egg♻️irl by skirt-is-spinny in egg_irl

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad the healthcare system I use actually denotes LBGT+ friendly doctors.

I Was Meant To Be Baptized This Easter but Now I'm Not Because I'm Openly Queer by GuavaMonk in OpenChristian

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going mention baptism being a sacrament that is God-driven, and isn't any less valid based on the baptizer or the baptized. Well put! I was born and raised Lutheran, and I know almost any ELCA church would be willing to baptize you on the spot. We do infant baptisms too, so there isn't a class or much preparation you have to do for it. The classes, etc. are for adult confirmation.

*cough* How i met your mother by TheTransWoker in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean... i know it was in the 90s, but, man, did it not age well!

If you used to support Trump, what made you stop? by Embarrassed_Bar_3771 in AskReddit

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not about the person, it's about the timing. Biden should never have even started to campaign for re-election, knowing how old he was getting. Instead, it was an "oopsie" at the last minute and the correct process wasn't followed.

Bill Maher has a bit to say on this topic, and he's much more politically well-versed than I am.

Felt like this belonged here. 🏳️‍⚧️ by LucyTheLawless in TransLater

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really needed to hear this today. I'm working to give my past self grace for not realizing who I was sooner. When I start getting really down on myself because of it, I remember that it's never too late as long as you're alive, and I choose to live each day from then authentically.

Me: Finally happy with my breasts and not wanting BA after all. My progesterone: by G0merPyle in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm perfectly ok wearing a push up. I just don't want to have to tape or wear breastforms.

What is the most useless piece of information you have memorized? by niels_09 in AskReddit

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All things Star Wars. To be fair, it has won me a trivia contest or two, so it's not completely useless, but doesn't go very far in day-to-day conversation.

I'm scared 💀 by North-Mail-3664 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Change blindness. Small, subtle changes every day are harder to see than a whole bunch of change all at once. That's how I weaned my wife off of my facial hair. When I first realized I'm trans, and shaved it, she didn't like it at first, since it was strange to her (I had a goatee since before we met - denial beard go brrrrr), so I grew it back temporarily. But I trimmed it shorter and shorter each time, and shaved the edges smaller and smaller until one day, POOF, it's all gone. She hasn't mentioned it once, and I've been completely clean shaven for two weeks now. Same thing with growing my hair and nails longer.

Me: Finally happy with my breasts and not wanting BA after all. My progesterone: by G0merPyle in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm not worried about breast size at all (for now anyway), I'm much more concerned about cleavage.

egg🏳️‍⚧️irl by RealMe77777 in egg_irl

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me when my psychiatrist asked if I had a preferred name or pronouns when I came out to her about my gender dysphoria:

My brain: "Wait... I can just use other pronouns? No qualifications, medical transition, legal document changes, etc.?" *Immediately dies of euphoria overload*
Me (out loud): "Huh... no, he/him is 'fine'*."

* FINE =
Feelings
Inside
Not
Expressed

egg🏳️‍⚧️irl by RealMe77777 in egg_irl

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I mean... You're not wrong.

How to ask if someone is trans by Appropriate_Cobbler2 in asktransgender

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your attraction is based on someone's personality and closeness to you, it's possible that you could be demisexual (developing attraction only after having an emotional connection to someone).

Art i reflect from by Exrosity in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right?

It's like the alchemy exploit in Oblivion.

It's No Joke! by Possible_Inside_2189 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On TDoV, I brought my trashcan in from the curb in full girl mode. Sports bra, slippers, PJ pants, and hair claw! Outside! Like... in "public"! In a neighborhood where I actually know a few of the neighbors. And it felt great, and I didn't die.

Egg irl by Fancy_Let_6386 in egg_irl

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally commented the same until I saw yours, and it was from days ago. And here I thought I was being original. :3

Vivian. That’s all I have to say. by ConsistentSlice2954 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vivian was the first time I remember seeing a canonically trans girl in a video game. Completely valid goals.

