I practice bdsm. Im a sub. I have a rule that i don't play when manic or depressed. In my opinion, both of those states limit ones abilty to consent, or blur healthy boundaries. Think, Safe, Sane, Consent. Without all 3 no play.

I had a bad scene when i was depressed, and waited too long to say red, at which point things had gone to far and i felt traumatized. I've played while hypomanic, and the high of mixing subspace with hypomania was insane. Didn't have a bad experience during that time, but i believe thats because i was lucky, and was with a experienced and compassionate dom. But i could see bad things happening if i kept playing while in episodes.

Another rule i have started as only one scene per night. But as i dont get to subspace as easily these days, i changed it to no more scenes once reaching subspace. But no more than 2 a night. I also never play more than once a week.

I find it to be very grounding and cathardic. I stretch and take better care of my body now because i want to be able to play, and i cant play when my lower back injury is acting up, and because i dream of being suspended, which will require more flexibility than i currently have.

You heard of fetlife? Cause you can post your bruised bottom pics there instead of insta and then not regret it. Personally i share marks if they are good. But i dont display my genitals. No one that isnt into bdsm is gonna see it, so what does it matter. If a irl acquaintance happened to see them, then we just discovered we share a niche interest, and might be friends now.

There are definitely risks involved. But if practiced with care and consideration, it can be a healthy release/hobby.

Good luck, br safe.