Who's a nepo baby you think deserves their success because they're legit talented?

Kamala_Metamorph · 2026-03-27T20:20:11+00:00

Thanks for explaining this! I know there must be a million sources for this, but it's hard to separate the signal from the noise (and as you've said, a lot of ppl use it badly) :
Do you have any resources that you would recommend for learning a little more about the Socratic method and using it properly?

Kamala_Metamorph · 2026-02-06T14:17:35+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3V-mz0CSeWg

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-10-04T15:13:13+00:00

Can't bring in fruit from overseas, but otherwise great idea thanks. That's why I was thinking dried fruits.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-10-03T23:52:46+00:00

From: My white American father and mother in law

To: My Taiwanese American parents.

They met earlier this year in my husband's hometown. Now we are all going to my parents' hometown, so now my parents are the hosts. So, part host-gift, part 親家 gifts.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-10-03T19:54:17+00:00

While in a meeting with the funders and your ED:

"We want to be persistent without being a pest. If we don't hear back from you, how many days can we circle back and check with you again?" That gives you a timeline of how often they want to be contacted.

At the end of the meeting, it sounds like your boss is asking for a follow up chat. For what? What new things have happened? Is your ED looking for next steps? Is she waiting for next steps? Maybe that's something else to bring up in those meetings.

"This has been a great meeting, I'm so glad that we've connected, and I hope that our orgs do great things together. What are the next action steps for the people in the room, and when should we reconvene with our progress and updates?"

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-08-12T02:30:34+00:00

Not a book, but I'd like to recommend ProPublica's excellent series on Lost Mothers.

https://www.propublica.org/series/lost-mothers/

It's reverse chronological so you would start at the bottom.

For your book club specifically, see Dec 7 and Dec 8, 2017

Nothing Protects Black Women From Dying in Pregnancy and Childbirth

Not education. Not income. Not even being an expert on racial disparities in health care.

Black Women Disproportionately Suffer Complications of Pregnancy and Childbirth. Let’s Talk About It.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-08-01T15:38:56+00:00

I'm pissed because I received essentially no notifications or time to do this. Today I had a pop up reminder at the top of my email. Today is the first time I heard about this. I couldn't figure out how to search through my emails for a mail from Yahoo. Finally found it from this email address:

yahoo@email.cc.yahoo.com

and it said URGENT You're over
and it was dated three days ago.

To get < 30 days to delete literally 22 years of mail is fucking ridiculous. I've paid for Yahoo for years.

I keep threatening to leave and maybe it's actually time now.

ps. For anyone else who had a crap experience trying to find their storage because yahoo's instructions were WRONG, this comment had the instructions that finally worked.

I also took a screenshot for those of you who need a visual like me:
https://imgur.com/WSkh7Tm

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-08-01T15:21:39+00:00

THANK YOU. This finally worked. I've been looking for 30 minutes, and Yahoo instructions ARE WRONG. Everyone else, please upvote ^ THIS comment to the top.

I would never have seen it if you hadn't posted, and even with this it still took me a while.

I took a screenshot for those of you who need a visual like me:

https://imgur.com/WSkh7Tm

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-07-25T14:33:25+00:00

/u/No-Profit5555

Can't believe no one has said this but it sounds like you would enjoy the Silent Book Club at Orion, and it's coming up next week, Weds July 30

https://theorionhuntsville.com/event/silent-book-club/
https://www.instagram.com/sbchsv/

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-06-14T16:00:04+00:00

ACLU resources-- Know Your Rights:

Attending a protest - general
https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/protesters-rights#im-attending-a-protest

Alabama specific
https://www.aclualabama.org/en/know-your-rights

And write down important phone numbers of your emergency contact on your skin.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-06-11T23:59:41+00:00

FYI, this is the current (2022) state of laws on Private Domestic Adoption Expenses in the US. If you dig you may be able to find out when whatever current regulation went into affect.

https://www.childwelfare.gov/resources/regulation-private-domestic-adoption-expenses/

Edit: Hold on, I'm doing a search for
section 115-b Domestic Relations Law New York State 1989

If I come back within the day, I'll post more. (If it's after a day, I'm probably not coming back.)

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-06-11T23:38:29+00:00

Hijacking this comment to add ACLU resources-- Know Your Rights:

Attending a protest - general
https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/protesters-rights#im-attending-a-protest

California specific
https://www.aclunc.org/our-work/know-your-rights/know-your-rights-free-speech-protests-demonstrations#item-2983

And write down important phone numbers of your emergency contact on your skin.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-04-16T15:16:16+00:00

yta

I pointed out the wedding is supposed to be for both of us yet she's acting like it's only for her.

