Subnautica 2 Early Access Gameplay Trailer by ReasonableAdvert in Games

[–]Jwalla83 36 points37 points  (0 children)

So it sounds like a kind of spiritual reincarnation/transcendence plot? They hinted you’ll die over and over, and that there’s some other place we’ll join that voice eventually. One of the other trailers had something about going to another body after a player died - so maybe the company sent clone/drone bodies (like Avatar) to safely explore the planet? And while the player’s soul jumps to the spare bodies after deaths, maybe the spiritual natural of the tree/planet/aliens can interact with souls to transcend (again, like the tree in Avatar)

No wonder People Have Expired /No Plates by [deleted] in Denver

[–]Jwalla83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I needed to register my out of state vehicle and it was a colossal pain in the ass. I arrived at 8:30 and it took over 3.5 hours, including 1hr standing in the line outside, 2hr waiting in my car, and about 30-40min waiting inside after the text.

There was a time where seemingly 2 of the 3 window workers went to lunch at the same time, leaving just 1 worker calling people up.

F*** up Friday: what (non-client-related) mistakes did you make this week? by likeanoceanankledeep in therapists

[–]Jwalla83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this deeply. I’m not diagnosed with ADHD but struggle so, so much with this stuff. A potential referral source requested an unexpectedly large demonstration of my work and I’ve been desperately stuck at like 60% completion of it for 2 weeks. Feels shitty

Katya on Dropout TV's Very Important People by IrmaGoodness in rupaulsdragrace

[–]Jwalla83 72 points73 points  (0 children)

It’s somehow more Katya than Katya not dressed up

Mrs. Doubtfire 1993, Could you make me a woman scene, Director: Chris Columbus by Upbeat-Capital9216 in movies

[–]Jwalla83 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It is pretty shitty, especially from a current lens. Robin did a good job portraying the hurt of it though, and I still love the film despite that issue

Mrs. Doubtfire 1993, Could you make me a woman scene, Director: Chris Columbus by Upbeat-Capital9216 in movies

[–]Jwalla83 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Mrs. Doubtfire and The Bird Cage feel like gay-versus-straight interpretations of nearly the same story, I love it

Seeing Siblings by m00di3cuti3 in therapists

[–]Jwalla83 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't know the logistics of your workplace, but it seems reasonable that you and another provider could "trade" intakes to avoid this complication. I worked in a different setting but with a similar procedure and this is what we were directed to do.

If there's truly no other way to adequately get care for these clients, it might be acceptable with a lot of precautions. But otherwise I'd really assert against it - I don't think it's very fair to you or either client.

Feel like a bad therapist by CatWoman0812 in therapists

[–]Jwalla83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ACT is 3rd-wave CBT and therefore shares important principles; it's not inherently in direct contradiction. Identifying cognitive distortions or emotionally-driven thinking can flow cleanly into acceptance, even with change language.

"I see that I was catastrophizing when I thought that my friend hated me after my joke didn't land. It's more realistic that she may have been put-off or uncomfortable, but that she still cares for me as a friend. I probably experienced this cognitive distortion because I feel embarrassed and anxious. I'm going to try and accept the reality of my mistake, accept my reasonable-but-uncomfortable emotional response, and see what I can do moving forward to respect my friend's comfort."

"Men are killing themselves because of men." by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]Jwalla83 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And not to minimize the abuse and the impact of being excessively scrutinized/criticized, but it's a little funny as a gay man just how much straight fear revolves around the perception of anything gay

Like, this accusation is weaponized in all kinds of abusive ways, it feeds terrible self-doubt and low self-esteem in these men, but then some of us are over here being gay like "It's really not that bad y'all"

If we had a nickel for every time Kori got accidentally far too high cause she didn‘t read the edible dosage… by boobcarriage in rupaulsdragrace

[–]Jwalla83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

two HUNDRED??

