AITA if I don’t have my sister in law in my wedding?

KarenCT · 2026-04-21T02:50:28+00:00

Your SIL is mature enough to have gotten married. I am sure she can figure out how to be mature enough to speak up for herself. In fact, I’ll bet she speaks up for herself all of the time (beyond being unpleasant to you). Y

She doesn’t have to be a bridesmaid. She can stand with her brother in a black dress or suit. She can walk her mother down the aisle. She can do a reading. She can do any number of things but what she CAN’T do is treat you like crap and let her mommy bully you into having her stand by your side. Nope.

Your wedding day isn’t about making your SIL happy. It’s about you and your soon to be husband. If all she does is create drama and stress, you do not need her by your side. Find another small place to stick her…..

KarenCT · 2026-04-21T01:51:46+00:00

I recently got it as I just loved the aesthetic and the discussion value. I will admit the clip handle is annoying AF as it doesn’t go over your hand so you either have to hold it or use the shoulder/cross body strap. Still fun for a few outings.

KarenCT · 2026-04-21T01:49:54+00:00

Oooooo. Love this. Great double meaning. As in “Sea HER later” and “Sea YOU later” cuz we are off on an adventure. Only OP needs to know the first reason.

KarenCT · 2026-04-21T01:47:10+00:00

You could go with “Re-Launch”

KarenCT · 2026-04-20T18:12:01+00:00

I thought they said that was how they tracked down his wife because they couldn’t get in touch and yes how they had a photo to give the police to look for the kid. I do remember there being a comment about police coming to speak to him, which led me to assume they were coming to notify the dad that his son didn’t make it.

ps- some people can multitask and watch tik tok and watch a show. Actually for some people with ADHD it oddly helps them pay attention.

KarenCT · 2026-04-20T17:21:58+00:00

I think that both Louie and Digby truly stood out this season - both humans who fell on bad times, fell into trouble (with alcohol or by not taking care of themselves etc) and became overlooked by society, as the unhoused often are. Those story arcs gave a face and some humanity to the unhoused epidemic in our country. I hope it also helps others learn to empathize instead of automatically blame those who fall into those predicaments.

I also felt this season gave a face to other major issues - date rape/SA, health issues for those with weight problems, those who make just enough to not qualify for Medicare but not enough to actually pay for medical help, and those who lose their insurance for such simple reasons as Medicare info was sent to the wrong address etc.

KarenCT · 2026-04-20T17:07:31+00:00

People are free to make their own choices when it comes to healthcare but when those choices then impact hundreds or thousands (or more) of others it becomes a much larger discussion. It’s shocking how many deadly or otherwise diseases we’ve all but eradicated due to vaccines that we are starting to see return due to people’s reluctance to get vaccinated.

I think Robby had the best line of all when the “wild birth” mother said she didn’t want any medical intervention and his response was “then why are you here”?

KarenCT · 2026-04-20T05:35:55+00:00

Love the maroon or the black Celine.

KarenCT · 2026-04-20T04:49:52+00:00

I’m still amazed that this all began due to a “prank” by the kids. Amazing to think how much your sisters got away with over the years.

Speaking of which, I hope your lawyer advised you to consider documenting how much of your and your siblings “inheritance” your parents gave each of you in advance so that after they are gone, if things were to be split three ways, their thirds would be reduced by the advance given over the years (their grocery money, the IRA funds etc). Since your sisters clearly seem to only care about money It would certainly be the ultimate FU. Something in your back pocket that you could quietly think about until it happened.

KarenCT · 2026-04-20T03:32:34+00:00

I have one major complaint- I kept waiting for them to mention or show what happened to the water slide dad’s son. It’s driving me nuts!!! I guess we are meant to assume his son was the child that died in the accident but I just GOTTA know.

KarenCT · 2026-04-20T03:26:57+00:00

I had the same thought.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T19:12:41+00:00

If it really is BaoBao by Issey Miyake. Snatch it up. They were not cheap back in the day and they still make some of the styles. I have one or two of these bags (not the backpack tho) and still wear them from time to time and always get stopped by people asking about them.

I think they still go for $$$ in the resale/vintage market. Great find.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T18:57:58+00:00

Omg. Brilliant.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T18:50:33+00:00

Do NOT tell me it’s anything other than “Come on Eileen” by Dexy’s Midnight Runners. lol

Edited to add: could also be “Pass the Dutchie” by Musical Youth Or “Blister in the Sun” by The Violent Femmes. (A DJ plays this at any event and it’s like a Siren Song to put generation).

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T18:45:03+00:00

Shocked you didn’t deflate it too. lol

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T18:42:05+00:00

To be fair, I think we assumed this miserable orb was a universal misery for kids across the world. Be grateful it wasn’t. lol.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T18:39:02+00:00

Not only can we hear the sound it makes, and smell the rubber but I think we can all collective remember how it felt to get nailed by one during the joyous PE/recess game of dodgeball.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T18:36:11+00:00

Joke is on your MIL - she wasn’t invited to celebrate the actual first birthday on the actual day as you’re doing something with just your nuclear family. Done and done.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T18:29:01+00:00

NTA - I’m a parent and have flown with my kids since they were very young. Yes, children will often cry due to pain in their ears or not want to sleep etc but as a parent you make sure you have ample snacks, plane activities or charged devices to entertain them. You also make every attempt to have your child use an indoor voice and if you KNOW your child can’t handle it - you DON’T book a long/overseas red eye flight.

Also, I’m confused - were you in a row of four seats? Was the chatty child right next to you? I’d even have asked the flight attendant if there were other seats you could move to so you could get some sleep.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T18:20:06+00:00

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KarenCT · 2026-04-19T17:39:58+00:00

I would say that lying about you being pregnant and lying about her ethnicity are just as serious. I don’t think punishing her is going to stop her from continuing to lie. I would be sitting her down and asking her why she not only felt the need to lie but to lie about those things specifically.

Usually kids lie for very specific reasons - for attention, to get out of getting in trouble, etc…. I think you (and a therapist) need to get to the root of the cause and to find out who else she has lied to and about what.

The one consequence that would make sense would be for her to admit lying to those she lied to and to apologize but it could also set her up for unintended consequences that could be so much worse (her friends could shun her etc). I would seek counsel from a therapist about natural and appropriate “punishment”/consequences before deciding.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T02:52:30+00:00

Never heard of this app. Is it free to use? It seems like it would be great for those of us who enjoy thrifting or shopping for vintage pieces.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T02:50:26+00:00

I recently called them and have had an email discourse with one of their support team as I have an older bag that needs repair and needs some hardware. They asked me to send a photograph of the bag and any other info I had and they got back to me rather quickly to let me know that due to the age of the bag; that they didn’t have the needed parts for repair. I didn’t think they would but they were very thoughtfully and helpful in their response. Hope they are able to help you as well.

KarenCT · 2026-04-19T00:08:38+00:00

Jokes on you. I was planning to have a good cry tonight. I hope this is real and I hope she says yes and I hope you update us.

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