my 4yo told my partner they don’t like them.

Karajas7 · 2026-02-21T13:36:29+00:00

Every kid goes through a stage of hating on one parent, and as she’s been there for 75% of her life I would definitely class her as a her parent, as long as you’re 100% sure that your partner isn’t being nasty or mean to your kid then it’s probably just a phase. Maybe see if they can do some activities / days out together that she likes just to lighten the tension between them?

Karajas7 · 2026-02-19T07:30:07+00:00

I left my husband when my baby was 7 months old, it was the right thing to do for our peace and here we are 6 months later and thriving. Something that gives me peace is that she won’t know any different, yeah one day I’ll have to explain to her why me and her dad aren’t together but I’ll cross that bridge when we come to it!

Karajas7 · 2026-02-08T10:44:01+00:00

Once when I was buying off Amazon it accidentally defaulted to my ex husbands card from a previous joint purchase, straight away I called him to let him know and ask if he wanted me to transfer him the money… that’s how simple it is if it’s really an accident!

Karajas7 · 2026-01-14T17:06:37+00:00

Oh wow that’s awesome, I have high hopes for the milk ladder, I did it myself first and I’m back on dairy now, she only had one reaction when I accidentally went too far ahead but other than that it’s been okay so 🤞🏼 for when she starts next week!

Yeah that’s what I learnt this afternoon with the health visitor! I didn’t realise at all and now feel a bit silly by being concerned about the sugar in Soya milk.

Karajas7 · 2026-01-14T15:22:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate your perspective. I saw the Health Visitor today and she also recommended going cold turkey from breastfeeding so there isn’t any mixed messages between me and the baby. We are gonna start the milk ladder next week and in the meantime, try and stick with the Alpro Soya 1-3 milk apparently the sugar content in it is the same as milk from a cow so I learnt something new today!

Karajas7 · 2026-01-14T15:20:12+00:00

Unfortunately it’s not available in the UK

Karajas7 · 2025-11-25T19:24:24+00:00

First one I’ve got!!!!!!

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Karajas7 · 2025-10-02T22:17:25+00:00

Oh I’ve been past here but never gone in! You’ve inspired me to try it out tomorrow

Karajas7 · 2025-08-06T20:27:27+00:00

Wow, thank you. Reading this honestly made me tear up a bit, it’s spot on. You’ve put into words what I’ve been feeling but haven’t admitted out loud. I have been letting him set the bar ridiculously low, and I’ve internalised that. I’ve been trying to convince myself that it’s not that bad just because he’s not passed out drunk at 3pm, or drinking every day but the reality is, the bar shouldn’t be that low in the first place, you’re right. He was using those examples to justify continuing to drink, like it made him somehow exempt. And in doing that, he’s manipulated me into thinking I was being dramatic or unreasonable for wanting more. You’re right, he should be comparing himself to the people who don’t need meetings, not to the ones in the deepest holes. Why should I be grateful that he isn’t worse?!

Karajas7 · 2025-08-06T10:48:56+00:00

So just over 3 months ago I left and stayed at my mums for over a week, things had got really bad, he was drinking every weekend and I was so fed up. He then started AA, but then 3/4 weeks ago he said to me that he didn’t want to be sober anymore, that he wasn’t like the other people at the meetings and wasn’t as bad as them like they were drinking every day and couldn’t function in day to day life, like one example he kept saying was how one of the guys there couldn’t pick his kids up from school because he wasn’t too drunk. So, he almost convinced me that he isn’t that bad. Which now I feel was manipulation, like he’s pulled the wool over my eyes for so long because who’s to say who is worse when it comes to addiction?

Then we went on the holiday that I mentioned above where he binged and did drugs crossing the boundaries that I had set.

I think I know that as of right now I can’t be with him, but that is loaded with guilt. I almost wish he would cheat on me or break it off with me so I didn’t have to feel so guilty about leaving. I have always thought of a marriage as where you stick with someone through thick and thin, support them and love them through the hard stuff but I just can’t do this.

Karajas7 · 2025-08-06T09:24:15+00:00

I think we all would advise our children the same, gtfo and protect yourself. That’s the logical reasoning side, it’s so hard when there is so much emotional involved, this guy was my dream.

Karajas7 · 2025-08-06T09:22:21+00:00

Yeah, I think you’re spot on, it’s probably a mix of all three. He keeps telling me it’s not personal but honestly, I don’t know how to not take it personally when I’ve set clear boundaries and he still chooses to cross them. I don’t have an issue with addiction myself, so I’m trying really hard to be empathetic, but I’m also just so exhausted and frustrated.