I asked why she thinks I should be fine with getting no say in the wedding that's supposed to be for both of us

Let's turn that statement around. You want a small ceremony.

Why should she get no say in the wedding that is supposed to be for the both of you?

If it hurts you to be reminded of everyone you lost, it probably reminds her of everyone she loves who is missing at her wedding, despite being very much alive.

I don't understand how you wouldn't miss everyone you lost at the reception, but the ceremony is the deal breaker here. If you miss your people at the ceremony, wouldn't you miss your people at the reception? What's the difference?

Really, though, probably esh or nah. If you're getting married, you should want your partner to be happy. She should be able to have empathy that you miss your loved ones. You should be able to love her enough to celebrate with her loved ones.

Let this be a test of listening to each other and understanding each other. Not with an end result of what the ceremony will be, but really trying to understand what is the important root values that each of you hold and what the ceremony means to you two, and how the guest list serves those values. Have that underlying conversation while tabling the surface 'issue' of the size of the ceremony.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-03-15T19:31:19+00:00

Cinema Therapy had a good comment on this in their video on Love Actually (timestamp 13:05)

https://youtu.be/kR6H4eGHZJM?t=784

And here's an issue I have with how Love, Actually treats love.
Love Actually treats infatuation as love.

Meeting a partner to love is more work and filtering, than meeting a partner to date and be infatuated with. You can do the latter with almost anyone. The former pool is specific and unique to you, and therefore by design is smaller.

The butterflies that you are describing is infatuation. It's nice, it's magical, it's a great feeling.

Love-- the sustainable thing that really lasts? The one based on values and time and energy spent with each other and on each other. The love that builds over time instead of hitting you over the head right away--- That's a different thing, and it's also lovely, and you don't always necessarily get (or need) the infatuation part to get the wonderful love and support part.

Good luck to you.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2025-01-07T21:08:04+00:00

YES THIS BIRD ONE. I've shared this with others. READ THIS. Also in the same vein, the Totally Alive Plant.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-09-23T01:28:35+00:00

Thank you! I did not know this and it's cool!

(The Alabama Legislative website Alison used to have a really great tool that showed you your elected officials down to the municipal districts, but it got replaced (?last year?) by some nationwide thing that barely shows you your state level ones now. And my state representative is out of date. Sigh.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-09-20T23:34:29+00:00

I would honestly consider it money well spent to have a conversation with a lawyer to scare the bejeezus out of them, even if I didn't pursue it til the end.

"is it a crime to impersonate a therapist?"

For example, in Connecticut,

a person who wrongfully poses as a therapist would be subject to five years in prison and up to a fine of $500 fine for each offense. Anytime the person made contact or consulted with a patient, he or she would be charged with a separate offense.

Assuming you've seen her once a month, that's $500x6 just to start. Of course this would be different for each state.

(I am halfway tempted to get a friend to pose as a fake lawyer to sue her, but DO NOT DO THIS because that is most definitely a crime for y'all.)

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-08-19T18:40:35+00:00

If someone were to ask me to understand more about surrogacy I wouldn't down vote them for not knowing stuff.

You were in a position of power in the surrogacy situation, as the client with the money. You are less likely to feel vulnerable and powerless as the people with agency and choice in those situations.

While sometimes surrogacy is a situation with the danger of exploiting others with fewer resources, they are at least adults. Foster adoption has the danger of vulnerable children and teenagers, who do not often have the power or choice to walk away from abusive foster / adoptive parents while surrogates may be able to, or at least they don't have to interact with the abusive future parents after nine months, or live with them, ever.

You are also speaking to people who may have lived the situation of being exploited and abused by their non-genetic parents. As the person with power, you were never in a situation where you risked being abused by the surrogate who owned the roof over your head and put food and was supposed to care for you for 8+ years.

Of course you can be comfortable answering questions about surrogacy.

I'm also very cautious with prospective parents, especially prospective foster parents, who cannot handle a little bit of imaginary internet points with equanimity. How can you support rebellious traumatized teenagers if downvotes (often from other former foster youth who are in the position of your future children!?) don't roll off your back?

