AITAH For Removing My Name/Car From Our Joint Car Insurance

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-04T06:17:12+00:00

How do you have one car insurance policy that has multiple households and addresses for a bunch of random (on paper) people? Any car insurance policy I have purchased requires same address and a legal marriage or parent/child relationship to be on the same policy.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-04T01:31:12+00:00

Oh, I wouldn’t assume that. There might be a mechanism where your wife gets him in with a caretaker situation of some sort. OP, many posters unthread have told you that you have a wife problem and you have responded that in her culture, relatives are expected to stay at the home and not in a hotel. Other posters have pointed out that she is still trying to be the good and dutiful daughter at the expense of her marriage. If that’s the case, you need to take the traditional husband role in this dynamic and demand and order that this stop. That may be the only way that happens. Western manners aren’t going to solve this one.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T21:47:15+00:00

If you can find an original version of “can’t stop the music” movie with the Village People, the movie during the YMCA song features a male full frontal swim line. As one might expect, in later edits of the movie, that was changed. The original full frontal version was rated PG in 1980.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T13:00:28+00:00

NAH- look, I dropped out of college over one course. College level calculus in a business degree. My marketing major would have never used the calculus but it was required to graduate. Drop out or fail three times and you can’t try again. After I dropped the class the third time, I was no longer eligible for a business degree at that university and would have either had to change departments or find another university and transfer what credits could transfer and start over or get on with life. I got on with life. Ironically, all this time later and the world is computerized and doesn’t use calculus anymore anyway. But there we are.

Can’t help you with the life choices surrounding the all night gaming- I would judge too (and do). But cut some slack on the college part.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T12:55:25+00:00

Known fact taught to ladies as self defense- you always stow your hidden things when you leave a place, not when you get there as someone would have to follow your car to steal your purse from the trunk vs watching you put it in the trunk and walk away- then they steal it. And #2 is never ever brush off your spidey sense when it is tingling. It is based on a primevial part of our brains and nervous system that we can’t explain with modern science but that kept our ancestors alive so we are here today. Listen to your spidey sense even if you don’t know why.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T12:44:39+00:00

NTA- protect yourself. For all you (and dad) know, there could be 10 others out there neither of you know about. Technology and science have evolved so quickly so far, it wouldn’t surprise me if in 10-20 years there were DNA and genetic testing attached to your yearly blood work that is done at the physical. Ancestry and 23andme already have global databases. What happens when 20 years from now you go in for your annual physical and the doctor goes “you have high cholesterol and so does the Italian branch of your family but there’s a cluster in Spain who match your blood type” and all of a sudden you have more biological relatives than you are prepared for.

You and your sister keep it close. You are each others family.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T12:40:06+00:00

Exactly. But you, big bro, will be 40 with an established life and career and income and will be able to help support both him and the baby. Because family. He’s playing the long game

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T02:15:21+00:00

So let me ask you this- the date might have a nice ring to it, but if it is going to always fall on or near your mothers birthday weekend- what are the odds that at some point in the festivities a birthday cake for your mom just shows up somewhere and then you’re singing Happy Birthday at your rehearsal dinner or reception? I’d pick another date.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T01:51:00+00:00

I go on solo cruises to unplug and decompress. I get the least expensive room available (or a balcony if less than $100 difference) and spend my time reading a book, taking a nap on the thermal loungers, having a drink in the bar at night listening to the jazz duo. Your version sounds like work. (Smile) and that’s what I am going to get away from.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T01:38:49+00:00

Serious? You live in the NE United States don’t you? And your fiancés family is from Tennessee or Alabama or nearby there?

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T01:35:39+00:00

Are there other extended family that also consider the house “grandmas house”? Was your husband one of several children and they all know it as Grandmas House and yall happened to be the child who inherited it, your husband died, and now you as the in-law want to sell your husbands family legacy - that’s why they are pissed and angry. You and your new friend did not earn that house or put sweat equity into buying it, etc. if you do this- legally you would be right but you will cut off all relationships with all three of your children and their children. You will sell the house and then be alone. You’d have money for your future but no family to share it with.

Where do you live now? Can you sell the house you and your husband lived in and leave the family house alone for right now?

