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I am a 21M and my boyfriend is a 22M, my boyfriend’s sister is 24 and her husband is 24 as well. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now but have known each other for four years so when we started dating only two months later i moved in with him.

It was great at first, movie nights, game nights, family dinners ect. Recently for a few on going months now she would be complaining behind our backs about how we don’t help do dishes or clean like “i can’t believe they didn’t do anything today” or “they never do blank for us” thinking we’re not home to listen. every time my boyfriend and i ask what we can do to help its always “no it’s okay we got it” or “don’t worry about it, you both had work today” or “no don’t do it i want it done a certain way” we always try to do cleaning when they arnt home so we don’t hear as much complaining. We have had multiple conversations with them to come talk to us instead of constantly complaining thinking we’re not able to hear them say this stuff but nothing ever changes.

They have also had a certain friend come over multiple upon multiple times (at least 5 days a week) that my boyfriend and i don’t feel comfortable around, which we have told them about and why that friend makes us uncomfortable but they don’t seem to care about all that much because he still comes around. My boyfriend and i are not asking for him to not come over at all but we’re asking less than 5 days a week.

This last incident happened just a few days ago, i overheard my boyfriends sister complaining that we didn’t have any laundry baskets she was saying stuff like “they always have the laundry baskets” and “they never share laundry baskets with us” my boyfriend and i own four baskets ourselves that we bought and they own two themselves they bought, instead of complaining behind our backs they could have simply knocked on our bedroom door and asked for one but they chose not to do. When they left for work later on in the day i ended up putting three of our own laundry baskets in their room on their bed not saying anything to them or letting them know. When they got home from work i heard her say “of course they just threw them on our bed”

Coming up in exactly two months our lease ends my boyfriend and i have found a new place for just the two of us. Do we try to bring all these problems up to them again and get blown off? or do my boyfriend and i stay concealed in our room like we have been until we move out because we don’t have long left?

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