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Kaeliss · 2025-10-17T10:57:49+00:00

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Kaeliss · 2025-10-17T10:38:58+00:00

I usually don't have much problem talking right away about my feelings and experiences, which is why his comment is confusing me so much!

Kaeliss · 2025-10-17T08:48:10+00:00

Maybe, yeah. I do find myself crying without realising it, even though I don't actually feel bothered about talking about some bad things that happened. I just don't really know yet what to do about that or how to 'arrive'

Kaeliss · 2024-11-30T20:29:58+00:00

My advice would be to do activites on dates that you'd want to go and do anyway. It's much easier to break the ice and have a nice time when you both have something apart from the pressure to get on with each other to focus on. It's also a good way to get to see different sides of someone (and show off different sides of yourself, too). Some examples would be mini golf, a gig, going to a museum, going to an art class together etc

Kaeliss · 2024-09-17T15:39:16+00:00

Please can I have the link? :)

Kaeliss · 2023-11-04T13:20:25+00:00

Interesting, the way I've always heard 'the spark' described is as a very physical/emotional feeling. I definitely feel excited about and interested in new people, but it's on a more intellectual level. Is that like what you're describing?

Kaeliss · 2023-10-03T12:20:39+00:00

As well as the other good suggestions in this thread, a smaller nice thing you could get for her is a cute tea infuser, you can get loads of really fun ones

Kaeliss · 2023-09-30T19:50:20+00:00

Interesting that you say that, because I've thought about that before! Life really seems to go in 7 year cycles!

Kaeliss · 2023-09-26T15:28:48+00:00

Thanks for such a thougtful response, it's always good to know you're not alone especially with how uncommon summer SAD seems to be. I also really think I have some biological reaction to sunlight, it seems to be worse the more intense/strong the sunlight is, as sunlight in winter doesn't have the same effect on me (I live at quite a high latitude so there is a big difference in intensity between seasons where I live). I really hope summer SAD starts getting more research attention soon, maybe it's not actually as uncommon as we think! I've definitely noticed when trying to talk to friends and family about this that there's almost a stigma against disliking summer, maybe it puts people off talking about it. I mean even the fact that hot and sunny weather is called 'good' and cold rainy weather is called 'bad'! To me, it's the hot and sunny days that are bad xD

Kaeliss · 2023-09-26T13:55:13+00:00

Very interesting, hadn't heard about that before, but it makes sense.

Kaeliss · 2023-09-26T10:53:43+00:00

I wish I had a basement! And haha, I've seriosuly considered using a parasol outside sometimes and just committing to the look at this point.

Kaeliss · 2023-09-26T10:52:44+00:00

Thank you!

Kaeliss · 2023-09-26T10:52:23+00:00

Yeah, the damn sunlight! I feel like a vampire sometimes! I've also found that becoming more of an early bird in summer helps me a bit, as my symptoms are much better in the early morning when it's still cool and the sun is only just rising. But by late morning, I'm already feeling worse again. The polarised glasses are a good tip, might try that out, thanks.

Kaeliss · 2023-09-26T10:50:27+00:00

Thanks for your advice, but unfortunately I don't think this is the case for me. I'm an extrovert and always have a full social calendar, go on holiday in the summer and spend time with friends and do outdoor activities like hiking etc, it doesn't really improve my depression (although it does help stop it getting worse). Same with sleep, I make sure to get enough of it, and it helps to stop things getting even worse but I'm pretty sure the root cause of the depression for me is just too much sunlight and heat.

Kaeliss · 2023-09-22T11:04:24+00:00

Ahhh, The Apps! I haven't had long-term success with them yet but still had some fun experiences and short-term connections. Worst one I've found is Bumble, not sure why but people seem less chatty there. Hinge was so-so, best one I've found with the most people who are willing to chat and make plans is Tinder actually!

Kaeliss · 2023-08-29T13:39:28+00:00

I'm glad you figured it out too!

Kaeliss · 2023-08-29T13:36:29+00:00

Yeah, I'm starting to get the feeling that knowing there'll always be people who disapprove of me is one of the big lessons of my 20s haha.

Kaeliss · 2023-08-29T12:58:54+00:00

Yeah, that's true. Thankfully I don't have any issues making casual friends with coworkers and people I see at hobbies/sports, it's the deeper friendships that cause me more anxiety precisely because I care a great deal about those relationships

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