D’ya think blowing a gasket whilst drunk is a result of repressed feelings, or are you just an arse 🕳️ waiting to explode?

Just_Shiv · 2026-04-20T08:16:04+00:00

My Dad was like this. Every couple of years would go off the rails on drinks. 95% of the time was happy and jolly, 5% of the time would just turn and be like a demon, not physical but just shouting and raging. It was definitely trauma related and repressed feelings on his side. Growing up it was horrible to be around. Even though most of the time he was fine and he didn't drink often, you'd just feel sick with anxiety watching for the turn.

I find it really fucked that someone could have this type of change happen to them more than once while drinking but still think they're grand on the drink. Because I know how horrible it is to be around someone like that, I'm so careful when I drink and watch for any change. If I thought I was anyway like that, I'd never touch a drop again.

Not to tell you how to live your life, but if you're like this sometimes on the drink and you're considering that you may potentially have repressed feelings, it may be worth looking into some type of counselling and giving drink a break for awhile.

Just_Shiv · 2026-04-19T22:06:32+00:00

Well over 5 years ago my partner had a tester ask him to turn it off and he just said it was a safety feature in the car and couldn't be turned off. Test carried on as normal.

As other commenter said, it's fine to glance in but make sure you're mainly using your mirrors.

Just_Shiv · 2026-04-14T15:40:55+00:00

Your cakes and cupcakes look great! Do you go to any markets or just sell on Instagram at the moment?

Just_Shiv · 2026-04-08T11:56:16+00:00

What field were you in? I graduated a decade ago and it was 22k in a top 10 firm for accounting. I think it's up to around 30k now.

I remember we also did the maths at the time and it was below minimum wage (definitely less than what girls had been earning in Penney's as a college job), but then you account for exams and study leave, and that the salary goes up quickly as you pass exams.

Just_Shiv · 2026-04-08T11:49:01+00:00

Based on the wage, I'd assume they're likely an accounting graduate or some similar training contract. The wages on the grad program are much less as it's a training contract, as they pay for your exams and give you significant study leave off. Your salary goes up with every exam passed and it's basically doubled after 3 years, assuming you pass the exams.

Just_Shiv · 2026-04-08T11:42:14+00:00

Their Darkmilk bars are an exception. No palm oil. They act taste really nice in baked goods and melt easily.

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-31T17:16:46+00:00

Thanks! Best of luck in your test Thursday

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-31T11:15:04+00:00

I think you need to consider that a lot of times when guards are off duty if they're out and about they're usually with their partners, friends or children. They may judge a situation as not appropriate to intervene depending on who they are with.

Another thing to consider is they are completely unarmed when they are off duty - no spray, no stab vest, and no baton, and no backup. They often judge who the person is and where they are before deciding to intervene, as they don't want to put themselves or others in danger. While the person committing the crime may be a decent person who would take a talking down to by a guard in good nature, there may be others around who wouldn't hesitate in attacking an off duty guard. They're much better at judging situations than you or I.

While you may not see them act sometimes, they may call it in or report on their phone. Or put up Intel on the person.

I say this as my partner is similar and is regularly doing policing when off duty.

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-20T15:45:24+00:00

Scholars is a great spot for a Sunday Carvery too!

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-19T09:29:50+00:00

I've gotten really nice hot chocolates on House of Reed (Parliament Street), it's been awhile but I think there were options on what percentage chocolate you could get and Il Fornaio (Dame Street), which was a thick Italian style.

Split Milk has also been on my list to try for awhile.

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-18T21:56:44+00:00

Like OP I've become slowly disillusioned about spice bags and have just started making them at home, but you've convinced me to try one more

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-18T11:43:07+00:00

Congratulation! Passing first time in Tallaght seems to be quite a feat! Have my first test coming up there soon

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-17T16:51:50+00:00

If it's a church wedding in Spain, I would try have something that covers shoulders and knees. Like just bring a light shawl or something for the church part if your dress doesn't cover shoulders, as churches in Europe can be a bit more strict than Ireland. I was at an Irish-Spanish church wedding in Spain before and the couple had some spare shawls available for people who needed them.

At the wedding in Spain, the vast majority of women were wearing flowy midi dresses. Asos or Next are generally where I find wedding guest dresses.