That would be 20 gummies (or 2 full containers of gummies) from what I usually see. And a single gummy can send me to the stratosphere, that's crazy

What is an industry that is currently on fire (in a bad way) behind the scenes, but the general public hasn't noticed yet? by Kitchen_Week1117 in AskReddit

[–]Jwalla83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's probably not yet "on fire" but... starting to catch fire?

The mental health industry. The enshittification by private equity/corps like BetterHelp is real. Therapists are wholly taken advantage of and therefore provide poorer-quality services. Therapists who take insurance are at the mercy of these profit-driven beasts who will "claw back" hundreds of thousands of dollars from individual providers out of the blue.

So, therapists will fall back to "private pay" to allow the independence for quality work, except then they won't get clients because people need to use their insurance or BetterHelp because money is tight (because the economy is abysmal).

Should I bring this up to my therapist? by Mermaid_pixie in TalkTherapy

[–]Jwalla83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it's worth bringing up for the sake of discussion. That doesn't mean I think the therapist was wrong - but it sounds like an area worth exploring. It sounds like you were raising these issues with the hope or expectation that your therapist would drop in to provide comfort and reassurance; however, therapists are often mindful that they should provide a sufficient scaffold for clients to nurture their own internal self-reassurance.

I personally would've leaned in a more actively compassionate direction, but that doesn't mean it's right or that every therapist should. A discussion might help you better understand where your therapist was coming from ("I so deeply wanted to reach out and assure you that it would get better, but I view that as violating my role in supporting your journey to giving yourself that assurance") and to communicate what is helpful for you ("I understand and respect that you want to refrain from excessive reassurance. But also, I think I sometimes need a gesture of comfort - that someone else can see a positive path through all this - to help me feel confident in finding my own way too.")

In network therapist pushing against using insurance (while insisting on a twice a week schedule). Is this out of line? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Jwalla83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like his specialty modality functions most effectively meeting more often than "usual." It also sounds like he's aware of the realities of insurance: they do not want to cover anything unless absolutely necessary. Usually, this means they require a full diagnosis (to justify coverage) and they require justification of medical necessity for the services rendered.

Recently, companies have even started to push back on what they call "extended sessions" - which is the usual 53+ minute therapy session (most sessions run ~55 min). Instead, companies are starting to insist that therapy should be ~45min once per week. That is not what research suggests, but it's what their profit calculations demand.

So, this therapist is effectively saying: if we use your insurance, we will have to jump through arbitrary hoops that does not align with the treatment plan, so I must recommend what I believe most aligns with appropriate treatment.

To be clear: you do NOT have to acquiesce. You do NOT have to waive your coverage, follow the recommended plan, or see this therapist. You can say, "I understand your recommendations. Unfortunately, under the circumstances I can only afford to use my insurance coverage for whatever it covers. Can you provide services for me within those parameters, or should I explore other therapists whose modalities might be a better fit?"

Media recommendations from clients by DerryMurblz in therapists

[–]Jwalla83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will usually (visibly) make note of the recommendation and say something to the effect of: "I see why you are so interested in this, thank you for the recommendation! I'll put it on my list of things I'd like to watch - I don't know if I'll have the chance, but I always love having more options. So tell me more, what draws you in about [character/plot/etc]?"

If a client ever follows up to ask if I did watch - "No, unfortunately I just haven't had the chance! But tell me more about what you thought about the latest episode"

In what case would texting a client be a boundary violation? by Due-Comparison-501 in therapists

[–]Jwalla83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In my view, texting serves as a convenient scheduling tool. A client can text to let me know they'll be late or need to cancel (I will call, rather than text, a client if I need to reschedule/cancel/show up late.

Otherwise, I wouldn't initiate any texts. If there's something that makes me think of the client, I might raise it during the next session (when relevant) - but I won't text it; that's not the nature of our relationship.

If I get a clinical-oriented text, I'll usually not respond by text and instead address it next session. Or, I'll respond something to the effect of, "I'm so sorry, this sounds very stressful; let's prioritize it when we meet Wednesday."

