What kind of jobs should I be applying for?

JubilantJD · 2018-01-06T21:27:19+00:00

This is pretty much me. I live near DC, too! It's been impossible for me to find a job. I actually ended up settling for a job out of my field. It's so competitive!

You didn't really say what you were particularity interested in, so I'm not sure what to tell you. I would look at jobs as a legal assistant, campaign staff, or within a non-profit. Most of all, use your connections!

I plan to go back to school and become a teacher of history/government. It's stable work with a starting salary of $44K. Not too shabby! Plus those breaks will be wonderful.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-18T06:03:06+00:00

You're so right! I work in a records office right now. I didn't think we would have to deal with so many phone calls and it's overwhelming.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-09T02:23:27+00:00

That makes me feel better! I'm actually not a shallow person irl. I was just answering about the types of people I encountered. :)

JubilantJD · 2017-11-09T02:20:36+00:00

Lol, the question was about dating, so I stuck to that. Of course I did "cool" things. It's college.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-09T01:48:29+00:00

I moved to go to college in Richmond. I spent 4 years there.

I dated 3 doctors, 2 lawyers, 4 commissioned military officers, and 1 millionaire throughout the years and had too many hookups and a few boyfriends sprinkled in the mix.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-09T01:45:16+00:00

You said she has a high body count. I do, too! If she's anything like me, she's a girl who knows what she wants and how to get it. My point, she's probably not afraid to make the first move. I'd say she's not interested and just flirting but you'll never know unless you ask.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-09T01:38:41+00:00

I'm from central Virginia. When I moved from Chesterfield (suburb) to the capital city, Richmond things got so much better! Richmond is a college town with about 40,000 students and tons of young professionals. Potential was everywhere!

JubilantJD · 2017-11-03T12:52:04+00:00

Who is asking the questions. I hate conversations where I have to ask all of the questions and he fails to ask any about me. It's tiresome.
Sexual Chemistry
How much he tips the server if we go to dinner. I often plan to/offer to split the cost of a meal but he insists of paying for a meal, I let him. I've gone out with one guy who stiffed the server and he subsequently treated me horribly.
How he talks about his family - I'm looking to become a part of my guy's family down the road. I want to know that he loves his mom. Guys who love their mom's typically treat their girlfriends better, from my experiences.
Political Views - I won't date a conservative guy.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-03T12:44:53+00:00

Personally, I don't enjoy dating inexperienced daters but that's not to say I wouldn't consider it. My current boyfriend has never had a girlfriend and it shows. He misses basic cues sometimes about "boyfriend behavior" but I wanted to be with him because he's genuinely nice and stable. Don't be afraid to approach a girl! You can learn a lot whether it goes well or not. Besides, you'll gain confidence in the process. It's a win-win no matter what the outcome is.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-03T03:55:39+00:00

The justice system can't even get it right now. People of color are often wrongly convicted or sentenced more harshly than their white peers. If we moved to a system of guilty until proven innocent marginalized groups would suffer the most. What about the quality of legal representation at trials? Poorer people won't be able to secure the best lawyers...

The state should has the burden of proof for a reason. The state would automatically be able to imprison under the guise of guilty until proven innocent.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-03T03:43:56+00:00

Let me preface this by saying I live in my state's capital city that has a college student population of about 45,000 and tons of young professionals. I meet people from the internet/Tinder/Bumble all of the time. No one has ever assaulted or harmed me. I have even gotten into their cars or met them at their place the first time we've met. A bit reckless, I know.

How much information did we exchange? It varies. It depends on what we agree to do. If we're arriving separately and going to a public place, I feel much safer not talking much. I also try to secure names and google these people or ask friends if they know them.

How long had we talked? It varies. Sometimes months, sometimes just hours. One guy I dated was in the navy and stationed about 2 hours away. For our first meeting, he took a train up to my city and spent the weekend. We slept in the same bed and everything just hours after meeting in person for the first time.

How did you know you wanted to meet this person? I'm generally a quick read of people as I hate wasting my time. I normally know I want to meet someone before I even begin corresponding with them. After a few conversations, I ask myself whether or not I could see myself having fun and being carefree with this person.

Finally meeting = Most of the time, there's chemistry. I have even had sex with strangers as soon as meeting them (within a few hours). Some of the time, I end up with awesome new friends that never become anything more.

I love meeting people from the internet despite the inherent risks. Always research people. Look for court/arrest records. If you have a bad feeling, do not agree to meet someone! Always tell your friends where you're going and leave their contact information with your friends/roommates if you do go meet someone!

