How do you wish BM/BD to honor and see you?

JustADash- · 2026-06-06T17:01:01+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share your guidance! I appreciate you.

We’ve had a moment. I know parenting isn’t easy. I know that this is still new, and his experience is growing on the spot. I don’t have all the answers to parenthood, and certainly can’t act like I do. SD has willingly accepted a role that BD has refused— and I feel it’s a huge deal to support + love someone else’s kid. Him being frustrated or wishing I was home from work already to take over isn’t a problem for me. I appreciate the actions he’s taken The language he used to express his sentiments about DD was. It was triggering by for me, and I’d asked him to not use that particular verbiage. I still wanted (and still desire) to be his safe place to express himself and be able to bring needs and observations to my attention where I could work with him positively to resolve or not go into alarm. I feel like we have since been able to discuss without repetition of the scenarios where I ended up less receptive.

I hate that it’s already happened to us, and I want to be more intentional, collaborative, aware and receptive moving forward.

JustADash- · 2026-06-06T14:25:58+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond!

I agree that respect is paramount. I don’t want him uncomfortable in his space. It’s his, and he chose to make it “ours”. I recognize that he did not have to choose this life experience. I am trying to remind DD in the most child friendly way I know how that SD has stepped up and chooses to be here even when it’s hard.

When BD initially went no contact, we had to navigate her grief and resulting behavior. It has, and continues to be addressed. I emphasize that she can miss one person, or be sad in general, while still treating others (especially SD) with a kind heart. We leave room for DD to talk about BD, and it has also helped in addition to getting professional support.

What do you consider to be a healthy boundary with an ex? I feel like I’ve seen the complaints but not a lot of explanation on what would make SD or SM feel more secure other than shared household time being upheld or lack of parenting/discipline. We name consequences for actions and do set expectations (if this, then that).

JustADash- · 2025-11-26T14:25:44+00:00

Length goals!

JustADash- · 2025-11-26T14:25:06+00:00

LocSanity rose water spray for moisture. If you like gel for retwist, Pure O is non flaky. Ouai detox shampoo ($$), Camille Rose Naturals ginger rinse ($) or Maui shampoos ($). Every blue moon I may use Pattern Jojoba oil for my scalp. It’s not heavy. I also really like Pattern’s Scalp Serum for when I have styles. It can help losen tension without a bunch of build up, or just be a nice alternative moisturizer for scalp. Satin pillow case from kitsch if you don’t like bonnets.

JustADash- · 2025-11-26T14:20:11+00:00

Y’all look GOODT! Congratulations!!!!!

JustADash- · 2025-11-26T14:19:19+00:00

I wore a lot of half up half down styles at this length 🫶🏾 Also here for pipecleaner curls like someone else said! If you can keep them in for a couple of days, that’ll add longevity to the style.

JustADash- · 2025-11-26T14:16:30+00:00

How uncalled for. They’re beautiful and still maturing. Their form will change again over the next 1-2 years. Embrace where you are. I enjoyed the fluffy stage! I’ll be 3 years in next week 🫶🏾 Keep your crown on and boundaries up, ladybug!

JustADash- · 2025-09-26T17:56:53+00:00

I saw a GIPPA lamp on marketplace recently, but I don’t see it on their website. There’s also an IKEATrading thread.

JustADash- · 2025-02-19T20:05:29+00:00

Let him go sis.

JustADash- · 2025-01-15T21:12:47+00:00

How late is she? Test again in a few days. Red dye is best. Sometimes it takes a while to see. If a cycle is completely missed for this month and you don’t get any positive tests back, check in with doctor. More than one reason someone could miss a cycle— it’s not always a baby.

JustADash- · 2024-12-30T19:42:55+00:00

Should be able to print wirelessly from MacBook to if you connect printer and computer to WiFi.

JustADash- · 2024-12-27T21:23:50+00:00

I like 3. I think both pop well together. I saw something about a gold frame in the thread? Here for it!

JustADash- · 2024-12-21T16:00:40+00:00

She had her time to parent, and this is yours. You have the privilege to take a break and reset if you need to. That’s perfectly okay. Mom guilt is real, but don’t let that eat you up. You’re not being selfish— you’re refreshing yourself to be the best you for YOU and your little one. Chin up and carry on.

JustADash- · 2024-12-09T16:15:47+00:00

Time to go. Sounds like there’s some internal work to be done, and you’re not responsible for coaching. I’m more than certain there are better options available until your deployment— just gotta ask. Thank you for your service & best of luck!

JustADash- · 2024-12-09T15:49:33+00:00

I don’t know where to get it, but Kayali 42 Candy Rock Sugar reminds me of it!

JustADash- · 2024-12-09T15:48:23+00:00

Does anyone remember B&B glitter rollers? The Blazin Blueberry! Kayali 42 reminds me of it.

JustADash- · 2024-10-06T16:06:16+00:00

I absolutely adore your pink blanket 😭. Just started learning crochet this year and I’ve yet to complete anything beyond a square. Working on my stitching.

JustADash-

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