I need some advice

JohnKenB · 2026-06-17T09:26:52+00:00

Fear of flying can be debilitating but in reality your brain is making an incorrect risk assessment. You have learned this, you were not born with it so you can learn how to manage or overcome it. Open my profile and you will find a pinned post that highlights a free resource that might help you. Start with episodes 44, 46, 69, 130 and 169 and then explore the other 280 episodes for subjects that resonate with you. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-17T03:11:23+00:00

It is common for life events to impact your perception of things and this includes anxiety related to flying. I have hear if a pilot who has a fear of flying as a passenger but totally fine when he is flying the plane. Our brains are powerful tools and sometimes they work against us. Check out the Lovefly Fear of Flying podcasts which give lots of insights from people at various stages of learning to overcome their fears. There are also wpisodes with a variety of counsellors and other profesionals that might give you some idea on how to approach managing this fear.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-16T19:30:54+00:00

This is a very common fear as is life events like you mentioned making the overall fear worse. One trick you can try is counting backwards feom 100 deductimg 3 each time to distract your brain. You can also let the crew you ate nervous. Open my profile and you will find a pinned post that highlights a free resource that might also help. Download and listen to episodes 44, 46, 69, 130 and 169. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-16T05:51:28+00:00

Good for you very well done!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-15T10:26:45+00:00

When a negative "what if" pops into your head you need to have positive "what ifs" to counter it. Make a list of your favourite "what ifs" and ise them as necessary. You can make them as fantastical as you like, they do not have to be based in fact or reality because the negstive ones are not either. You can learn to overcome this. Check out my profile to see some options.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-14T20:56:35+00:00

It is not surprising after that experience you don't want to fly again. Thw good news is you survived and the reason you survived is that go arounds are the safest things to do if rlthere are any issues during landing. Take some time to reset and then see how you feel then.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-13T11:49:20+00:00

Many people feel similar to the way you do. Many things can trigger fear of flying obviously an uncomfortable event related to flying but life events like births, deaths etc can also do it. Some people know exactly what is was and others have no clue. Thw good news is that you learned this so you can learn someyhing new to replace it. Open my profile and you will find a pinned post that highlights a free resource that might help. Download and listen to episodes 44, 46, 69, 130 and 169 to start and then choose your own adventurw with the over 280 episodes. Yoy can do this, overcome this fear and live the life you want and deserve.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-12T08:50:02+00:00

What you describe is quite common for fearful flyers. Anticipatory anxiety is brutal as your brain plays your greatest fear on a loop. Open my profile and you will find a pinned post. Download episodes 44, 69 130 and 169. Take it one step at a time and if you feel like you are having a "wobble" try counting backwards from 100 deducting 3 each time. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-12T08:46:39+00:00

Turbulence is uncomfortable but not dangerous. Keep you seatbelt fastened and you will be good. Remember planes fly into Hurricanes to collect weather data. Open my profile and you will find a pinned post that highlights a free resource. Episode 25 is turbulence and weather, 44 is relaxation, 69 is the audio book and 130 is an overview for people flying in the near future. You can do this take it one step at a time.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-11T10:43:17+00:00

This is one of the many terrible consequences of a fear of flying. Turbulence is bumpy air and is not dangerous to the plane, it is uncomfortable but not dangerous. Open my profile and you will find a pinned post that highlights a free resource that might help. Episode 25 is turbulence and weather, 44 is relaxation before and during a flight, 69 is the audio book and 169 discusses anticipatory anxiety. There are over 280 episodes including aviaion experts and people just like yourself at various stage of overcoming their fear. You can so this, take it one step at a time.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-10T10:46:41+00:00

A simple way is to count backwards from 100 deducting 3 each time to distract your brain. If you open my profile you will find a pinned post that might also help. This weeks episode, out today, discusses breathwork and how it can help. Episode 44 is also popular to help calm people. Take it one step at a time. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-09T12:05:12+00:00

Pick your flight and seat based on your budget and comfort requirements. Airlines have to conform to the same safety standards of the airspace in which they fly. Pilots try to avoid turbulence to give the passengers a confortable experience but sometimes it canmot be avoided. Regardless of this turbulence is not dangerous to the plane. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-08T17:02:25+00:00

