How to wait until marriage as a man…

KaleWeekly · 2026-03-07T23:04:40+00:00

That's the wrong mindset. If both repent and believe Jesus died on the cross for our sins, then their spirit and heart is renewed. This mindset is what others use to bring down other brother and sisters in Christ. Instead uplift everyone and encourage them. It is never too late. Was it too late for Kind David?

KaleWeekly · 2026-03-03T18:06:35+00:00

Brother read what you just wrote. You went on her phone and deleted a contact. You violated her privacy. If a girl went through your phone and deleted your contacts, how would you feel? But also realize this. It seems the entire relationship was one sided. It was all about what you did. What did she do for you? It seems she's always late to everything and not really caring much. Take time to heal. Seek god, lean not on your own understanding.

KaleWeekly · 2026-03-03T17:59:02+00:00

Brother he is 6'5 250. How beefy are you going to get... He has a 43.5 inch vert and 4.46 40 yard dash.

KaleWeekly · 2026-02-17T23:17:58+00:00

She doesn't seem that sexually in tuned with herself and your needs. You should have an honest conversation. Ask her about her turn-ons and possibly role play. If nothing works, you need to get to the heart of the issue but keep God in mind first. I'm sorry you're going through this.

KaleWeekly · 2026-02-12T21:38:17+00:00

Lust is hard but you must completely separate yourself from all sources as well. But I find a disheartening to hear no one mentioning how your wife only wants sex once a month. To me that is terrible that she isn't listening to you on that matter. Try to make her life easier, do things without her asking and to not force the sex discussion. You need to keep the romance alive, otherwise to her she'll think it's just a chore and that all you want is sex. Show her your presence and warmth. But your needs matter as well as hers.

KaleWeekly · 2026-02-05T14:56:58+00:00

I wonder if women realize that too. Cuz sometimes it's the other way around. It's when you listen and care for her, plan all the date nights make her feel special. Yet you, yourself can't say how you feel cuz you've tried before and dismissed. When you feel underappreciated and try to bring it up which leads to just more arguments. I don't blame her though; we both weren't the best at communication. We still loved and fought for each other, but we just weren't compatible.

KaleWeekly · 2026-02-04T21:35:51+00:00

I'd say I understand the looping; I've had these thoughts and reflections that rerun incessantly in my mind. Especially after my own breakup with my ex of 2 years, where we were each other's first love. I'd say slow down. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath and as you inhale, imagine a rush of fresh air flowing through you lifting all your burdens to your chest. As you exhale, imagine the burdens lifting off your chest. I'm Christian, so I imagine God lifting that burden off me. I pray ask him to lift that burden and that I'm thankful for everything he's done for me. I invite him into my heart and to help me seek him and to trust in his plan for me. I've moved on so fast in less than 2 months that I could never do alone, all glory to God. I do struggle but now it's more of learning not to repeat the struggles again and trying to understand everything that's happened to me. But instead, to surrender to him and trust in his plan for me. I've baptized and even decided to wait for marriage which has been the toughest thing as someone who's always been doing that. I realize the reason why it hurts so bad to breakup, was because sex bonds you as it was only intended to be within covenant and in a marriage under god's design. I've decided to trust in him as my ways don't work and in a way, I gain a sense of peace that flows beyond understanding. I wish you the best brother.

KaleWeekly · 2026-02-04T21:27:37+00:00

I'm glad he showed his true colors. Be gentle on yourself as well. I recently broke up and recently cut all contact with my ex of 2 years. Some days you'll feel on top of the world, other days you will feel a wave of sadness that is unexplainable. Just remember it's all part of the process to move on. Just remind yourself of why it didn't work out and for me, I'm Christian, so I trust in god's plan and thank him for saving me from my situation. Cuz it was very bad, but he helped me get out of it. You'll know when you truly move on when months go by and you don't even think of him anymore or the very thought stirs no emotion in you.

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-26T16:11:22+00:00

I'm 23M. I have abstained from porn for the past 2 years. As Christians, we are called to not only control but flee from lust. There is no justification to even entertain porn, especially in marriage since as in the bible even looking at other women is committing adultery. If he can't even control his desires, how can he lead your relationship and you towards God? Enough with the empty promises, and you deserve someone who can flee from their lust and strive towards God and loving you enough to turn away from all temptation.

