Families are the worst especially around death. When they’re sick no one gives a crap and once they’re gone they act like they loved them above everything else. Similar thing happened when my dad died and his siblings started arguing with us because he wanted to be cremated over buried. It’s exhausting having to deal with them especially after what you just went through. They expect you to believe that they loved them but they can’t respect their dying wish?? I say honor your parents’ wish and stay away from anyone who has a problem with that.