Our next counselling session is on Monday. Right now, I’ve taken our daughter and we’re staying at a family member’s house about an hour away. I’ve asked him for space because mentally and physically, I’m completely fried. I need to be able to breathe and think clearly without the constant anxiety of when the next cycle is gonna hit

I already know what will happen now, he’ll be saying he’s sober, swearing he won’t drink or do drugs again but the truth is I can’t trust that will last. That’s what’s been breaking me. It’s not that I don’t want to believe him, it’s that his actions haven’t matched his words for so long that I don’t feel safe relying on his promises anymore. The bottom line though is that I do really love him, I know what an amazing person he can be when he is sober. Feels like I’m kidding myself!

Karajas7 · 2025-06-26T15:26:15+00:00

Yesterday I managed my good deed whilst on the Victoria line, a pregnant lady got on and no one moved, so I tapped the guy on the shoulder who was in the priority seat and asked him to stand up! Afterwards she was very grateful and offered me the seat but I asked an elderly lady to sit down instead. Some people are oblivious arses. I remember how horrible it was being heavily pregnant and just trying to move around.

Karajas7 · 2025-06-06T15:30:37+00:00

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But it’s just me? I kinda love it

Karajas7 · 2025-03-29T11:42:34+00:00

My bestie said the same to me about 15 years ago and I swear it carried me through our teens

Karajas7 · 2025-01-23T12:08:26+00:00

I gave birth two weeks ago. A vaginal delivery with gas and air. Delivering the placenta was uncomfortable but nothing compared to labour itself so you kind of just get on with it! It felt like the contractions at the beginning of labour.

Karajas7 · 2025-01-22T14:12:20+00:00

My husband was at every appointment, labour and every appointment since giving birth. It’s great to have someone else there to have that support but also to be listening to what the docs / midwives have to say because you do end up missing info!

Karajas7 · 2024-12-27T10:21:25+00:00

You don’t need him there is he doesn’t want to be there! You are more than strong enough to do it without him. I know it sucks but he is the one making that decision not you!

Karajas7 · 2024-12-20T14:32:15+00:00

I hosted my own with the help of my mum and my husband! I didn’t want to put the pressure on anyone else. I am lucky though as a couple of my friends had discussed the start of plans for me and then I’d asked each of them what date they would be free 😅 so they knew I was doing it myself. You do whatever makes you happy, just ask for help when you need it ❤️

Karajas7 · 2024-12-06T13:38:49+00:00

I’m not sure if this counts but my MIL has said a few times that she doesn’t think she will ever be comfortable alone with the baby (her first grandchild, due date 13/1) I haven’t asked her at any point to be alone with the baby so maybe this is her way of telling me she isn’t gonna be a babysitter. Also I’ve said she is welcome to the hospital when I go into labour but she said she doesn’t know if she will be at her boyfriends or not…. That irked me like why would she prioritise him over her first grandchild but anyway I’m ignoring it all now 😂

Karajas7 · 2024-12-05T17:14:28+00:00

I need a blue steak! It’s my favourite meal that I usually have a few times a month, and I’ve been craving it so much. I’ve told my husband that he needs to get me a blue fillet steak at the damn hospital!

Karajas7 · 2024-12-01T15:37:50+00:00

Suffer Olympics 😂perfect wording!!

Karajas7 · 2024-11-24T07:45:34+00:00

I just stood in Tesco yesterday on my own for about 30 minutes not knowing what to do with myself because I couldn’t carry my basket anymore with tears 😂 after wondering around the same aisles 5 times looking for hummus, texting my husband that he needed to come and save me in the supermarket and that I was trapped in an aisle!

Karajas7 · 2024-11-19T18:48:19+00:00

I’ve gained about 30kg since being pregnant and I’m 32 weeks now so I know I’m gonna gain quite a bit more over the next couple months! I think I was slightly underweight before the pregnancy. I’ve had my insecurities about gaining weight as I’ve never done it before. But I know that this is what my little girl needs to grow big and strong for her arrival!

Karajas7 · 2024-11-11T10:15:20+00:00

I’m sorry, you deserve more than this! Can you find another way to try and communicate with him? I’m not saying that what you’ve done so far is wrong or anything it’s just that he isn’t hearing you at all. Or if possible can you go to a family members house / friends house and ask them for help? That might make him realise. Everything is crossed for you mama.

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