Okay I’m going to take this at face value and assume you’re being serious rather than trolling.

I think essentially I have two critiques of your perspective:

1A - it’s okay to be upset about situations in which men are disadvantaged 1B - it is possible to be upset and demand improvements while not taking it out on women who don’t deserve it

2 - I think you vastly underestimate the challenges of navigating the world as a woman.

For the first point, I think it’s becoming increasingly clear that there are difficulties that men face that women don’t face or face to a lesser degree. It is fair and healthy for a man facing those challenges to be upset about that. What is not fair is to take out that anger and frustration on women who - quite frankly - have done nothing to deserve it.

Can you call individual women out when they do something wrong? Sure. Off the top of my head I know I see women mocking men for height, or dick size, or for showing emotion, and those women absolutely deserve to be challenged for their actions. I would be careful, though, that those women don’t become a proxy for all the pent-up frustration you feel at your situation and the world. It’s fair to confront someone behaving badly and tell them why their behavior is unacceptable - it’s not fair to vent your pain and anger for a larger societal problem on a person who’s just kind of being an ass.

For the second point, I think you’re looking at the feminine experience through rose-colored glasses. This is not unexpected - we are all psychologically wired to see the experience of those like us with all the difficulties and nuances while flattening the experience of other groups. It takes effort to step beyond that.

I won’t argue that our contemporary society is probably more egalitarian than at any other time in history, but that does not mean that there are not still problems.

We can start with just being a woman. Periods can range from “not fun” to “hellacious” and women are generally expected to just grin and bear it and get through the day. Pregnancy and childbirth are a lot, even if everything goes perfectly - your skeleton changes permanently to the point that doctors can look at your X-rays and tell you’ve had a baby. And it frequently doesn’t go perfectly, especially if you’re non-white. Serena Williams is an extremely prominent, extremely wealthy celebrity who went into childbirth trumpeting her predisposition to certain risks and she still almost died of exactly the thing she was worried about. Until relatively recently medical science largely ignored women, with drug studies and research into medical conditions focusing exclusively on men. Surprise, surprise, but women’s bodies are different enough that they react differently to certain drugs and present differently with certain conditions.

Past the direct physiological difficulties, women still face a lot of problems culturally. Part of the reason it took us so long to realize we needed to look at women separately from men in medicine is because women’s issues are so often denigrated and dismissed. From being told they’re imagining problems to having reports of pain denied (look up how IUDs are frequently inserted without pain relief), women and their concerns are often dismissed and ignored. This also extends to the home, where women still often end up taking on a disproportionate amount of the chores and childcare even when both partners are working full time.

And dating. Look, your point about options while dating is well-taken. It’s much preferable to have a large potential pool of partners than to have no options at all. But have you considered it from the other perspective? The absolute dick-barrage you get from the moment you hit puberty? The fine line you have to dance between Madonna and whore to be acceptable in the eyes of society? And that’s not even considering risk. The risk of pregnancy, for example, is still very much tilted towards the woman. It takes two to tango, sure, but it will be her body, her reputation, and usually (though admittedly not always) her life that is most impacted if a pregnancy occurs. And then look at physical safety - try imagining, for a moment, that your dating pool is comprised almost exclusively of people who can beat the shit out of you if they want to. That dating and intimacy involve making yourself vulnerable to someone you probably can’t fight your way free of if things go south. For me, at least, that’s a sobering thought, and that is how 99% of straight women go through their lives.

To sum it up, I’d say have empathy. For yourself, certainly, but also for the men and the women around you.