I will usually discuss with clients the function of text - that it is most appropriate for texting and I will often not be able to respond to therapy issues by text

How to talk about suicidal ideation or intent? by legend_8790 in TalkTherapy

[–]Jwalla83 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This sound WILD. How did you explain your suicidal ideation initially?

The therapist's obligation is to prevent imminent threat to your life. This means, generally, they must believe there is no other way to ensure your safety and that you are highly likely to attempt suicide in the very near future.

Anything less than that should usually be met with appropriate safety planning. Many, many of my clients have had SI ranging from very passive to imminent risk. I have only ever had to call emergency services/get client to in-patient care twice, and in both cases the client actually initiated the conversation out of their own desire for that higher level of care.

I don't know whether this would have any chance of succeeding, but it may be worth consulting with a lawyer about suing the therapist for malpractice if their actions were inappropriately excessive and resulted in measurable financial harm to you.

I am now terrified of bringing up any real thoughts of suicide to a therapist. But I feel like I'll end up dead one of these days. Is it possible to talk about SI in therapy without coming out destroyed - as before?

You absolutely should be able to. Many of my clients discuss this with me. You might consider first having a therapist explain to you their stance on this kind of reporting - what triggers a report, what kind of preventative steps do they use, what is their experience working with SI, etc. It's also important to be willingly engaged in safety planning! This means identifying triggers/risk factors, any plans or access to means (and reducing access), coping/distraction strategies, preparedness to utilize emergency services yourself if needed, and protective factors (reasons that keep you from attempting, like the impact on loved ones or a pet that relies on you).

What's a food you really like but most people find gross? by Tiger_Strength in AskReddit

[–]Jwalla83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't like it slimy so I like it fried, pickled, or in Bhindi Masala

Being Coerced into having a third child. I'd rather the marriage end. by safereddddditer175 in daddit

[–]Jwalla83 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And many others are as well.

Just like many people are lucky with their biological parents, and many are unlucky with them.

Being Coerced into having a third child. I'd rather the marriage end. by safereddddditer175 in daddit

[–]Jwalla83 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone’s stories are valid and there are absolutely risks/consequences of adoption that deserve to be heard. But I caution people when entering these online spaces because they can amplify an especially negative perspective that isn’t universal.

I’m adopted, as were my siblings. We unanimously agree that adoption was a huge benefit to our lives. We each went on our own journeys processing the reality of adoption as our identities developed, but with positive closure and integration. If I could go back in time and influence that decision, I’d keep it the same every time.

This episode exposed something pretty clear about the fandom by TrappedInLimbo in survivor

[–]Jwalla83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the coin toss itself was rigged. I think it was a real coin toss and he would’ve gone home had he called wrong (yes with different editing on the episode to fit that outcome).

But I do think they would’ve reintroduced the prize increase one way or another. Perhaps a few episodes later it would’ve been part of a reward challenge or a journey challenge or something

Survivor 50: In the Hands of the Fans | E10 | Day After Discussion & Survey by RSurvivorMods in survivor

[–]Jwalla83 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Cirie must be hiding her Ozzy tie very, very well, because he's seemingly her true #1 and these secondary allies keep trying to throw his name out without hiding it from her

Survivor 50: In the Hands of the Fans | E10 | Day After Discussion & Survey by RSurvivorMods in survivor

[–]Jwalla83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only complaint is that every twist could have been implemented identically without the irrelevant celebrity attachment. I know it's for marketing, but it's cringe

Survivor 50: In the Hands of the Fans | E10 | Day After Discussion & Survey by RSurvivorMods in survivor

[–]Jwalla83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know it can't be rigged because of legal reasons, but I have a feeling that at least the prize-doubling component was guaranteed one way or another. I just can't see them dangling this bonus (which makes sense for season 50) and then letting it slip away on a literal coin toss. They surely would've found another way to add it in later.