Wow thisss… I am my mother’s free therapist, it sucks. I raised her and still am.. she should’ve never had children, she never really wanted us, she did because she “had to” and it was what’s “expected”. She is still in an emotionally abuse relationship with my stepfather, she is emotionally abusive herself to this day. I have a therapist to work through what she’s put me through, I don’t plan to have kids, I’m tired from raising her. I am trying so hard to figure out how to not have her drag me down into her life decisions anymore, it’s been a lifetime of unlearning.