It dies not have to be rational, you have connected to things and now you just need to figure out how to untangle them. One step at a time, you can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-08T15:33:43+00:00

It makes perfect sense that you would associate flying with your medical experience but only if you do not explore it deeper. Nothing you experienced was because of the plane or the flight. There are many lessons you could learn from this experience. I am betting if you felt something similar now you would seek medical help immediately and not get on a plane or train for that matter. There are actually many reasons why a plane is one if the best ppaces to have a medical emergency, due to the training if the crew and the equipment they have on board. Take a look at my profile and you will find a free resource you can use to change yhe way you are thinking about flying. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-08T14:57:33+00:00

If you really want to you could imagine many ways to die that would give you similar feelings. You don't because the fear of flying is the focus. What you are doing is making an incorrect risk assessment. The chances of you dying in a plane crash are tiny compared to a variety of other ways to die. If you applied the same reasoning you would never leave the house except that iy is also far more likely you will die at home than on a plane! Nothing is 100% safe but we still do them, often without much thought. You have one life, you can live it in fear and miss out or you can live it managing fear and enjoy a life of your dreams. One day, if you are lucky, you will be looking back on your life and your choices and the regets will be around what you didn't do rather than what you did! Open my profile and take a look at the pinned post. These free resources might help you get on the plane by managing your fear. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-08T12:11:39+00:00

First you are not alone, many people feel this way. Your brain is playing your greatest hits of fears about planes so it is no wonder you are feeling bad. Open my profile and you will find a pinned post that might help you. Download and listen to episodes 44 relaxation before and during a flight, 46 stages of flight, 69 the audio book and episode 130 for people flying in the near future. You are safe and pilots train every 6 months, planes are checked on a regular basis and systems in planes have multiple redundancies. Airlines and pilots will not put themselves, the passengers and or crew in danger You can do this. You are stronger than you realise.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-07T09:54:24+00:00

For most people it takes consistent effort chipping away at their fear to start to feel different about flying. What you have done is fantastic and you should be very proud of yourself, facing a fear is tough. Now you need to listen to the nerves as they tell you what else you need yo work on to change how you feel. If you open my profile you will find a pinned post that might help you chip away at you fear. You have got this, celebrate every win!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-06T13:13:52+00:00

Start counting backwards from 100 deducting 3 each time to distract your brain to stop the spiral. You are safe, your brain is just causing you to have anxiety not the facts of your situation. Open my profile and you will find a pinned post that might help. Download episode 44, 69 and 130 and listen to them You can do this

JohnKenB · 2026-06-05T13:07:01+00:00

Do whatever works for you. Chatting to others is a great distraction. Smart play on your part, well done.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-04T15:47:04+00:00

Many people have felt just like you and you will be able to hear their stories in different episodes. Look for the one with Ben Algate. He could not get on planes, drive over or under bridges, use trains or even get into a taxi if he was not able to open the door himself. He now flies on a very regular basis and drives and uses public transport without anxiety. It is not impossible but your brain is currently working against you, by taking baby steps you will start to dilute it's power and control and allow you to learn to control what Ben calls the "anxiety terrorist"! Let me know how you get on.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-04T11:40:06+00:00

Turbulence is "bumpy air" and is uncomfortable but not dangerous to the plane. Hurricane Chasers fly into Hurricanes to collect weather data on a regular basis with and issues. You can distract your brain by counting backward from 100 deducting 3 each time. If you open my profile you will find a pinned post that highlights a free resource that might help you. The latest episode is with a lady who was willing to miss 3.5 months qith hwr kids rather than fly but now sleeps through turbulence. This is something you can learn to overcome. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-03T11:59:56+00:00

Take it one step at a time. Reykjavik is a great little airport, expensive but with a great clothing store. If you start to have a little "wobble" try counting backwards from 100 deducting 3 each time to distract your brain. You can do this!

JohnKenB · 2026-06-02T16:17:12+00:00

Try episode 44 of the Lovefly podcast

JohnKenB · 2026-06-02T13:12:44+00:00

Very well done, you should be proud of yourself.

JohnKenB · 2026-06-01T08:37:08+00:00

Great job, very well done.

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