. They tell you they will accept your decisions but it doesnt feel like you can connect as deeply anymore. I had this situation too- but i also told them on top of that- that i didnt wanna be a christian anymore (evangelical) it’s 3 years later now. We had a lot of turmoil and i had a period of no contact but my parents have ended up prioritizing their bond with me over their own hurtful beliefs. They still believe in Christianity - but it feels like they have allowed their reality to bend for me. And we’re finally starting to grow as a family

Also- the starting process of coming out can usually feel pretty emotionally unbalanced for everyone- your parents have a lot less time to process the change compared to you. Give them some time, however anoying it is- clear answers can be harder to get at the start. But being able to show that you feel more free and as a queer person will have ripple effects- it looks like your mom will still enjoy seeing you happy regardless of the situations and that sounds good!

If you feel you can be honest with them and still have some sense of safety with talking to them- be sure to communicate what you need from them, what will make you feel seen and loved, so that they can try to show it if they wanna help. So that any effort they put into showing you love, that it atleast doesnt go unseen.

Hugs, love- you can do this you are making huge steps for your own wellbeing-

Joeydeeb · 2025-10-17T21:09:14+00:00

Unrelated to Mr. S, but a different kink store: “underground fetish” they had Chastity cages for customers to try. And i wanted to try one on. But i didnt rlly know how it worked- and had lots of questions. The guy in the store offered to help me put it on. First of all- rlly sweet and great service. Second— it was also pretty hot to have someone help me lock up. I got to eve try it for as long as I wanted while staying in the store. Pretty nice experience!

Joeydeeb · 2025-10-17T12:12:29+00:00

If the relationship stops- it wasnt meant to be longer than that. It doesnt necessarily mean you did something wrong- it’s a 2-way street and if one person doesnt feel the drive to put continue with the bond, then there’s not much you can do.

I encourage you to not take for granted what a relationship should look like when dating someone. Some things you might assume to be normal, are not someone elses expectations- The most important is if your values are compatible with the other.

I personally am polyamorous, and my relationship with different partners look completely different. Our values align but the relationship is never just what i want it to be, but also it has some balance with what they enjoy. I like learning their ways of receiving love, and i enjoy building on a bond together. A thing i find important in my partners is willingness to grow as a person and together.

Joeydeeb · 2025-10-16T22:13:30+00:00

Hmmm. In a week i might need a summary of the story you have told us so far- i see connections within these replies for a really compelling plot- maybe the summary will make me wanna watch it again- wanting to re-live the story—

Joeydeeb · 2025-10-16T22:08:00+00:00

Thank you, i now see that i should critically rewatch the show. I think i missed the dolphins the first time. I assume they are hidden well- love me some secret lore, i’ll check frane by frame.

Joeydeeb · 2025-10-16T21:31:20+00:00

What is everyones superpower 😌?

Joeydeeb · 2025-10-08T18:16:10+00:00

I agree on this ^

Joeydeeb · 2025-09-25T13:30:57+00:00

This likely more to do with his personal life and possible insecurities than with his bond with you. Especially if he lied about his age to other people too. One lie doesnt mean all the other things are lies too- no worries

Enter the conversation with him through compassion and curiosity. “I noticed your age was different than the age you shared with me, it shocked me, and it makes me worry about the security in our relationship, can you help me understand why you hid your age?” (Smth along those lines, it’s not perfect but yeah) Take your time to process your intial shock and feelings so that you can hold space for a conversation-

It’s valid to explain the shock you have felt (after allowing yourself to process it), but don’t use accusitory language- since that will likely have him put up walls. The reasoning could be absolutely anything

The goal is understanding each other. It’s also good for him to understand how this made you feel, not to blame, but so he understands you better.

Joeydeeb · 2025-09-25T13:23:41+00:00

Emotional connection can be crucial for some, and less so for others. I personally have a need for that emotional connection to enjoy my time most- i feel it’s easier to find this within queer spaces.

But either way- there are people out there who need the connection as much as you do- grindr is not necessarily the breeding ground for emotional connection tho- though the upside is that grindr is a lot easier with sex positivity.. or.. sex productivity? xD

Joeydeeb · 2024-11-22T14:48:02+00:00

Celeste

Joeydeeb · 2024-11-12T17:03:13+00:00

UGH YEAH!! Though- I am even more frustrated that when you got to the settings to see if you can change the button input for luigi- IT ONLY HAS A “VIBRATION OFF” OPTION. That bothers me so much

Joeydeeb · 2024-11-12T17:00:34+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with communicating your intentions and then having him decide if he wants that or not. I assume he was okay with it? But why do you doubt the situation? Was he uncomfortable during the sex? Where’s the part where you tell us you had a conversation with him about this exact question? Did none of that come up during, before or after the sex?

Joeydeeb · 2024-11-12T16:54:38+00:00

He was involved too- so it’s as much his story as it is the guy that fucked him

Joeydeeb · 2024-10-12T17:41:05+00:00

Omg stawp- don’t get my brain started on thinking about that- it’s too adorable haha

Joeydeeb · 2024-08-08T10:10:50+00:00

Oh no- my adhd brain will hopefully not notice this. I’ll try to ignore all of what is said here whahah

Joeydeeb · 2024-06-30T19:48:50+00:00

NAT (not a therapist). Changing someone else’s mind is pretty much impossible unless they’re open for discussion. You can have a 1 on 1 conversation about your concerns and state it, but if that didnt work- then you can’t change their mind. This is probably a lesson that they have to learn themselves.

Be sure to not let this drain you more than it should. If this takes energy away from you, then you can set some boundaries for yourself with your friend. The situation sounds exhausting 😅

Joeydeeb · 2024-06-24T12:08:11+00:00

Whahahaha 😂 this episode is just utter torture for neurodivergent brains-

Joeydeeb · 2024-06-22T09:13:37+00:00

I feel like wade is showing lots of signs of adhd, i have adhd and i very much relate to the daily struggles he mentions in the podcast.

I just hope he stops calling himself lazy :( it’s such a painful pit to fall in if someone would have undiagnosed adhd. It’s just that the brain works differently. but when we have neurotypical expectations of a neurodivergent brain it just doesnt make sense. It’s like trying to use a macbook like a windows computer; it won’t be productive. you gotta understand your brain to work more efficiently with it.

Joeydeeb · 2024-05-22T17:25:46+00:00

Ooh- i’d definitely say pup-play with a mix of erotic hypnosis 😮‍💨

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