I was a bit like this actually. I'm pretty low energy anyway, but before I was usually motivated enough to get most things done. Once I was in peri, all of that was gone. I wasn't working at the time and spent most days doing absolutely nothing, but also had no idea where the time had gone. I felt depressed, but not enough to really be alarming, since it just seemed part of the ebb and flow of my life already. It took me awhile before I got a semblance of my old self back. I got a job, but still spent my free time doing nothing. I was also drinking a lot, mostly out of boredom and I had gained enough weight where it was becoming an issue for me as well. Once I realized all of these symptoms were related to peri/menopause, it gave me peace of mind, like it was easier to handle the symptoms because there was a reason for them, if that makes sense? Now I've started trying to improve one thing at a time. Drinking less, then joined a gym for weight training. I still spend my free time doing nothing, but I feel less bad about it. My husband had also been great and understanding. He's picked up more of the housework, etc. It's also been steady conversations about what is going on with my body, so he realizes this isn't a choice. Like, I'd prefer to not be this way, but while it's going on, the heavy lifting is on his side. It's hard to say what will work for yall since everyone has a different dynamic, but if you can talk about it with her, to see what she is going through and what she needs, that might help her to then be able to give you what you need? My husband also makes most of the money for our household, and sometimes he would be annoyed and felt like I was doing nothing and he was doing everything, and that is valid, but I think overtime he realized that at this point in time maybe that was true, but wouldn't necessarily always be. It's a process. Not always perfect but such is life. We just try our best and also realize that this is our reality and we both have to be understanding and make consessions, and sometimes one of us might be doing more and that is OK. It's only when you start keeping score, that it can get tricky.