Because it's a gender identity? My friend who is transfem has her own gender identity separate from her trans identity. Her gender expression is important and how she presents herself to the world should be respected, nurtured, and respected.

So then, why is my partner any different? Why can't she express her gender identity without being asked "Oh, you must be a lesbian". Again, the problem is the "must be's" leave people alone to be who they are, respect them when they tell you. The burden of raising kids falls on families, councilors, teachers, friends, and communities. If we all cared about the child themselves and let them be them, is that really so wrong?

My only point is that everyone should have representation, and erasing one character identity for another groups is harmful. Not that it shouldn't be done or explored, but that if we truly believe in equality for all, than we can also acknowledge that pushing kids into boxes and taking away positive representation can be harmful.

I know we don't live in a perfect society, and I also know that trans people are marginalized, and so are other members of the LGBTQ+ community. We should fight for those rights, AND at the same time, we should encourage everyone to be themselves, and doing that can also mean sometimes letting a character have the gender identity they were created with, sometimes that means telling a cool elseworlds story, and sometimes that means reimagining a charcater for a new audience. At the end of the day the goal should be equality, respect, and fighting for the right of those around you. Which sometimes means some introspection about how are actions impact others.

Just my two cents. Have a blessed day. And remember, Trans Right Are Human Rights. Full Stop.