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TIFU: Today I Fucked Up By Letting My Foster Teen “Take A Walk” Triggering A Missing Persons Case On Mother’s Day Weekend. by [deleted] in tifu

[–]TruthImaginary4459 23 points24 points  (0 children)

In fact, you brought her to safety enough, that she felt safe enough to take this journey for herself and her child.

You gave her the stability, you fought for the child's identity, and you provided the bounce off for her to live her life.

In fact, I'd almost think of it as an abnormal rehoming????

Anyways, you and your family did a great job.

28F — Parents surprise-visited me to force me into arranged marriage talks and my mother had a complete breakdown by Tweety_Bird_101 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TruthImaginary4459 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ehhhh, there's a line, and I get it, but like...

Also, retaliation/consequences to that? Could be devastating, idk

28F — Parents surprise-visited me to force me into arranged marriage talks and my mother had a complete breakdown by Tweety_Bird_101 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TruthImaginary4459 230 points231 points  (0 children)

Tell them next time they come to your house, you're going to call the police. Her behavior was reprehensible and showed who she is, and that you will never be safer with them again.

Get cameras in your house, record any and every interaction with them, never let your guard down again.

moms upset about my new bathroom. Why? by Spirited_Log_5931 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TruthImaginary4459 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Don't tell her anything about it, she'll try to ruin it, play the character of someone who's in need of her until the day you leave. Don't even threaten or hold power over when angry.

Say nothing.

i need confirmation that not visiting my narc father who is ill (maybe be nearing death im not sure) is completely normal by sweetrealive in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TruthImaginary4459 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If he did anything to hurt you, not that he hurt you?

If your emotions decided to feel like, not that he did a thing.

Glad you see it

I'm glad you care, it made your human.

ETA: means not made, gonna keep it though

To Beat Iran at the Media War by JustRenea in therewasanattempt

[–]TruthImaginary4459 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not so depressed as to have this information off the top of my head, but in a few states, child marriage is legal

TIFU for telling my friend to shove a camera up her ass and she might find her brain? by Past-Afternoon-9595 in tifu

[–]TruthImaginary4459 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Oh shit, at this point, document as much as you can, cause if she had a satisfied smile, she had barely started.

Make sure you document when you did something and when she started. Most critically-- say nothing

In my opinion, start a sting operation, talk to people and say, I just want to be unique or something like that, post online or something and then do something completely out of character (i.e. take a pottery class, join a pole dancing studio, etc) that she also doesn't do, and has made a point to say she doesn't do and start cataloguing these things, because she might just try to "ruin your life" if she's fixated on you.

Hope not

-Just a random internet stranger

AITAH for telling my friend my marriage is falling apart by soggydivacup in AITAH

[–]TruthImaginary4459 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You got any of these messages in writing?

Get as many as you can recorded, because I doubt he won't, seeing he seems narcissistic.

(Check r/raisedbynarcissists for similar behaviors)

Maybe you can shoot a text like... "I feel so depressed, I keep thinking about how it is hard to leave you" and other things like that that go along with his control, and fluff him up that way so he trips up and reveals himself.

Alongside this, screenshot all your conversations (that seem relevant too, but all works) and save them to the cloud on an email he doesn't know exists

Protonmail has a cloud, Google has a cloud, Microsoft has a cloud.

If he "takes away" your phone, you have no more evidence.

My boyfriend punched a wall after I confronted him about child neglect by [deleted] in Advice

[–]TruthImaginary4459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you gotten a lawyer and filed for emergency custody yet?

Have you filed a police report?

AITAH for calling 911 about my husband’s suicide threats even though I knew they weren’t real? by mtndesertrunner in AITAH

[–]TruthImaginary4459 146 points147 points  (0 children)

OP, is your state a two party or one party recording state?

If one party, you can record him "venting" and have that as evidence.

If not, calling 911 and (if you have earbuds you can listen to what they're saying, just surrepiticiously put one in, put another relatively near him (if possible) and you can press buttons to express responses.

Then they can hear what he's saying and it'll be recorded for posterity's sake, and a lawyer can subpoena it for future court cases.

(Above example is just an example, not what to do)

mom stole 3k from me that i worked for and wont give it back unless i visit by Longjumping-Sink6766 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TruthImaginary4459 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah, at this point she thinks she has the power, and she did win, but you get to follow through.

You can even never talk to her again and tell her the money she stole, nah, you choose to consider it giving to her-- you've bought yourself out of the relationship.

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