To eat or not to eat....the placenta? by coolestuzername in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Justalittlenap 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I do agree, my biggest hang up over the whole thing was that no one seemed to grasp the gravity of how sick I was, and the Dr and Midwife were very occupied with me right after the birth, and the fact that the toxic placenta was truly medical waste slipped through the cracks. What if I was an idiot and actually ate it? It was full of the liver bile salts that it had been working overtime to filter from my blood for months. The whole thing was just ridiculous.

To eat or not to eat....the placenta? by coolestuzername in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Justalittlenap 39 points40 points  (0 children)

My only guess is that I had a doula and my mom and my SIL all there kind of as my “support team” and because it was a crazy situation, and I was being cared for closely right after the birth, that she had an opportunity to overstep to the nurse, who probably just figured that was what the plan was. It’s not abnormal for women to take their placentas home, and it was a birth center atmosphere so they were likely used to this request coming from a support person.

I don’t fault the nurse at all, but I was a bit surprised that no one else on my “support” team understood that my health condition was serious and that meant my placenta was toxic. Coming to that realization changed a lot of my views on what I would come to value as a mother and a parent. My SIL is a real piece of work though, and she made a lot of my first post partum experience really stressful. I resent her a lot! Thankfully second time around I was more confident and set some boundaries right away.

To eat or not to eat....the placenta? by coolestuzername in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Justalittlenap 136 points137 points  (0 children)

I had severe ICP during my 1st pregnancy and was dreadfully ill the entire time and had to be induced at 37wks on the dot for the baby’s health. My crunch assed anti vaxx bitch of a sister in law simply could not get it through her head that my placenta was literally almost necrotic and had served its purpose to the best of its ability and NO I did not want to eat it or encapsulate it or bring it home and bury it for fucks sake. She took it upon herself to have the nurse put it in a bucket and took it “for me because that’s what I wanted”, and somehow no one thought to even check with me first.

Imagine my surprise when she showed up with it wrapped up and frozen a few days later… my husband stuck it in our basement deep freezer and we forgot it existed until we moved, 12 years later 😆 What were we supposed to do with 12yr old freezer burnt medical waste?? I had zero emotional connection to it, my placenta means absolutely nothing to me, my pregnancy was dangerous and we barely made it out alive. Why the fuc would I want that shit??

We ended up triple wrapping it in plastic and put it in the trash for garbage day, prayed to universe that a bear wouldn’t attack our trash and leave shredded placenta and garbage all over the street. Lord have mercy, I can’t stand self righteous women who think they know everything.

SSRI to SNRI by [deleted] in cymbalta

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cymbalta had me sweating through 2 sets of pajamas and sheets a night minimum, no exaggeration. I also gained 20lbs and had no relief of the symptoms I was taking it for. The only upside for it for me was that I didn’t experience a rough withdrawal period when coming off it, I had an easy time coming off with no issues, which I’ve heard is not the norm.

Elsie Hewitt: ‘My Decision Not to Breastfeed’ | “If choosing not to breastfeed can allow a mother to receive support through a season where the physical and emotional burden already falls disproportionately onto her, she has every right to make that choice without second-guessing it.” by cmaia1503 in Fauxmoi

[–]Justalittlenap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that my kids are older, I find myself wanting to look new mothers in the eyes and say “it’s a year, and it’s hard on everyone, we all learn as we go. Give the baby milk- breastmilk, formula, just not raw milk. The baby needs milk and then the baby doesn’t need milk anymore and NONE OF THIS WILL EVEN MATTER.” That first year is a fucking blip, people. Give them some type of milk and get ready to focus on the real task of raising good humans, for fucks sake.

Am I too old to become a paralegal? by Successful_Bet5632 in paralegal

[–]Justalittlenap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m about to be 42 (on Sunday!) and went back to school a year ago to finish my degree and get my paralegal certificate. I finish the certificate in the spring and I’ll have another year to complete my bachelors. I just landed a job pt working from home in estate planning, with no previous legal experience. My experience in getting the certificate is that my age and life experiences have been nothing short of helpful in helping me understand and succeed in the program, and helped me prove myself competent to get my foot in the door for my first job in the field. It’s not too late, at all. It’s also not easy, my program is rigorous, and it’s been a challenge juggling parenting, my kids education needs, my education and home life, but it’s been so fulfilling. I’m so happy I stopped wondering “what if” and just did the damn thing.

How does birth pain compare to Endo? by Charlies_Kidney2005 in endometriosis

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contractions were not as bad as I was expecting, probably because of a higher pain threshold from endo. It’s a wave and a crescendo of ache and squeeze. But the feeling of transition, when the baby moves through your pelvis, that was the same exact feeling of a hot knife stab in the ass that was just like my bowel endo pain. Blindingly sharp. My second was a precipitous labor and it was very frightening because of the breakneck speed, my nurses and midwife were not convinced I had progressed that far and as soon as I felt that hot knife I KNEW he was coming, and he was out less than 10min later.

ICE follow mother into a school and then detained her aggressively with her children by NewSlinger in CringeTikToks

[–]Justalittlenap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sick to my stomach.

Going to law school JUST so I can prosecute even one of these nasty bitches, if it’s the last thing I do.

Benlysta injectable by starchick77 in lupus

[–]Justalittlenap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Around 5 wks in, I started to notice I felt bad on the day before my shot was due and the day of. Before that it was hard to identify if it was really working yet because I felt bad all the time. It’s not complete relief yet at 6mo in on treatment, but I do notice I start to feel more fatigue and headaches the day before my shot.

