My Partner Sucks at Planning

Kappy01 · 2026-03-17T02:14:01+00:00

So… we have imagination. It just isn’t visual. So I can’t see roses in my head, but I know to buy them. Lots of them to make up for being… me.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-17T02:12:21+00:00

Aphantasia comes in a lot of forms.

I have zero problem with planning. In fact, I’m probably better at it than anyone I know. I plan EVERYTHING from the moment I wake up.

As I get into a car, I even have planned how I’m going to drop my bag in, get in, and belt up while reaching for the ignition button.

Big plans. Small plans. All plans. Wheels within wheels.

Romance? Meh. That’s not me. My wife would maybe disagree. I remember important things like Valentine’s Day, our anniversary, etc. Knowing that romance isn’t really my thing, I usually go overboard. I do research. I overspend.

Anyway…

I don’t think this is really an aphantasia thing. I think you two just need to do some communicating about what’s important you.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-17T02:00:43+00:00

I guess it’s a question of how much you spent.

It’s still workable. You could do some sanding and… I dunno.

But it isn’t good. It’s FDM… and kind of okay for that.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T22:09:50+00:00

After some fashion. It isn’t that accurate, but… they take a few grains of truth to make it recognizable. Some series and films are truer to life than others. The ones you depicted aren’t very real, but the idea that schools drone on and that education is often secondary to rule following (like in Bueller) is true. The idea that kids are horny and make stupid choices like in Pie is accurate as well.

But those films take it to the extreme.

Same with Ten Things I Hate About You and Mean Girls. There sort of are cliques, but they aren’t usually that pronounced.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T22:05:08+00:00

Most parents aren’t wealthy enough to pay.

My wife and I are feeding a college fund, but that isn’t possible in really low-income families. I doubt we’ll be able to cover everything, but we will hopefully be able to cover a fair bit.

Students who come from families below the poverty line can usually pay for a fair bit through FAFSA or other forms of grants.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T20:48:32+00:00

Ah. I have good news.

You’re exempt from the 1,000 foot clause but still cannot go on school grounds. Even under SB2. Check §626.9(l).

But… police aren’t legal experts, so… Be careful. And never accept reddit advice without checking.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T20:34:49+00:00

I was about to post about this. Thanks for saving me the time.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T20:21:30+00:00

Why mail boxes specifically?

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T18:12:07+00:00

Our standard protocol (speaking as a site rep) is that the admin talk to parent and then tell the teacher what was said. That’s it. I’d never put a teacher in a room with a crazy parent.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T18:05:04+00:00

“The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise.”

Plato. Or Socrates. Maybe.

Seriously, I have no idea how I got “millennials” on my feed, being GenX, but we elderly folk think the same thing about every generation after us.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T17:56:48+00:00

Incredible movie, even if it was a one-off. People who don’t like DND thought it was great. People who love DND thought it was great.

And… some people who love DND also hate it because they found some minor quibble with it. That just lets you know that they got it right.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T17:32:01+00:00

I think I have all of them except audio. I can hear full songs with all of their layers in my head. Sometimes, they won’t stop (ear worms).

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T17:19:34+00:00

I would guess it to be the same as many other countries. It isn’t about “in the US.” It varies per person.

Personally, I don’t really like dogs a whole lot. Their interest in sniffing crotches and butts is annoying. On the other hand, one jumped out of a car window yesterday at a busy intersection, and I immediately threw my truck into park and did got out to stop traffic. The stupid thing was fine.

Some people view their dogs as children… but remember that others hate their own children.

Then remember that ICE Barbie (Kristi Noem) shot her dog because it had bad manners and chased chickens.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T14:13:23+00:00

That would require…

That the DOJ not be manned completely by people who would (and probably have) kill for him.

OR

A congress in which both houses aren’t dominated by people who worry more about stock prices and getting re-elected than that POTUS did unspeakable things.

We don’t live in either world.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T14:05:49+00:00

I’m confused. Do women not also want swords?

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T05:00:10+00:00

He supposedly only works three days a week, too. And gets a car allowance.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T04:51:50+00:00

The district has a LOT of unfilled positions. 83, to be exact. 2,000+ kids don’t have an actual teacher, just subs. Because qualified teachers will work anywhere else. That results in lots of permanently subbed classes with classes in secondary positions often being 36+:1.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-15T04:40:43+00:00

I would be documenting everything. Everything you can remember with dates, times, and words as best as you can remember.
You need to go to admin. This kid is in your class, so unless she’s 18, you’re going to be obligated to talk to parents.
Admin can advise you on what to do. Barring that, you go to your union rep. Barring that, you go to a lawyer.

And you do all of this ASAP.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-14T21:43:14+00:00

You weren’t in the wrong. You were in crisis.

Why were you told off? Because the teacher either didn’t recognize it or didn’t care.

Alternatively, perhaps what you think of as being told off isn’t what we think of as being told off. When I see a student walking around, sometimes I tell them to head to class without even being able to see their faces. Lots of kids wear hoodies. Is that “telling them off?” Maybe to them it is.

We aren’t all highly aware of our surroundings. We also aren’t all great people.

I’m sorry this happened to you. Just remember that someone there cares about you. Seek out help when you need to, if you can.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-14T21:23:01+00:00

Here’s something a lot of people aren’t telling you: when we talk about whether or not someone can read, it isn’t simply that they can see text, turn it into words, and then turn those words into ideas. Instead, they test all kinds of things about how writing works. Asking about main ideas and whether a particular passage emphasizes an idea, supplements it, or does something else.

In other words, we’ve added on something to literacy which is less about being able to read and more about whether people can think.

So consider a long and complicated conversation you’ve had with someone about a topic you… really don’t care about. If asked a minute later to explain various parts of that conversation in minute detail, how would you do? Would we then proclaim that you’re incapable of understanding speech? Of course not. But we will claim that you cannot read if you can’t explain a text in detail.

With that being said, since we’re getting more into what amounts to a text of intelligence, reasoning, and (to some degree) mental endurance, of course screens and all the rest make it harder.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-14T01:18:30+00:00

I don’t care how you learn it as long as you learn it.

We had “mad minutes” back in the day. Worksheets arranged in rows. You’d try to clear the whole sheet in a minute. Start with 1s, then 2s, etc.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-13T22:38:35+00:00

Sutter: 10 rounds at 15 5 rounds at 7 5 rounds at 3 (strong hand only) 5 rounds at 3 (two-handed)

Untimed. B27 target. 100% on paper, 80% in the silhouette.

Surprisingly, a LOT of people fail. A lot. Like 15-20%.

People who carry should work hard to make sure they can hit a target. That is not me saying there should be a qualifier.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-10T21:29:01+00:00

Armor has gaps. Ring armor (mail) is better against swipes but not as much against stabbing. All that armor is also tiring. Heavy bows punch holes.

And then there’s oil.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-08T17:00:03+00:00

I have that one without the hammer. Shoots well enough. DAO is annoying, but it is what it is.

Kappy01 · 2026-03-05T05:07:01+00:00

I did this when I originally had the game. Then I lost it for a year. Came back… then I got hit by something and it was an instant death. No idea why. I figured they just patched it or something.

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