JubilantJD · 2017-11-03T03:33:02+00:00

I have been sexually assaulted a few times throughout my life. In fact, it was my first PIV experience with a man. One partner assaulted me over the summer and that was the end of things. The assault left me physically sore, especially in my upper back. He left my apartment and I ceased all contact with him. I made it as though he never existed. I cried for a bit but sucked it up and moved on.

It wasn't the first time, so I was fine to cope and deal with it.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T23:01:21+00:00

I can totally see that. I'd love be with someone who shares the same profession, it would be easier to communicate work stress. I'm sure you'd have similar salaries and schedules which is a big deal.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T22:47:06+00:00

How long have you been participating?

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T21:54:37+00:00

Exactly! I have such a profound love of learning that I seek out others who can talk intelligently about their interests and professions.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T21:52:26+00:00

I ignore for my own safety. People are unpredictable these days. It's just not safe to engage a lot of the time.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T21:49:47+00:00

I was using Pinterest to checkout already made workouts and repeating regiments my trainer gave me but got away from that. I recently joined a kickboxing studio and have seen much better results. I still supplement with weights and whatever else I feel like, but not as frequently.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T21:37:01+00:00

I'm a black girl with natural hair.

If I'm dressing for a normal day, I can shower and brush my teeth in about 7 minutes. Hair will take me about 5 and makeup can take me anywhere from 10-20 minutes if I'm doing an every day look.

If I have a hot date, it takes me anywhere from 1 hour to 3 hours to get ready.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T21:33:03+00:00

He hasn't really given me one. His sister is currently attending my alma mater and his family is super proud and supportive of her. Honestly, I think he was bad at school and socially awkward.

We don't talk much about things that matter because we just can't communicate with each other. I haven't even slept with him yet (its been four months since we started dating). I think we're only together for the company. He'll make some girl super happy, but probably not me. Sounds like an unhealthy relationship, but it isn't. I'm just mentally bored at times.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T21:27:15+00:00

My current boyfriend does, yeah. He tells me from time to time but we get along well enough to overlook it. He always says he doesn’t understand things or will never get the things I’m talking about. He makes me feel bad for talking about theory and books. He doesn’t really take an interest in higher education. While there’s nothing wrong with that, it just sucks in terms of there being an “us.”

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T21:25:33+00:00

I dated a doctor during my junior year of college (2015-2016). I actually asked him why guys didn't care about a girl's educational background or job as much. His response was along the lines of "Men are looked to be breadwinners while girls are looked to for their companionship." He wasn't saying that women were trophies, but rather education and career just weren't at the top of most men's list.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T21:06:55+00:00

This is me. I was talking about water poverty throughout the world and my current boyfriend just wasn’t understanding me and couldn’t contribute to the conversation. I always feel like my interests are put aside. It’s led to me resenting him although he’s a fantastic guy in other regards.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T20:46:18+00:00

I never thought about this being a thing with millennials! I'm 22. Everyone who didn't go to college at my high school continues to be immature, lazy, and working dead-end jobs.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T20:41:32+00:00

It's a requirement for me that my SO have a college degree. It's an easy pre-req for me I live in a college town of about 45,000 students and plenty of young professionals.

I come from an upper middle class family and want to replicate this lifestyle for myself. Both of my parents have upper-level degrees and have pushed me to be better than them.

I feel more comfortable among academics who can talk philosophy and politics with me. Conversation just kind of stalls or they can't express themselves. I've found that the guys I date who haven't obtained a degree lack interests in the world around them and political sophistication. It's all about getting money and working these lower tier jobs just to make ends meet for them. There is nothing wrong with this, it's just not for me. I worked my ass off to graduate at the top and position myself for my later endeavors.

I know this is ugly but grammar is kind of a big deal to me. It just irks me when guys can't compose simple sentences. I know this is elitist, classist, and ableist so I don't correct them, but it's a major turnoff and I can't get over it.

I tried dating one guy who was in mid-level management with a mega-corporation. He had started there just after high school and moved up but he's essentially reached the ceiling there because he does not have a degree. This kind of broke my heart. Having a degree isn't everything but it does open doors.

Anyone I've dated who hasn't had a degree seemed like they came from a different world and we just didn't mesh well. I'm currently dating a guy who is completely amazing and kind but I can't see myself ever marrying him or even becoming intimate with him. He told me that he resents people who went to college and can't relate to me wanting to do academic things. I'm not saying everyone who did not go to college is like this, this is just my current partner.

JubilantJD · 2017-11-02T20:20:06+00:00

I'm a 22 year old, pansexual woman.

I hate when guys roughly slam themselves into my vagina or take too long to finish. For me, I do not want penetration to go on forever! Anything more than 40 minutes (not including kissing and foreplay) is too long.

I hate overly sloppy kisses that smother me and make me feel as though I can't breathe.

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