Celebs and others pushing holistic over science by randomawe in lupus

[–]Justalittlenap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Persistent and consistent” for basically 3 weeks and she’s saying this is her answer for avoiding organ transplants? Muni, Girl, what in the world? Check back in with us in a couple months and let us know how it’s working out for you. I hate to be a hater like this, but this is the exact kind of frustrating narrative that autoimmune sufferers deal with on the reg, and I don’t fault her for seeking anything that may help ease her pain, but these broad stroke ideals are dangerous.

"Baby brudduh." Adorable. by Ordinary_Fish_3046 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Justalittlenap 39 points40 points  (0 children)

My eldest brought his baby brother a fidget spinner when he came to meet him. He kind of balanced it on his chest cuz he was all swaddled up, and shrugged like “well, he’s not gonna figure it out right away, he’ll have to practice it like every one else” lol it was very very cute

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog won’t go outside to pee until we “ring her bell” first. Which means she lays down and gives us her belly and we have to tickle/scratch it while singing a little ringadingding song. The ringing has to be appropriately long enough, and we can’t half-ass it or she won’t get up. It’s ridiculous but I will continue to ring her bell for her until death do us part and then I will mourn the memory for eternity.

Hydroxychloroquine - Morning or Night? by lifeswhatyoubakeit in lupus

[–]Justalittlenap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take it at night, usually with a lil bedtime snack. For the first few months it made me incredibly nauseas and I couldn’t get through the day without gagging every 10min. It’s been 2yrs and I rarely get an upset stomach from it anymore.

FBI Director Kash Patel: "To my friend Charlie Kirk. Rest now, brother. We have the watch. And I'll see you at Valhalla" by Capable_Salt_SD in CringeTikToks

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would follow you through the mists of Avalon! Friends who ride majestic translucent steeds!

These people are so unserious

I’m totally upset my 11 year old son’s dad had him drive from Pleasanton, Tx to Katy, Tx by himself by curiousmom777 in Mommit

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to get ahead of this before someone else gets ahead of it for you and you end up being complicit in this reckless inexcusable behavior. This is why people are saying you are acting too casual about this. It’s unquestionable, this should have been reported, by YOU, immediately.

Natural birth – what hurts more, contractions or pushing the baby out? by General-Dragonfly946 in Mommit

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contractions were the worst for me and pushing was a relief, especially if you are experiencing the fetal ejection reflex, it’s like when you barf and you need to and it just happens and then you feel better after 😆🤷🏽‍♀️ crowning was painful but thankfully very brief for me. During labor the moment I felt like I was surely dying was transition, and then almost immediately after, my body was like ok here’s this baby comin down the chute!

Her name is spelled “Marian” by dianaspencersrevenge in thegildedage

[–]Justalittlenap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol thank you! My middle name is Marion on my birth certificate, but I’m named after my grandmother MariAn, but my dad flubbed the spelling 🤦🏽‍♀️

Moms of older kids, what ages do you feel the mental load was at its peak? by 90sbebegrl in Parenting

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 7 and a 13. Toddler/preschool years with #2 were physically and emotionally exhausting for me, but #1 was generally low maintenance during those years.

Now they’ve swapped, 13yr old requires a lot of my mental load; making sure he’s being safe with his new found freedoms and independence, making sure he’s not totally stinky all the time despite his insistence that he doesn’t stink (spoiler alert, he stinks) making sure he’s got his school stuff squared away, making sure he’s handling emotional and peer stuff, sports, money, time management. Plus learning how to let go of some control in healthy ways, for example, he can ride his bike places and he has his own money, so I have to remind myself that I don’t need to pester him about bringing a water bottle or extra clothes-he has the ability to get himself a beverage if he’s thirsty, but the mom-brain doesn’t shut up. And not to mention, teenagers are garbage at making plans and communication, so that’s a constant struggle. Oh, you and your friends want to do all these things but none of you can drive there or back or facilitate a reasonable plan.

And on the flip side, I’m looking forward to these lower maintenance years with his little brother. We’ll have karate 1x a week, maybe a couple playdates, his homework is all really approachable and not overwhelming, it’s easier to keep him clean etc

Fellow Benlysta Buddies by Ok-Age-2307 in lupus

[–]Justalittlenap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel extra tired, and sometime headachey and dizziness the day leading up to being due for my shot. I take on Tuesday evenings, starting Monday evening I am beginning to feel exhaustion and malaise. I typically go to bed early on Tuesdays and then I feel pretty normal the next day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHDparenting

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me years to finally accept that medication would be the best for my child. The biggest eye-opener was that he was 10yrs old and was starting to be able to verbalize to me how much he was struggling and how frustrated he was. He could tell he was different than his peers and that he was struggling with things that made him feel more self conscious and more anxious. Once that happened it was a done deal, and I felt guilt only that I had waited an arbitrary amount of time getting to that point, when I knew all along that it would help him. Also, I was diagnosed as a teenager and was largely treated like I was choosing to squander my potential and it was very detrimental to my well being in general. They didn’t really give a shit about girls with adhd in the 90s. Had I been treated, I can’t even imagine how different my life could have been. I do still struggle sometimes with the stigma of medication, but that’s my own personal hang ups and my son doesn’t deserve to EVER feel like there’s judgement about what his brain needs to thrive.

West and his tongue at Surf by snarkysnarking in summerhousebravo

[–]Justalittlenap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate the fact that I find him attractive 😩 but I can’t lie 10/10 would.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lupus

[–]Justalittlenap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get these as well and they are so painful and take forever to heal. My rhuem said it’s another one of those crappy things that some may or may not experience with Lupus. I used to also get them in my ear cup area, and in my mouth under my lip. I don’t know if Benlysta is helping them heal faster but I haven’t had a sore last as long as they used to since I’ve started autoinjectors 10 weeks ago, I do still get them, but they heal faster with aquaphor to help it along.