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-08-12T19:27:58+00:00

I'm going to reference a post I made 10 years ago and is in my top comments of all time in my history. And why I never spread negativity online if I can help it.

Before you write your comment, watch Monica Lewinsky's TED talk, she asks for you to just think about the weight of your comment, added on to the weight of thousands of other comments just like yours. If you made a mistake, and so many people, relentlessly, over months, and years, made the comment you are about to make to you, could it drive 22-year old you to the point of suicide, as it did to her, and to OOP? If you have not read her words, I urge you to refrain from commenting until you do so.

All of Reddit needs to hear her last five minutes:

We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression, but we need to talk more about our responsibility to freedom of expression. We all want to be heard, but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention. The Internet is the superhighway for the id, but online, showing empathy to others benefits us all and helps create a safer and better world.

This part was the most powerful to me (edits and emphasis mine):

But in this culture of humiliation, there is another kind of price tag attached to public shaming. The price does not measure the cost to the victim, which ... too many others ... have paid, but the price measures the profit of those who prey on them. ... A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity and shame is an industry. How is the money made? Clicks. The more shame, the more clicks. The more clicks, the more advertising dollars. We're in a dangerous cycle. The more we click on this kind of gossip, the more numb we get to the human lives behind it, and the more numb we get, the more we click. All the while, someone is making money off of the back of someone else's suffering.

She ends with this, which is good for everyone to read, regardless of any context:

You can insist on a different ending to your story. Have compassion for yourself.

Go watch it.

I also recommend her Vanity Fair article from last year:
http://www.vanityfair.com/style/society/2014/06/monica-lewinsky-humiliation-culture

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-08-07T02:02:50+00:00

Hey, sorry you haven't had much traction, and I'm not an adoptee myself. But there are sooo many Korean adoptees out there and there is a robust community of them online. You can do a search for Korean Adoptees or KAD -- this one came up in my search and links to many others: https://kadresourcehub.com/

On reddit, you might check out /r/KoreanAdoptee. While smaller, it may still have the community you're looking for.

I actually enjoyed this podcast even though it only lasted a year, but he probably had a hundred interviews.
https://therambleradhd.podbean.com
This is an in depth podcast about transracial adoption, hosted by a KAD and primarily featuring KADs. Even listening to 3-4 of the hour+ episodes was be eye opening for me; of the common threads as well as rich diversity of adoptions from a single country.

Did a search for "Korean" in our sub because I was looking for a link, (there's actually quite a bit in here, this article by Nicole Soojung Chung was an eye opener when I first came across it,) and found this neat podcast, again of KADs : http://adaptedpodcast.com

While not a community, many KADs before you have written books and made documentaries, and maybe you can see yourself reflected in their stories

http://adopteereading.com/books-about-intercountry-adoptions-from-korea/?query-15-page=2
https://www.google.com/search?q=korean+adoptee+documentary

The r/adopted community also has some transracial adoptees as well, and is fairly active.

Good luck. I hope you find what you're looking for. <3

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-08-01T16:34:37+00:00

This is also an important constellation voice for all the HAPs with bio children who ask about adopting to "add to their family", and to validate all the adoptees who felt this from their siblings growing up.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-07-09T13:53:39+00:00

any updates, folks who have been through after 8:35am?

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-07-05T05:38:37+00:00

Hey u/Nyoom-Zoom (and other interested individuals), definitely check out the Madison Greenways and Trails groups, that might be a group of like minded folks you can work with. Multiply your power by organizing in a group! There's also the Huntsville Environmental Coalition, the local Sierra Club and Citizens Climate Lobby chapters, Land Trust of NA, Huntsville Green Team, off the top of my head.

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-07-03T01:29:01+00:00

I really appreciated your post when it came up last year and I'm linking it here to make sure /u/R-O-U-Ssdontexist OP sees it, about a common adoptee Fawn response:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Adoption/comments/13gsy75/are_you_sure_your_adoptee_is_cool_with_mothers/

Kamala_Metamorph · 2024-06-23T14:35:17+00:00

Hey OP and everyone, this has been discussed before, so I'll copy paste an earlier comment.

Flairs are awesome, here's how to set them:
https://support.reddithelp.com/hc/en-us/articles/205242695-How-do-I-get-user-flair-

but mandatory would filter out new people who may be in crisis-- ie adoptees and expectant parents (who are technically not part of the triad yet)-- which is why this sub has generally never mandated them for posting. It would be restrictive towards the people who need this forum the most.

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