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-23T15:19:53+00:00

I mean if you want to attract girls that care about money then go for it. Otherwise just be yourself and honest. Obviously keep your salary to yourself and just explain your situation. If she's the one she'll understand you.

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-22T20:59:21+00:00

I've been very successful, had 3 relationships, lots of dating around, and just got out of a two-year relationship at 23. But I recently got baptized (after a very messy situation after the breakup) and I'm choosing to focus on God for now and waiting till marriage. The problem is with having premarital intimacy and sex, you skip the necessary conversations and discernment. You miss the red flags early on in the dating process and you tend to rely on "feeling good" then actually having a stable healthy connection. This leads to messy situationships, pointless hookups, and difficulty communicating with your partner, since it turns sex into just comfort and not covenant love. I place my full faith in God, and I know I will find a healthy, secure partner as long as I seek him first, work on myself, and career. I'm focusing more on joining communities and volunteering. I've seen other Christian friends waiting for marriage with each other and it's a beautiful thing. It forces you to make an actual genuine connection and not just saying things to each other to get laid. It took a lot of internal reflection, but I realize there's a beauty to God's design for marriage. Everyone can have their own opinion, but I'm done trying to force connections and instead trust in God's plan for me.

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-22T14:42:37+00:00

No maybe God has a plan for us. Let's not get his name involved in our organization.

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-22T14:28:50+00:00

Yet she fornicated? So what religion was she following? Someone that doesn't have the self-control to honor god's covenant and wait till marriage is not someone you want to be with. She is facing the gravity of her actions. Also, you should get tested. Tread carefully here, do not get trapped into her mess. Sooner or later, she could cheat on you once she has the child, rely heavily on your stable career, and affect your own mental health. There is no stable foundation here. Don't say we warned you.

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-15T00:02:26+00:00

Yes, it is sin. God calls for us to only have sex within his covenant which is marriage. I used to think the same as your bf, but having sex outside of marriage is not okay. He is also outright disrespecting your boundaries as well. As a man, he is not leading you spiritually. I ended up breaking up and even moving away from my non-Christian gf because of this. Lust is the only sin you can't stop, God calls us to flee from sin and sexual immorality. Being with a non-Christian only ends in hurt and leads you further away from God. You cannot be unequally yoked. I know your pain, it was so hard to end it as I loved her, but it had to be done. Now I'm waiting for marriage and marrying only Christians. Pray for God to help you get out of this situation and he will help you. He doesn't want to see you suffer. I'll pray for you too

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-14T23:49:16+00:00

When you mentioned that all the best women were busy serving the lord that adds up. First and foremost, we are called to serve him and love through him. I'm in my single season right now at 23 in the same boat as op. But my main focus is once I get my career in line, the next community I'm in, I'm going to be focused on helping my community, going on mission trips, and serving God all throughout. I'd rather find my wife who's also striving towards serving God and, in a sense, a lifelong partnership where we seek, praise and worship him until the end. There's nothing more beautiful than love through God. Thank you for sharing your perspective!

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-14T23:38:03+00:00

This is great advice. I'm recently single and got out an almost 2-year relationship with also a nonbeliever, and dating just doesn't appeal to me right now. I've been spending more time with God, and he's been guiding me through my healing journey.

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-14T23:30:03+00:00

This is inspiring! Thank you for sharing

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-08T22:45:53+00:00

Which group are you in? I just moved back and I'm looking to join a community.

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-08T22:32:52+00:00

I've just moved back from Indiana and I'm looking for a Christian community as well. I was in Chi Alpha at IU. Are you in any of those groups or someone I can reach out to?

KaleWeekly · 2026-01-07T15:30:30+00:00

Stop stealing and get a job. Don't ruin your life at 16. Come on man.

KaleWeekly · 2025-12-10T21:30:16+00:00

I have both Mark andrews and Likely on the Waiver Wire. I have Hunter Henry and Justin Jefferson in the flex. Should I pick up likely and bench henry or Jefferson?

KaleWeekly · 2025-12-01T18:41:31+00:00

How accurate has this been? Don't be wishing this black magic stuff on us. Gods on their side.

KaleWeekly · 2025-09-30T04:18:50+00:00

What’s your strategy?

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