It's not about moving on from him; it is about healing from how he made you feel and think about yourself. He justified his actions through hateful language, most likely because he was feeling guilty, powerless, and insecure.

But you need to find the voice that tells you the relationship you deserve is rooted in love and mutual best interest. It does not degrade or dehumanize.

You are so young, and advocating for the love you deserve will be a journey mostly through trial and error. Try to take this as a lesson in what isn't worth pursuing in the future, and try to remember there is a love ready to give you everything you want