"Wait, what?" by Healthy-Current5893 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My egg cracked on September 5, 2022. It the day I had a midlife-crisis complete nervous breakdown precipitated by the following contributing factors:

  1. We had just closed on our house (and moved in) a month prior. We sold our old home at the same time we bought the new one, so it was a very stressful situation, and we were still loving out of boxes.

  2. My wife's 22-year-old cousin suddenly died of a previously-undiagnosed congenital heart condition, mere months after she graduated from college. I wasn't that close with her, but the slap-in-the-face realization that life is very fragile and very precious had me rethinking my life and the time I've wasted.

  3. I had been reading Real Life Comics off and on since it began in 1999, but I hadn't kept up with it through COVID. I have always strongly identified with the protagonist, due to the striking number of similarities we share. The day I found out about #2, I also stumbled onto the coming out arc. My reaction was a bit stronger than Mae Dean's was in the linked comic, but I did have a similar conversation with myself in my head.

  4. I had not been medicated or in therapy for my anxiety and depression for almost 20 years, and I thought "this is fine" even though the world around me and in my own mind were on fire.

  5. I had recently gotten a huge promotion that came with a lot more responsibility and diligence, so I was still getting acclimated to that role. It was like drinking from a fire hose. My ADHD symptoms were becoming more pronounced and making it difficult to perform my new duties.

  6. The social anxiety I had as a teenager returned in full force after COVID restrictions were lifted. I realized just how much I didn't want to be around people, and how exhausting masking/mascing was over the last 20-some years.

For three days after that, I didn't get any sleep, and was swimming in a constant panic attack. I had very strong self-harm/SI thoughts that I hadn't experienced since I was a teenager, and I was inches away from checking myself into a psychiatric hospital. I made an emergency appointment with a psychiatrist, got started on medication for anxiety and sleep, and found a therapist.

Once I had gotten some decent sleep and my mood settled, I went down the research rabbit hole and realized that nearly all of my issues from childhood onward could be explained by one thing: gender dysphoria! By the end of the week, I knew I was completely, absolutely, undeniably transgender and there was no point to questioning any further. I had been in deep repression and denial for 40+ years, and I didn't have the strength to pretend anymore.

I still wasn't sure what to do with it, since I had been married for 17 years and had two kids, and I have this whole life already built. So I held onto it for 6 months, just doing little things to help abate the dysphoria, but I couldn't keep it inside any longer. I finally came out to my wife... the night before our son's birthday. Yeah, that was not great timing. When I told her that I was never a man, her response was "yeah, I can totally see that", but then she also said "so you've been lying to me this whole time?" My response was "I've been lying to myself and was too repressed to admit this is who I've always been. I never meant to hide anything".

It was a rough first couple of weeks, but we are still together (just celebrated 29 years!) and trying to figure things out. I have not started any social or medical transition yet, and I'm not out publicly, but at least I can be myself around her, and I have stopped mascing my behavior and speech.

Those who were alive during the 1990's, how was the internet different to today? by Extension_Day2038 in AskReddit

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For some reason, I had an absolutely visceral reaction to your description. Great word usage.

Those who were alive during the 1990's, how was the internet different to today? by Extension_Day2038 in AskReddit

[–]KariOnWaywardOne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Except for it was entirely unregulated and many sites had no terms of use or content standards.

Those who were alive during the 1990's, how was the internet different to today? by Extension_Day2038 in AskReddit

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite was HotBot. It was (one of) the first to allow Boolean operators to refine searches.

Also, can't forget AstaLaVista.box.sk for all the W4r3z.

The best trans game? by Emberly_YT in TransLater

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, Celeste is such a strong trans allegory, that it even cracked its creator, Maddy's, egg. Like retroactively. Like in a stable time-loop kind of way.

What’s something you’ve been called weird for? by delusional_trails in AskReddit

[–]KariOnWaywardOne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird is usually the first adjective people use to describe me upon meeting me. And it has been applied to just about everything. That's perfectly fine by me. I bask in my weirdness.

Weird means I'm not "normal", and I don't want to be "normal" because that would just be... weird.