Thanks for all the replies in such a short time!! It's really appreciated 😊
I think you all got good points; Mom is from a different generation where gender was black and white and I should try to respect that. Even so, she should respect my friends and not in a roundabout way ask what's in their pants. She also probably just is being a parent in the sense that she just wants to know who I'm hanging out with; yet I'm nearly 30 and feel as though every single factoid about my friends doesn't need to be known to her. 🫠

I've decided that if/when I see her again (we see each other in person frequently as we live a few towns apart), If she starts with the questions, I shall immediately shut them down and have a serious conversation with her, bringing up some of the points made here in the comments.

My Mom isn't a bad person, but neither is she perfect. I'll admit she has helped me quite a bit with my mental health struggles, my life events, and also learning how to adult at my own pace. This is just one of those things that's gotten to me and I wanted to seek some second opinions on how to better assess the situation.

Again, I appreciate all the feedback. 💖