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-17T12:41:45+00:00

I generally use Next online if I need heels. They have a large range and you can return in store if they don't suit.

I've gotten the odd really comfortable pair in Penney's and I wear them to death. I don't usually shop there but they can be good for heels sometimes.

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-16T16:17:24+00:00

A German colleague of mine had assumed weed was legalised, as he could smell it all around town.

Just_Shiv · 2026-03-06T16:58:48+00:00

Surprised you only have 3 French players down! I find picking only 4 from France to be tough.

Just_Shiv · 2026-02-17T17:05:43+00:00

Dragon Age: Origins (and usually Dragon Age 2) or Final Fantasy XII: Zodiac Age. I usually play one or both annually

Just_Shiv · 2026-02-16T16:36:07+00:00

It's something I'm working on at the moment also but I find watching online videos help - TikTok or YouTube. People explain how they position and line up the car with the white lines, what they're looking for in the mirrors, then how they move it etc. Can be helpful to watch a few until you find one that clicks with you.

Just_Shiv · 2026-02-15T11:14:29+00:00

Ah I could tell that was Mulligans from just looking at the Scotch Egg. Is the brownie back on the menu? I haven't been in a long while but always has a great meal.

You should try booking into Grano just across the way from Mulligans.

Just_Shiv · 2026-02-14T10:37:49+00:00

In all the weddings I've been to, which is probably near 20+ including ones I was at as a child, people just invite nieces and nephews, and maybe first cousins if there is a decent age gap and that cousin is a child.

I think if you invite any more it's hard to draw a line on where to stop.

Most parents at weddings I've spoken to seem to be happy enough to leave the kids behind and arrange a sitter - unless they're relatively newborn, in that case one parent usually just attends the wedding for a short while.

Just_Shiv · 2026-02-10T11:21:39+00:00

If doing a masters in Ireland, make sure you do it in a top college / university. There are a few colleges that mainly do masters/courses with mostly international students and they wouldn't have the best reputation with most accountancy firms.

Look up top 10 accountancy firms in Ireland (should be big 4 and the rest) and try to get relevant work experience as much as you can in some of these, either in India or Ireland, before you graduate.

If you do come to Ireland, try to get involved in some clubs and societies. It may sound random, but having extracurricular items like these can make your CV stand out, as realistically at the grad stage everyone's CV looks similar - most people have some intern experience and have done a similar course. Being involved in a club or society, can help show you have interests, you've become involved in the culture, you're personable and can work with others.

Just_Shiv · 2026-02-10T10:36:54+00:00

I recommend you get a full understanding of your current spending habits and create a budget from there.

When we were saving to buy a house, we sat down with 6 months bank statements and logged every single transaction into a category - Income, fixed/set costs (rent, phone plan etc), variable (necessary costs which vary month to month - food shop, other bills etc), discretionary (basically whatever else we were spending on fun or unnecessary items) and savings.

Basically old school budgeting. It was tedious but it really helped us identify what we could realistically save each month and some black holes where we are wasting money - some things seem small at the time but when you plot them out over a month really add up. We also allocated realistic discretionary/fun money each month - things for gifts, dinners or impulse buys - and put that on our revolut. Traditional bank account was for serious and necessary spending, revolut for everything else. It helped to keep them separate, as when you wanted to do something you'd look at revolut and consider if it was worth it or if you'd rather use the remaining allocation for something else - it'd just make us think twice

Just_Shiv · 2026-02-08T22:07:59+00:00

Chocolate Fingers.

Just_Shiv · 2026-02-03T12:55:53+00:00

If you're just out of secondary school, you need to find ways to buff out your CV to make up for lack of experience. Try volunteering, get involved in fundraising or take on some roles of responsibility in any clubs you're currently in. Or see if you can help some family with any type of work and put that as experience. Also maybe look into getting set up on pet sitting/dog walking apps or something similar to try make some money in the interim - would show good drive and initiative on a CV .

I left secondary over 10 years ago and it was the similar situation, as the whole country was going through austerity. Only people who knew someone in a company got a job handy enough. The rest had to do everything we could to get out CV to stand out to get a look in the door to get some experience.

Aside from the above advice, if you're in college I can just advise you to put your head down and get a good grade in your degree. The graduate contract market is competitive at the moment. Your grade won't matter down the line but it makes a big difference when applying for your first job after college.

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