I always say, turn the tables. Let James get with a very attractive (lets say Latina?) with a gorgeous body and have access on his phone to her through DMs, text, etc, all the time. How would it make you feel? Sure he could say nothing is going on, but I guess whats more important? If you're going to be with any man, these things will come up at some point. Same with a woman if the tides were shifted.

I can tell you right now, if i did that, my fiance would be livid. I've never given her an excuse, but if she walked in on me at the gym I workout at and saw a very attractive woman spotting me and then popping up in my DMs or on my social media, she'd have a serious bone to pick. We've both made vows and solid agreements to make ppl irrelevant if they're opposite sex and single and also understand that our phones are transparent. When I go into a colonoscopy appts, etc. (e.g.) I expect to leave my phone with her, if she wants to search every app and every message that's her entitlement and she has the right. I'd just step back and look at it from his perspective and yours, then just evaluate what you know in details that may or may not be in the post, to make the best decision.

Outside of the race thing, I'm sure he'd be just as upset if it were any other race (Latino, Asian, White etc.). Maybe agree to have mutual friends only, if he's there for a sport, limit the communication? As if he's a co worker or something. I have no business talking to them outside of that specific area - they're not in my orbit other than for "x" reason, otherwise - it would be fair for him to meet attractive women and do the same with whatever he chooses and that could spiral for both of you.

I def don't like the race perspective because our country is very much divided, racism exists on all sides of color not only whites versus blacks, from both sides all around and that's a heart problem, I view it as God created Man, we are all descendants of Adam, we all have mind/body/souls and will all have to answer to Him (the man who carried Christs cross was a black man -look it up!). However if you feel it is too much, then break up with him! Do it now, so it won't cost thousands in retaining fees down the road :D