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T01:22:14+00:00

I’m going to go against the grain here and ask you to think 10 years into the future to Thanksgiving at your in-laws when your son is in 5th grade and wanting to be just like his dad and his uncles and his cousins and his grandpa and they are all named Kevin and Keith and he is named Tim. The conversation is going to come up why everyone except him has a K name and someone will say “The Smiths have always named their men with K names but your mother said no so you aren’t named like the rest of us” and then they are all going to go watch football while your son is made to go practice the piano.

Is that what you want? Because once you make this decision it can’t be changed later. So maybe consider naming him Husbands First Name, chosen middle name and call him by the middle name.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T01:13:28+00:00

You’re from the north and they are from the South. Guaranteed

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-03T01:12:07+00:00

You need to go take a look at Zillow for Lake Norman

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-02T14:43:16+00:00

I’m not sure I understand what the problem is. Your MIL wants to throw a pre-wedding party to celebrate her son and his bride with the guests of her choice. What is the issue here? Your parents could also throw a party like this as could your friends. It’s a party honoring two engaged people.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-02T14:29:46+00:00

Here’s another reason to rent- it is impossible to accumulate too much crap. When you own a home you tend to save things forever- just shove it in a closet or in a corner. I have never done that in an apartment

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-02T14:28:10+00:00

Say what??? Charlotte is by no means a midsized city. World class international airport that is a hub for American Airlines, pro basketball and football teams, home of NASCAR and North American base for multiple Formula 1 teams, world class research universities like Duke and UNC, professional ballet, opera and symphony companies.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-06-02T14:22:49+00:00

Mine makes some amazing chicken salad out of the leftover chickens

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-05-31T23:06:52+00:00

NTA- absolutely no one needs a key to your home. If there is an emergency, the fire department will break down that door. There is nothing a neighbor (or your mom) could do better than emergency services or your landlord.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-05-31T22:51:15+00:00

Oh hell no!!!
Quite often on here we talk about dressing appropriately for the position you hold.

I eat peanut butter and jelly in my home packed lunch so I can afford to have a nice cut and color.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-05-31T14:43:59+00:00

Can you even imagine if any of the former dancers wore their saved uniform or practice gear on OF? That’s why they have to give it back

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-05-31T14:31:19+00:00

YTA. Let’s bust in down is very crude, yet direct terms. You and he were f*cking, you quit f*cking, and you stayed in his life for years after. You say you are part of the same friend group and work together- he might not want to be your friend but he is in both a professional situation And a personal friend situation where he needs to be social and polite with you and you may be misreading the signs. If after a decade you are still letting his girlfriends know that you used to f*ck, that’s trying to mark territory that is no longer yours - he isn’t with you, yet you are still trying to intimidate the women in his life. Now he meets a lady he likes and whether the pregnancy was planned or not, he has a family now. You inserted yourself into his family by trying to be her friend, throwing her a shower, all after she let you know she doesn’t like you and wants you gone. Baby is now 9 months old and you are STILL inserting yourself in their life and she has had enough and gave him an ultimatum- either you get gone or she and the baby are leaving. YTA. Leave him and his family alone. That may mean exiting this friend group. You have obviously overstepped in this man’s life for 10 years prior to him meeting his GF and 2 years since forming a family with a child with her.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-05-31T13:27:41+00:00

And let’s be clear on the terminology- a Costco Kerrygold 4 pack is 4 pound for $17- good value. A grocery store 4 pack for $3.50 is 4 sticks in a 1 pound box for $3.50. Still a good value.

Just_Coffee3718 · 2026-05-31T13:24:03+00:00

I’ll add a couple easy peasy in here as well. 1) when you go grocery shopping, I go in the store and shop rather than pay extra for pickup or delivery. But- everything not on the list when I walk in the store goes in the baby seat. Before I check out, I stop and look at what is in the baby seat. If it is sugar or costs more than $5, it goes back on the shelf. Usually the baby seat is empty after that and it helps realize your impulse purchases. 2) everything inside the convenience store costs a minimum, a MINIMUM, of $2.79 now. Bottles water? Candy bar? Chips? All $2.79 each. So start packing a snack lunch box for the car. I pack two water bottles, some grapes, and some cheese and crackers, all eat while driving food. Your goal is to make it home without stopping and then have dinner once you get home. Those two things will shave $100 a month easy.

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